itsmyfault Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Hi Guys, I've popped back for some advice. Since I left a while back now I've been doing great, LS really was holding me back in my final stages of my break up. where to start... Well I've not had much contact with my Ex, any contact I have had I've not said a lot and I've never set aside any "care" for her in our conversations. For those of you that don't know, I broke up with her. After a short while I realised it was a mistake and tried to get her back, she had already "moved on" and that was that, I had a rough time and now i'm here, and I'm doing great. The thing is, She contacted me last week, I was talking as though she was someone I had never cared for, I don't like to get any emotions tangled with her. After a while she got arsey with me for being like this, she then went on to be down on herself so I knew something was up. She had been told by her new bf that he was thinking about ending it. I straight away told her that I'm not the person she should be talking to about this. Deep down I still want her back, I don't believe I ever really wanted rid of her, I had G.I.G.S. We talked for a while, in-fact all day and have done for a few days. I am getting a little fed up now though, I'm sick of the mind games. She gets upset if I say i've given up on her, and us ever getting back together. She says she still hopes it may happen. She says it would really bother her if I moved on and found someone else. She says she doesn't love the guy she is with. She doesn't know what she wants. I know what you are going to say, just stop all contact and move on. I know its the right thing to do. I've always said i'll be there for her though, and if I say I can't speak to her she cant seem to see why, I think she seems to think it's okay for her to say all of those things and expect me to put up with it.
cavalier99 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Well i get the impression you are just writing this to vent. Which is cool. I mean the only solution as you know is to cut off contact if it is bothering you. The second you open up emotionally shell probably tell you she is going back with new guy. You know how it works. She just wants you to be her emotional tampon while she is going thru a rough time. You know this. The question is are you ok with it? Cav 1
Sheilalou008 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Good God, don't be this girls support system. Doesn't she have friends to vent to? If she wants you back why is she telling you any of this at all? I will seriously never understand people at all. How much more selfish can one be? She wants your emotional support but where is yours? Ugh, this annoys me to know end. "She doesn't know what she wants?" Sounds like a cop out to keep you on the line. Stop talking to her, leave her alone in her misery. She doesn't deserve you as a friend. I know you love and want her back but this isn't going to get you any closer to that. Go NC and stay that way. I swear in time it will fade. You are holding yourself back from moving on.
Author itsmyfault Posted March 3, 2013 Author Posted March 3, 2013 She is still with him, he never actually left her. I don't know whats going on tbh, she talks to me like we did when we were together, I would say she is getting everything she wants from it and i'm getting nothing. when ever I try to explain this though I'm made out to be the bad guy I think your right back to ignoring her, or I'll just tell her straight.
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