HugoJ Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Hello everybody, since a week ago my ex-girlfriend (who dumped) me gives clear signs she wants me back and she regrets her choice to dump me. My story At january 5th my girlfriend dumped me, I was studying for my examinations which I had to participate late january - early february, it was a real shock for me. I couldn't sleep, didn't eat too well... Luckily I passed 4 out of 5 exams. My ex-GF and I had been together for almost 11 months. She said I was too asocial and I was very lonely and she was the contrary, so that's basicly why she broke up. I told her over and over I was being asocial and lonely to get my master degree (normaly I graduate this year) and write my thesis. I've always given priority to her but spare time for friends and partying is very rare and completely different to my previous years at University. But she made up her mind and after few conversations and a week of begging I stopped because it was pathetic and didn't help so I didn't contact here anymore nor did she. Two weeks later, during my exams I saw a picture of her with a new guy holding her on facebook. This broke myself completely, I was constantly thinking did she cheated on me? Is she on a rebound? Suddenly she contacted me during the exams to hear how I was doing and I decided to ask her about the picture and if she cheated on me. She answered she didn't cheat on me and that she and the guy weren't a couple yet but would probably be in the future. Time passed and I tried to forget her and move on with my life. Two weeks ago she started to chat with on facebook, just small talk. I always responded very short and formally, so we didn't have big conversations. Wednesday (27th) we would have been one year together, It was a pretty difficult day for me and I was thinking about texting her but I didn't because It would look pathetic and she probably wouldn't care. But the day after (28th) I suddenly receive a whatsapp message from her "Did you think about me yesterday?" I answered "Honestly, yes" she replied "I couldn't stop thinking about it" and "I thought I was the only one". I replied to her that it didn't make sense anymore since she left (dumped) me and she got a new boyfriend and that I had to move along with my life. I told her that I hoped she had made the right choice in her life by leaving me, she replied "The right choice ... , There is never a right choice in life" , "I know my choice to leave you was stupid, but that is something you can't change" , "Sorry but I was constantly thinking about you" and "I wanted to know if this was mutual" So the point is, she seems to miss me and regret her choice to leave me but however she is still together with that other guy... It seems to be that that guy is a rebound. The problem is her ego is too big to leave this guy and get back together with me. I really loved this girl and I know we would have a great potential future together. I want to grab this chance and get back together with her now it's still possible and I don't want to regret myself in the future. But how can I, without being pathetic and without being too stanched get back together with this girl...
Waz Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Seriously, don't do anything at all. Focus on your life (university etc) and leave it as it is. She broke up with you, because you couldn't have much time cause of the exams. She knew it i guess, but didn't respect it. Some kind of selfishness i assume and therefore lack of respect to you. I want to grab this chance and get back together with her now it's still possible and I don't want to regret myself in the future. But how can I, without being pathetic and without being too stanched get back together with this girl...By what you have said, and by the reasons of your break-up, it doesn't seem that you made anything wrong. It's not up to you to get back. It's on hers. She is the one who has to grab the chance, not you. You don't have to do anything. If she really wants to get back with you, she definitely will. You just live your life. PS: If you decide to do something and she has a relationship, don't do anything at all. 1
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