Easyguy14 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Was supposed to have a date with this woman, met her last week at a party by a friend, exchanged numbers, talked (not text) on the phone three times and was ready to meet with her last night at an art gallery since she claimed to love art shows but she never showed up! We communicated by phone and by text on how many stops away she was. She claimed to be 5 stops then 3 stops away, then a train delay, then 2 stops and then poof!!! I called her and text her and called, etc. and nothing. I'm still stunned right now because I'm lost on whether she was ever on the train to begin with. This has to be one of the worst experiences and it completely ruined saturday plans. I wonder if anyone else been through something this ridiculous or worse.
antineutrino Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 That sucks... I'm questioning whether she was even on the train too. I only get signal at a handful of stops, usually the larger transfer stations. I wish I had additional insight.
Soxfaninfl Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 She did you a favor. If she was this rude and inconsiderate to do that to you then you don't want to get to know somebody like that.
Author Easyguy14 Posted March 3, 2013 Author Posted March 3, 2013 She did you a favor. If she was this rude and inconsiderate to do that to you then you don't want to get to know somebody like that. I agree with that. A friend thinks she was never on the train because of how she was able to get constant service in the tunnels. I just hate not knowing what made her change her mind and bother with this scam from the get.
outsidethebox Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 obviously gets a kick out of playing games. Probably bitter about some guy and paying it forward.
StanMusial Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Did she ever contact you again? I had a girl flake on me last year. We were supposed to go to dinner and a comedy show. I had reservations and everything. I waited in the restaurant for about half an hour then bailed. She texted me the next day like nothing happened LOL. I had reservations and everything.
Green Light Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 This is flakiness made into an art form! Some girls seem to get a thrill from this s*** and texting has made it easier than ever. 1
Author Easyguy14 Posted March 3, 2013 Author Posted March 3, 2013 Did she ever contact you again? I had a girl flake on me last year. We were supposed to go to dinner and a comedy show. I had reservations and everything. I waited in the restaurant for about half an hour then bailed. She texted me the next day like nothing happened LOL. I had reservations and everything. She contacted me not 10 minutes ago and didnt apologize and claimed that she got there late because of train delays and couldnt get ahold of me. Not sure what to believe but she says lets try again next weekend and how we can meet close to her house. I guess I can give it another go.
Green Light Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 She contacted me not 10 minutes ago and didnt apologize and claimed that she got there late because of train delays and couldnt get ahold of me. Not sure what to believe but she says lets try again next weekend and how we can meet close to her house. I guess I can give it another go. Proceed with caution.
coffeebean201 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I was going to say - maybe she got lost. Or maybe she is immature - some people won't tell you straight up there is a problem. They just don't show up.
outsidethebox Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 How could she not get a hold of you? She was texting you every few minutes, two stops away. And didn't try again until 10 minutes ago? Any person that cared about you would have got hold of you while you were in the art gallery and explained the situation. Has she given you her name, where she lives, you've seen her IRL since the party when you ran into her, can call her by phone right now and talk to her? The answers need to be yes. 1
tbf Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 She's full of it. She could have phoned or texted you sooner, that there was a delay. Don't dip in crazy! 2
kaylan Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 (edited) Was supposed to have a date with this woman, met her last week at a party by a friend, exchanged numbers, talked (not text) on the phone three times and was ready to meet with her last night at an art gallery since she claimed to love art shows but she never showed up! We communicated by phone and by text on how many stops away she was. She claimed to be 5 stops then 3 stops away, then a train delay, then 2 stops and then poof!!! I called her and text her and called, etc. and nothing. I'm still stunned right now because I'm lost on whether she was ever on the train to begin with. This has to be one of the worst experiences and it completely ruined saturday plans. I wonder if anyone else been through something this ridiculous or worse. Met her through a friend? Make sure all of your friends know how disrespectful and rude this girl is. Let them know how spineless she is as well. Sure its awkward and sometimes hard to reject someone...but even if she decided to do something else last minute, she could have at least let you know that. This woman doesnt deserve any kind words. What an inconsiderate jerk of a biznitch.She contacted me not 10 minutes ago and didnt apologize and claimed that she got there late because of train delays and couldnt get ahold of me. Not sure what to believe but she says lets try again next weekend and how we can meet close to her house. I guess I can give it another go. Shes a liar. If your phone doesnt have texts or missed calls in it, then shes obviously lying. Tell her "sorry hun, Ill pass. Women only get one chance to stand me up. But Ill make sure our friends know that they should double book plans when deciding to hang out with you on the weekend. Having a back up is nice in the case of someone bailing" Im just blunt and honest though. Edited March 3, 2013 by kaylan 1
antineutrino Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Train delays? I've experienced train delays and they've never lasted that long, especially if she was only a couple stops away anyway. And why didn't she just text you after she got out of the subway station? I don't buy it.
ChatroomHero Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Definitely sounds like bs. I'm wonder if she decided she didn't want to go through the trouble of the trains and meeting with you and just flaked. If you do go through with meeting her again, maybe have some friends go to where you are going and that way if she bails you can hang out with them. If she shows they can go on their way, but I have a feeling she might come up with a last minute emergency.
NYC-BigKat Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 How could she not get a hold of you? She was texting you every few minutes, two stops away. And didn't try again until 10 minutes ago? Any person that cared about you would have got hold of you while you were in the art gallery and explained the situation. Has she given you her name, where she lives, you've seen her IRL since the party when you ran into her, can call her by phone right now and talk to her? The answers need to be yes. I used to get stood up all the time by girls so I try not to put myself in such a dilemma anymore u know. It seems that when u too nice to girls u get taken advantage of .
StanMusial Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Did she ever contact you again? I had a girl flake on me last year. We were supposed to go to dinner and a comedy show. I had reservations and everything. I waited in the restaurant for about half an hour then bailed. She texted me the next day like nothing happened LOL. I had reservations and everything. She contacted me not 10 minutes ago and didnt apologize and claimed that she got there late because of train delays and couldnt get ahold of me. Not sure what to believe but she says lets try again next weekend and how we can meet close to her house. I guess I can give it another go. I can tell you how I handled it... I just didn't respond to her text. It was a girl that worked in my building and I knew I would eventually run into her. And I did about a week later. I acted like she did, like nothing happened, said "Hello", chatted a few minutes and went to my office. I just didn't see a need to continue some kind of drama, if she had better options then have at them. She did say something like, "Give me a call" or whatever but I never bothered. LOL. In your case, frankly I think she is lying and probably found a more attractive option for that evening. You can do whatever you want, but it would be ideal to have Plan B and C on standby if she flakes again.
Author Easyguy14 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 I can tell you how I handled it... I just didn't respond to her text. It was a girl that worked in my building and I knew I would eventually run into her. And I did about a week later. I acted like she did, like nothing happened, said "Hello", chatted a few minutes and went to my office. I just didn't see a need to continue some kind of drama, if she had better options then have at them. She did say something like, "Give me a call" or whatever but I never bothered. LOL. In your case, frankly I think she is lying and probably found a more attractive option for that evening. You can do whatever you want, but it would be ideal to have Plan B and C on standby if she flakes again. I just thought she changed her mind is all. This flaking thing with people is more popular when it never was once upon a time. Back in high school I was able to date girls on a whim and never dealt with flaking unless it was for a serious reason like an emergency but these days girls do it more than guys and for no good reason.
2sure Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 This is reverse psychology, or game playing so take it or leave it... Tell her "you flaked on me and all the train stop crap has made me think you aren't quite right, and that just doesn't appeal to me" She will insist on proving you wrong, whether she wants to or not. I'd set up another date and totally stiff her. Standing someone up is beyond rude . 1
Author Easyguy14 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 This is reverse psychology, or game playing so take it or leave it... Tell her "you flaked on me and all the train stop crap has made me think you aren't quite right, and that just doesn't appeal to me" She will insist on proving you wrong, whether she wants to or not. I'd set up another date and totally stiff her. Standing someone up is beyond rude . I agree with you but to turn around and commit the same childish thing she did to me would be pointless and I'll probably get another dose of karma if I tried something like that. 1
2sure Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I agree with you but to turn around and commit the same childish thing she did to me would be pointless and I'll probably get another dose of karma if I tried something like that. I can vouch for that.
SJC2008 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Don't try at another date. If a person is too weak to turn down a date from a virtual stranger, how will they ever be able to bring up a problem/issue with someone they know and are in a relationship with? 1
serial muse Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 In your case, frankly I think she is lying and probably found a more attractive option for that evening. You can do whatever you want, but it would be ideal to have Plan B and C on standby if she flakes again. I agree with this - it doesn't make any sense that she couldn't get hold of you until tonight. I think she's lying too. If you want to try again, definitely have a backup plan. But I'm not sure why you'd want to. It sucks that she ruined your Saturday night. And I just have to say - my jaw dropped reading this thread and the rude crap some people pull. Wow.
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