mermerry Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 It is weird that I'm posting such a dilemma online. I've been in a 'serious relationship'(that's what he told me) with this guy for about a month now, And yesterday marked the first month of us going into this relationship. However, 4 days ago, I was waiting for him to text me as that's what he will do if I didn't text him first. I thought he might be busy so i waited till late night and yet there were no text from him. The whole saga is just too strange, things were going fine, and we even planned to go on a trip this coming weekend. A little background about him, he's 3 years younger than me and is serving the military service currently, which is mandatory by law in my country. He also mentioned 2 days before he went out of contact; that his grandmother is in the hospital. I was thinking that this may be the reason why he didn't contact me over the weekend, but even if he wanted to take things alone for now and just have his own space, he should have at least dropped me a text and tell me he's going to be busy or occupied for the next few days. A relationship is all about communication, right? I consulted a few people and also checked out on posts similar to my situation online, and it either ended up with people saying this behavior is a case of overreaction or simply just break-up(the silent break-up). I texted him yesterday asking him if everything is alright, but he did not respond at all. I've never been into a serious relationship before and this feeling totally suck because i'd precisely told him in the first place(before we got together), that i do not like men who just go silent for no reason. It's not that hard to send/or reply a text to let me know he's alright,right? Or does he want to just break-up? It drives me nuts just wondering why.
Tryinagain Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Mermerry I'm sorry you are going through this! I'm dealing with the same thing. Been in a relationship for four months. Talking, texting and seeing each other as much as possible. Now the silent game. She replies occasionally when I text but very short. Advice I tool from people replying to my thread said for me to back off and wait. So that's what I'm doing and it is driving me nuts. I haven't heard from her in two days. In your situation maybe it is his family member that he is concerned with right now. Knowing about this I would say just give him some time to deal with it and try to contact him again. Me I'm going to wait a couple of more days then call her. I just want an answer. I can deal with a goodbye but not the silent treatment.
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