MBS21 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I broke up with my ex a month ago and she texted me everyday since we broke up. I finally realized what i had with her so i told her i wanted her back. We met up on Monday and talked and had sex. When i got home she told me she is dating someone right now. We were supposed to do something on Friday but she cancelled on me but now she is saying she still loves me but she needs time to think and she said it has nothing to do with the other guy. I haven't talked to her since Friday. What should i do? She told me there is a good chance we can get back together.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I broke up with my ex a month ago and she texted me everyday since we broke up. I finally realized what i had with her so i told her i wanted her back. We met up on Monday and talked and had sex. When i got home she told me she is dating someone right now. We were supposed to do something on Friday but she cancelled on me but now she is saying she still loves me but she needs time to think and she said it has nothing to do with the other guy. I haven't talked to her since Friday. What should i do? She told me there is a good chance we can get back together. So she screwed you whilst with someone else, whilst you where broken up? Mymy, what class. You sure you want this cheater? I can imagine she will screw around on you too. What should you do? Not be with her.
Author MBS21 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 Well, she is only dating him and not in a relationship. Obviously she still has feelings for me.
ScienceGal Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Holy cannoli, I thought I had problems! You back off, like way back. As far as you can get, and NOW. She's a train wreck in the making, and you don't want to be there when she crashes. I would be very upset if my ex slept with me while he was seeing someone new. Actually, that happened to me not too long ago, and that was it. I will never give him another chance. It show immaturity and completely lack of integrity. She's jerking you around. Tell her how you feel and then walk away. She can't have her cake and eat it too, unless you let her. 3
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Well, she is only dating him and not in a relationship. Obviously she still has feelings for me. Not respectful nor proper, no matter how you wish to break it off as. And Sciencegirl is also right, quite right. Maybe she might date you for a while, and sleep around too.
Author MBS21 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 So you think there is no chance of her wanting me back? We were together for a year and i know she loves me.
Author MBS21 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 As far as i know, she never cheated on me. She always wanted to be with me.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 So you think there is no chance of her wanting me back? We were together for a year and i know she loves me. Sure. There is always that chance; thing is, if she loved you, she wouldn't put you on hold for the mean -time, saying she needs time...Clearly, it is stringing you along for a bit more. But you are unable to see that; anything is possible though, to answer your question.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 As far as i know, she never cheated on me. She always wanted to be with me. Well, there you go. But if she is dating you, she can sleep around and it not be cheating though too.
mortensorchid Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I don't like the sound of this. You broke up with her, you asked her back, you had sex, and after she tells you that she's with someone else? I'm sorry, guy, despite the fact that she did the deed with you, the ship has sailed. You'll know better next time I hope. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 should i say something to her? No. You are gonna get hurt...that is a fair warning. I know you might love this girl, but she is trouble.
ScienceGal Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 There is another thread titled something along the lines of "things you've learned from your past relationships". I posted "do not be with someone who is incapable of being alone". This is relevant here, and in many stories I read on LS. Why does she have a new guy if she still has feelings for you? Because she is incapable of being alone. She is needy and unstable, that's why she slept with you but then ran back to him. She is the bird that keeps flying into the window, complete confusion and panic. An emotionally healthy person wouldn't do what she is doing. IMO, she has nothing good to offer you until she works through her dependency issues. 2
empirestate87 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 No. You are gonna get hurt...that is a fair warning. I know you might love this girl, but she is trouble. I've seen you posting before and I have to say...you give the best advice. What the hell is your secret?
youaremysunshine Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Umm I don't think we have a enough information to make such heavy handed judgements about her. The op dumped her, and rather than waiting around crying about him she is attempting to move on by dating someone else. But who knows how physical or serious that is. Clearly not exclusive. she isn't over the op cause she came running back but I don't blame her for not being ready to recommit, she got burned. Or maybe she feels the relationship isn't worth rekindling. Why did you end it, op? It's important to be 100 certain when you end something. It's not worth putting both of you through that.
charlietheginger Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Her having sex with you is known as "rubbing it in your face" Look what you had now its gone...
Author MBS21 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 I ended it because i was really busy with work and i couldn't give her the attention she wanted.
charlietheginger Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I ended it because i was really busy with work and i couldn't give her the attention she wanted. Did you quit your job?
Author MBS21 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 No, i told her i would do better at making time for her.
bodhesatva Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 This sounds like the "Break up dance" that many people do with SO they really cared about. That is, sometimes people realize they aren't functional as a couple, but also care about each other so much (or are so afraid to be alone, but that doesn't seem to be the case here) that they keep breaking up and getting back together again, first remembering how incompatible they are for each other, then remembering how much it hurts to be apart, and round and round they go. I strongly recommend you cut the tie immediately. It will hurt more right now, but probably hurt less in the long term. This doesn't sound like marriage material to me, so cutting out now and sucking it up is better than doing this dance 3 more times and wasting months or even years of your prime dating life.
Author MBS21 Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Can anybody else offer anything? I'm going crazy.
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