Lillygoose Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 So, post about couple weeks ago explains the BU, so 3 months since BU, and 11 days NC. After 7 days NC I get a message from his mother And now 11 days NC I get a message from him himself! And even thou the last thing he told me was never speak to him again an I'm a c#### I obliged by his wishes and since joking this website went total NC. I didn't message his mother bak either. Anyway he text me saying " hello I have some post for you what's your address and I will send it to you. Thank you xx I'm not reading into this, I'm just confused how someone can be so mean to me, and say how he wants me gone. And yet texts and acts like nothing's happened. I know for a fact the post isn't important and given 2 weeks ago he would of just thrown it away. What's he getting at? I'm not responding either way. just curious ! X
iouaname Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Guilt! He treated you like ****, has had some time to think about it and feels guilty. Good on you for not responding. And even thou the last thing he told me was never speak to him again an I'm a c#### Ugh. I hate him for you.
SuperGeek Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 This is actually very simple to solve. Block their numbers and de-friend them on social media sites. That will eliminate most of the breadcrumbs. Limit or put on hold contact with any of his family and friends for awhile. They will understand later if you want to be friends with them again. You're going through a breakup and people understand (most do) that sometimes distance from close friends of the ex-spouse is needed to heal. Assuming the relationship is truly over, do not respond as it will derail progress on healing. Getting over a past relationship at least to me seems like detoxing from a bad habit such as a drug. Lots of withdrawal symptoms at first to deal with. Stick with it and stay strong. Be good to yourself SuperGeek
TaraMaiden Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 As long as you have advised the important 'people' that you've changed address (bank, Doctors, that kind of thing) then yeah, the post is most probably bumph..... Good on you for not responding to either person. But yup - you do need to block every which way possible.... Hugs hun... Keep strong, you're doing so well. Proud of you. 1
philosia Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I think he's just "pulling the leash" to see if the dog is still there, as some of the people from this forum described this situation... Show him that you're not at the end of that leash, you're free and enjoying your life by totally ignoring him. Good for you! Be strong! 1
philosia Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Yeah - Pi$$ up his leg!! Tara, are you advising her to break NC? Naughty you! Lilly, this is just for your smile, forgive us . 1
Author Lillygoose Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 I've blocked him off everything possible. Thanks guys! You are all so lovely and supportive and it's good to know when you're not going through it alone. He texts me again today with just "Hi lil???? And of course I ignored it. The cheek!
Author Lillygoose Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 I've blocked him off everything possible. Thanks guys! You are all so lovely and supportive and it's good to know when you're not going through it alone. He texts me again today with just "Hi lil???? And of course I ignored it. The cheek!
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