miklos Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 he broke up with me on Dec. 25 on facebook when i was in mexico. After winter break. I went to his house on Jan. 24 and I begged. It did not work. I contacted him 6 days ago and now today I failed and I called and texted him today. He ignored my texts and forwarded my two calls Why do i still have feelings for him. We only dated for 2.5 months. We have been broken up for 2 months. Why do i feel like this? its torture i hate it!!
na49 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I don't believe that time has anything to do with your feelings. If you loved him, you loved him from the start. You're feelings may have become stronger as you two continued to date, but you obviously fell for him hard. I wouldn't beat yourself up about it, but I'm sorry that you're getting ignored. Makes me wonder if I'd be ignored if I ever broke NC and messaged her. Or would I get an "I don't love you anymore, but we can be friends if you want" message back? Not sure which would suck more.
lullaby Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Yes, it doesn't matter the time you spent with that person. Feelings are feelings. No one likes being dumped, and we always look for answers, we think that by contacting them we may get them. I learned with time that sometimes silence is the best answer for everything. There're answers you don't want to know, and you don't need to. I've been ignored too, so I know how it feels, and trust me, it's the best thing that could happen. What were the reasons for the BU?
stevie_23 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 He dumped you on Christmas Day on Facebook while you were away in Mexico? That’s not very nice or respectful. What were his reasons for doing so? He’s clearly trying to move on with his life, and him ignoring your attempts at contact are probably not meant to be cruel or callous, but just…he sees no purpose in having contact with you anymore. Sometimes short and intense relationships can be extra hard to get over because you never got to fulfill certain parts of the relationship. You definitely never got past the intense, hugely infatuated stage either, so you didn’t end things when you were beginning to get comfortable or ever so slightly bored, which can happen later on in relationships. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Get control over yourself. Look at you? I know you are hurting, but this is insane! You need to stop trying to contact him. That is what is keeping you in the rough; and the way you where dropped cold. He is a dick for dropping you cold...But do not let someone that malign bring you down. You are a woman, act like a woman. You are above this, no? You don't deserve to beg someone for their love...it isn't real....Go after what is real.
stevie_23 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Actually, that’s true. Begging for love means the person is a heartless dick, or that the relationship simply is not working or able to continue on. Begging for love is NOT how it should be in a relationship. Once you are with someone new (and I know how ridiculously hard that is to even contemplate right now), and you are happy and secure, you feel SUCH a huge difference to how you feel now with this guy.
lullaby Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Besides, if you consider "negotiating" and "begging" for love, your foundations for a relationship with that person may will crumble with time. Begging for love should not be the way to go...
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