Miss1122 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I was dating this guy for about a month. He treated me well while we're dating. Everything was doing great then one day he said were moving a little too fast. I gave him the space and time he needed. That was about three weeks ago. Yesterday, I got a text from him. He said that he was sorry for not telling me the truth but he has a confession to make. He said hes divorced and have kids. The kids live with the mom. The mom cheated on him. He didn't tell me because he was afraid I wouldn't date him. At this point I'm not sure what to do. I like him but I'm not sure if I'm ready to be in this kind of situation. He seems to be responsive to any questions I have regarding his past. Please I need some advice. Thanks.
outsidethebox Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 So you thought or he said that was single, never been married? Or that he was divorced with no kids? If you got serious with him his kids would be part of the equation some of the time. I would think this works best for someone that has kids of their own. And he doesn't have a problem lying to you. That's never a good thing. I would take his advice to slow it down, but to zero.
Snow_in_April Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 It's kinda shady he didn't tell you from the beginning. I'd be put off by that more than anything. I guess it depends on how serious you are about the relationship/guy. Are you willing to deal with all the issues that come from dating someone who is divorced with kids? That's A LOT of baggage. Don't over look his dishonesty or if you really ready for that just because he is cute or you are infatuated with him. Be honest with yourself and him. You might want to give it a try and see if it fits you if you really see something in him but do so at an emotional distance.
soccerrprp Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I agree with JAP. The other thing that bothers me is that his wife has full custody of the children? Or they live with her, but it was she that cheated. Legally, didn't he make the effort of trying to keep the kids based on her fidelity? Or joint custody? It sounds like the kids live FT with her. If his story is true, I also question his commitment to his children. Why would a father allow his children to live FT with the cheating ex-wife? Because it's not the way it happened or his commitment to his children is suspect. I'm always weary of people who have children, but they live FT with the ex-partner.
Author Miss1122 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 So you thought or he said that was single, never been married? Or that he was divorced with no kids? If you got serious with him his kids would be part of the equation some of the time. I would think this works best for someone that has kids of their own. And he doesn't have a problem lying to you. That's never a good thing. I would take his advice to slow it down, but to zero. I thought he was single with no kids. I didn't ask. He never said anything about it until yesterday. 1
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