Lissdelco Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I am young, 20 years old, but I feel like every time I am in a relationship I find a reason to get out when I see it is starting to get serious. From the time I was 12 (i know youll think "oh thats too young to be anything serious") until i was 16 I dated the same guy. Once I knew how much I loved him I got out. When I was 17 I dated someone for two years and I loved him and I knew I did and I found a reason to end the relationship. The relationship was not a healthy one anyway but I knew it was something we could have worked out, but instead I fled. Now I am in a relationship that I have been in for a year and my boyfriend is 22. We're not stupid young kids who think they're in love. We have been around the block once or twice and we have experienced a lot. I know I love him with my whole heart, but I have been questioning the relationship and now I can not tell if it is because I am scared or if maybe this relationship is not what I want. I know maybe no one on here can help me and it is something I need to figure out on my own, but I'm struggling. I cant seem to talk about this with my family because they all think he is the greatest guy. And you know what they could be right. My father loves him and thats not easy considering my dad always has something bad to say, my older sister likes him and she is the same way, my mom loves everyone so her opinion on that is out, and my twin sister thinks I should never break up with him. I just do not know what to do... I wish I did but I am being torn and I dont think I want to be. I want to be with him, or at least I should. He is literally the perfect guy, the guy I wish I had when all my other relationships went wrong. But if that is so wouldnt I not be feeling this way. I feel like I struggle with dependency issues, but then when I feel like I am in love and could be with this guy for the rest of my life.. I feel like I should run away? Anyone know what I can do???
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Man...I am not good with helping with these types of questions, I think... It pains me to not know the answers for you...Usually I do....But at least this will bump you a bit, and maybe some other poster, with greater experience in this, can help you...Least I can help with that..
outsidethebox Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Too much leap from dating a year to committed to rest of life with him. You're way too young to have to make decision on rest of your life. Date him but don't get engaged until you're sure a few years down the road. My opinion. 1
Author Lissdelco Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 I do not plan on any arrangements for marriage. I am in school now, and have high hopes of going to medical school in the future. It would not be fair for the future "man of my dreams" may it be the person i am with now or someone else to have to make them wait until I am fully out of school. But until I am at a point in school where I am comfortable and hopefully in my late twenties, and with the right when THEN i will think about marriage haha but I am thinking about right now and this is my right now problem :/
outsidethebox Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 why is it a problem right now? You're just dating someone. The problem only was fear of commitment rest of life as I read it. Something else?
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