KoKo0 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 How do you know you have met your soul mate, is this just something we like to believe in and have some hope? Do soul mates really exist? Give me your insight about soulmates, would love to hear other peoples thoughts !
MrCastle Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 As sappy as it sounds yes I do believe in them for the most part. However every time I thought I found a girl who was a potential soul mate, they always found a way to crush my dreams and send me into an emotional spiral 1
ltjg45 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 While I do believe in soulmates, I try not to put that much value into it. How would I know I have found a potential soulmate? When that woman does something no other women has done to acquire my attention. 1
xxoo Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I do, but they are created, not found. When you find someone who feels like a soul mate, that's chemistry. Feels awesome! But live together for a couple years, and you'll discover that you aren't truly soul mates....yet. Live together for a while longer, build lives together, work through differences, wear off the sharp edges, and slowly couples start having the same priorities (often their shared children), the same dreams, the same "favorites", the same memories, the same stories....essentially one enmeshed life. And voila! Soul mates 2
tk-421 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I don't believe in them in the sense that there is one specific person for everyone and you are only meant to be with that person. It's a big planet. The odds would be so against everyone. I prefer to look at it more like xxoo put it. 1
Geiss Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Nope, don't believe in them at all. Especially when it comes to very rare diseases and facial deformities. You ever seen people with facial tumors go out on dates. What about burn victims. I saw a video of a women with a face tumor who got outcasted in her village and was an old women that said no man has never gone near her. Her whole life. What if you have a severe case of tourette's. Where you can't even hold a knife to put jam on a sandwich because you might stab yourself. And you can't stay still for more than 5 seconds. What if you decide to join the priesthood or become a nun? There are way too many variables out there and odd ball cases where I would have to say that there is no such thing as a soulmate. 1
CarrieT Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Nope. I believed in soulmates when I got married at the tender age of 20 - but found my husband having sex with men (when I came home early from work one day) at the tender age of 24. Since then, I have had three long-term relationships and now a fourth that will result in a second marriage in my 49th year. In the past thirty years, I have learned that it is possible to love wholly, completely, and fully and feel as though the person you are with is "the one" for you that will complete you. The soul - like the heart - is a resilient and strong factor that loves, hates, hurts, and heals. You can love often and fully and believe that each person touches your soul... 1
El Brujo Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I do believe in soulmates, but the fact that dating/romance/love is supposed to be counterintuitive in the first place, is the biggest barrier. One does not place an ad to invite thousands of men or women to one's home for "soulmate interviews" like it was a casting call because it just isn't done; it's just too damn logical, even for me. But that's just about what it would take to find a soulmate. Besides, not everyone wants a soulmate. I'd venture a guess that the sort of promiscuous guys who are looking to get on Maxim magazine's top ten list would avoid soulmates like the plague because finding one would result in a career-ending relationship. 1
Feelin Frisky Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I don't believe in souls. But I do believe in ideal matches where people can love without fighting periodically. I hope I experience that some day. 1
Negative Nancy Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 (edited) I think there are people who just fit together in this unique sort of way. They're attracted to each other, they're super compatible, they get each other, they just work together. This. If the right person comes along you just recognize it. But you also have to distinguish between infatuation and this special feeling. Not many people know this feeling because it rarely happens. But if it happens, you just know it. It's like an inner bond which unites forever. The two people fit together like 2 pieces of a puzzle. Things that were difficult with others are easy with that person. You have the same wavelength and similar interests. And it never gets boring, even after the initial stages of infatuation. You know it just, I can't explain it otherwise. It just fits. :love: Edited March 3, 2013 by Negative Nancy 3
Green Light Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 How do you know you have met your soul mate, is this just something we like to believe in and have some hope? Do soul mates really exist? Nah, we are pretty much just animals with imaginations. 2
carhill Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 How do you know you have met your soul mate, is this just something we like to believe in and have some hope? Do soul mates really exist? I believe some people have more instinctive synergy between them than they may with other people in general. They 'click' at a basic psychological/emotional level. All that 'soul' stuff kinda became blurry after I left the church behind decades ago but the 'feel' of connection with another person is pretty real, and different. Another great lesson life taught is that such 'soul mates' aren't necessarily romantic or sexual partners. They can be 'twins' or other platonic associations. Gender can be irrelevant. In the realm of romantic/sexual relationships, I'd call a 'soul mate' a person who has synergy on all those basic levels as well as sexual attraction and functional compatibility. Haven't met one of those yet, though I have met a few with whom the basic 'click' was pretty evident. One remains as my best male friend. Good luck in your search. 2
VintageSweetPea Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I totally believe in the concept of soul mates... I have seen it happening and is very beautiful... the sad part of the soul mates concept is that many people will never meet theirs... maybe won't meet their soul mate in this life but there's many lives to come.. and our soulmates can be in this live from past lives but just not in a same gender or relationship....they could be in our circle of family and friends. 1
Estate Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 How do you know you have met your soul mate, is this just something we like to believe in and have some hope? Do soul mates really exist? Give me your insight about soulmates, would love to hear other peoples thoughts ! There's no such thing as soulmates, what a load of crap. What if you live in Argentina and she lives in Outer Mongolia... sure you'll be alone forever! There is no one soulmate for anyone. There is just people we are compatible with and ones we aren't. 3
arthus1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I don't. I just believe that you need to find someone that's the best for you, yes love exists I was in love once briefly. 1
Archgirl Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 How do you know you have met your soul mate, is this just something we like to believe in and have some hope? Do soul mates really exist? Give me your insight about soulmates, would love to hear other peoples thoughts ! Yes. I think I met mine. I hope you get more than one. It was awfully painful and sad. 1
dasein Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 "Soulmates" is marketing copy for a particular gullible female demographic, nothing more. So no, I don't believe in it. There are many compatible prospects out there. The term "soulmates" also presumes a bias towards an antiquated standard of lifetime monogamy we are moving away from rapidly. 1
VintageSweetPea Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I am sorry, I thought we were talking about love and dating here not about pseudo religious philosophies ... I don't believe in reincarnation... so I guess in my point of view they are screwed! well someone started a thread about soul mates and that is inter linked with other topics...you have strong opinions and points of views and if "being screwed" is you take from my post then so be it. That is not what I was trying to rely. It's ok to believe in what ever you want. If you don't believe in reincarnation that is your choice, no one is here to pass judgement, just sharing our thoughts.
todreaminblue Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 How do you know you have met your soul mate, is this just something we like to believe in and have some hope? Do soul mates really exist? Give me your insight about soulmates, would love to hear other peoples thoughts ! yes....part of my faith is that before coming to this earth we lived with god.......that includes everyone...so i believe in soul mates ....i think its rare.......i believe sometimes you get to meet them , you feel a connection it just feels right and you cant really put your finger on it......and i think that doesnt necessarily mean that you end up being with your soul mate and sometimes i think there can be more than one....because we were given agency to choose so ...some of us dont choose to believe this......or we just dont see them or we never get to meet them........deb 1
AMusing Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I do, but they are created, not found. When you find someone who feels like a soul mate, that's chemistry. Feels awesome! But live together for a couple years, and you'll discover that you aren't truly soul mates....yet. Live together for a while longer, build lives together, work through differences, wear off the sharp edges, and slowly couples start having the same priorities (often their shared children), the same dreams, the same "favorites", the same memories, the same stories....essentially one enmeshed life. And voila! Soul mates Oh, I like this a lot. I mean, I'm as dismissive as the next atheist when it comes to the traditional "God meant for us to be together" meaning of "soul mates." There is not one person meant for each of us. There are people who are compatible, people who aren't, and people falling somewhere in between. Our job is to figure out who is compatible enough to make us happy, and work at our relationship with him. So, no, I don't believe in "soul mates" -- but I quite like xxoo's definition of the term. 1
ptp Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Yes I do believe in soulmates. Any woman who would be willing to have a threesome with me every year as a Birthday gift, is my soulmate.
mn311601 Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Yes, seven billion people on this planet and there is exactly ONE person who is your soul mate. Sure hope you aren't born in US and your soul mate born in China, that would suck wouldn't it? 1
Luckydad Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 I used to believe in soul mates, and a lot of other things, when I was much younger and lacked the objective pragmatism that real world experience has taught. I don't believe anymore. 2
bodhesatva Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 (edited) I don't, and I think it's actually harmful to believe in soul mates. Let's say I get married today, and then remain happily married for 25 years in to my early 50s. My wife and I remain deeply in love that whole time and have very little problems. Then my wife dies of a breast cancer at a fairly young age and I'm a widow at, oh, 54. I then get remarried at 60 and live until 90 with another wonderful woman who loves me deeply. Is either one of those women my "soul" mate? Should I feel like my second marriage is lesser, just because it was my second? Or should my first marriage be lesser, because I died in the arms of my second wife? I really think the idea of soul mates does a disservice to how complex love is. It is a beautiful but messy business, and making love as simple as "I have a soul mate, and she is the one I'm destined for" reduces that beautiful, messy glory to something formulaic. Edited March 5, 2013 by bodhesatva 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 I believe in soul mates, but I believe that you can have more than one. I can honestly say that one of mine is my best friend, who ever said your soul mate needs to be someone you are sexually attracted to? Some people just "fit" and I believe that they are rare. 1
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