Seductive Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 (edited) How do you know when a man is in love with you? I believe that men don't always verbally say "I love you", but their actions say so. Plus, some men will say they love you when they really don't. Here is how I tell when a man is in love: 1) I have a gut feeling that tells me he's in love 2) There's a certain stare or look that they give you. The "I'm in love with you" look is very different from the "I'm sexually attracted to you" look 3) He wants to pamper you. Think of a tough and manly man that suddenly wants to cook your dinner and clean up your apartment. 4) He agrees to do "boring tasks" with you, like go with you to get your dress altered or wait at the salon while you get your pedicure. 5) He remembers little details about you. 6) He knows when you're upset, and he wants you to talk about it. He listens attentively and knows how to comfort you. 7) He talks about wanting you to meet all of his close friends, his family and those that are important to him. In your experience, how do know when a man is in love with you? Men, how do show your love to your partner? Edited March 3, 2013 by Seductive
CudLRoo Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Just wait for them to become sad, pathetic, desperate - THAT's when they're not gaming you, they just want a bit of the L word in their lives. Good men f*ck up this way, ALL the time. Grab a strong-looking one, I'll bet he turns out to be very cool. 1
Author Seductive Posted March 3, 2013 Author Posted March 3, 2013 Just wait for them to become sad, pathetic, desperate - THAT's when they're not gaming you, they just want a bit of the L word in their lives. Good men f*ck up this way, ALL the time. Grab a strong-looking one, I'll bet he turns out to be very cool. Honey, I did grab a strong one and he did all of these things later once we got to know each other better. The actions that I listed make me feel very safe, but I would be weary if a man was doing this on the first few dates. The trick is to get to know a person first, and then show your actions once a relationship is agreed upon. 1
carhill Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 This sounds more like you hired a butler. I had to LOL, as that sounds exactly like my M. Not a bad list though. I'll add one: He proactively proposes marriage. Perhaps a lot of younger men don't believe in marriage, but a proposal is one action, in these days and times, which puts teeth into 'I'm in love with you and want to spend my life with you in a public and private way'. 2
Author Seductive Posted March 3, 2013 Author Posted March 3, 2013 (edited) This sounds more like you hired a butler. lol, Am I a hired maid if I enjoy cooking and cleaning for the person that I love? I had to LOL, as that sounds exactly like my M. Not a bad list though. I'll add one: He proactively proposes marriage. Perhaps a lot of younger men don't believe in marriage, but a proposal is one action, in these days and times, which puts teeth into 'I'm in love with you and want to spend my life with you in a public and private way'. I have a feeling that this is a bad idea for a topic, because most of the posters on here are miserable and bitter about love. If you're bitter and untrusting of love, you're probably not going to get it. Edited March 3, 2013 by Seductive 1
iris219 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I agree with your #1 and #2 in that one doesn't have to say anything to convey love. I feel incredibly loved when my BF holds me in bed and squeezes me so tight, it's as if he can't get close enough even though we're completely intertwined. Also, some men might be shy or nervous about actually saying ILY. My BF always says things like, "I love being with you" and "I'm so happy we're together." I'll add to your list: Your happiness is a priority in his life, and making you happy brings him pleasure. This isn't something he even necessarily thinks about consciously, but he structures his life in a way that makes it clear how much he wants to be with you. You aren't seen as burden. He wants to put you first whenever he can. 2
Sivok Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I don't know about other guys, but when I'm in love with a girl, I have a huge smile on my face each time we meet and can't help it - then again, I'm a dude who is really transparent with my emotions haha... Makes me a terrible liar 1
Feelin Frisky Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 That's a fair list. One of the things that indicates love is caring to listen and share interest in the intricate details of your lover's disclosures. A person who does not do that may show all the other signs of being in love but they may in fact be in love with the persona they have created in their mind which you represent to them. That is part of the tricky line between love and infatuation. 2
crude Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Nice list. I can use it to pretend I believe in those things, to get what I REALLY want.
lavenderlove Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 There is no such list, he could do everything on your list and more and still not love you. Plus if you are in love with him, you will be blind enough not to notice the signs of him not loving you.
ls32ssibm Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 When he's in love with you, you'll stop being attracted to him and refer to him as "creepy" and "clingy", you'll then proceed to dump him and go back to dating douchebags who just want you for your series of holes. In my experience.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Most men I dated did all those things in the first week! LolThat is definitely not my list. I don't think those are enough reasons to assume a man loves you. My boyfriend bends over backwards for me, he is always there, he has his nephews call me aunty Jaclyn, he talks about us in terms of years down the road, it is no longer him, he always refers to things and life as OURS. Not to mention the fact that I truly am his best friend as he is mine... We haven't even said I love you to each other yet and I have no doubt that this man cares for me so deeply that he would do almost anything for me. I still won't assume he loves me though, when he is ready and truly feels it then he will say it. I love him enormously and I haven't said it. We use our actions to show how we feel and it goes beyond just him wanting me to meet his friends and family... For I already have. It goes beyond him wanting to cook or do my laundry, because he already has... All the things you listed are things he did even before I felt his love.
rocketman122 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 How do you know when a man is in love with you? I believe that men don't always verbally say "I love you", but their actions say so. Plus, some men will say they love you when they really don't. Here is how I tell when a man is in love: 1) I have a gut feeling that tells me he's in love 2) There's a certain stare or look that they give you. The "I'm in love with you" look is very different from the "I'm sexually attracted to you" look 3) He wants to pamper you. Think of a tough and manly man that suddenly wants to cook your dinner and clean up your apartment. 4) He agrees to do "boring tasks" with you, like go with you to get your dress altered or wait at the salon while you get your pedicure. 5) He remembers little details about you. 6) He knows when you're upset, and he wants you to talk about it. He listens attentively and knows how to comfort you. 7) He talks about wanting you to meet all of his close friends, his family and those that are important to him. In your experience, how do know when a man is in love with you? Men, how do show your love to your partner? Yes, very good list. the stare part is very true. I wind up looking at her lips or neck or other parts that I sometimes dont hear what she's saying. also, I think about her a lot at work and have this big stupid smile on my face that coworkers have laughed at. I agree with your #1 and #2 in that one doesn't have to say anything to convey love. I feel incredibly loved when my BF holds me in bed and squeezes me so tight, it's as if he can't get close enough even though we're completely intertwined. Also, some men might be shy or nervous about actually saying ILY. My BF always says things like, "I love being with you" and "I'm so happy we're together." I'll add to your list: Your happiness is a priority in his life, and making you happy brings him pleasure. This isn't something he even necessarily thinks about consciously, but he structures his life in a way that makes it clear how much he wants to be with you. You aren't seen as burden. He wants to put you first whenever he can. yes, all very true. but never been shy to express my emotions. lol, Am I a hired maid if I enjoy cooking and cleaning for the person that I love? I have a feeling that this is a bad idea for a topic, because most of the posters on here are miserable and bitter about love. If you're bitter and untrusting of love, you're probably not going to get it. to want to do nice things for your partner is wonderful. these miserable people here give advice to others. there are many here specifically with hate for love that they give bad advice knowingly on purpose. because if theyre miserable and cant find love, then no should love and also be miserable. if you havent had a LTR dont give advice. I can only imagine the number os relationships people have ruined by telling the poster, LEAVE HIM/HER instead of trying to fight and work it out. people give up so easily. I hate people like this.
arthus1 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 How do you know when a man is in love with you? I believe that men don't always verbally say "I love you", but their actions say so. Plus, some men will say they love you when they really don't. Here is how I tell when a man is in love: 1) I have a gut feeling that tells me he's in love 2) There's a certain stare or look that they give you. The "I'm in love with you" look is very different from the "I'm sexually attracted to you" look 3) He wants to pamper you. Think of a tough and manly man that suddenly wants to cook your dinner and clean up your apartment. 4) He agrees to do "boring tasks" with you, like go with you to get your dress altered or wait at the salon while you get your pedicure. 5) He remembers little details about you. 6) He knows when you're upset, and he wants you to talk about it. He listens attentively and knows how to comfort you. 7) He talks about wanting you to meet all of his close friends, his family and those that are important to him. In your experience, how do know when a man is in love with you? Men, how do show your love to your partner? When I give you a big bear hug and a kiss
Archgirl Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 How do you know when a man is in love with you? I believe that men don't always verbally say "I love you", but their actions say so. Plus, some men will say they love you when they really don't. Here is how I tell when a man is in love: 1) I have a gut feeling that tells me he's in love 2) There's a certain stare or look that they give you. The "I'm in love with you" look is very different from the "I'm sexually attracted to you" look 3) He wants to pamper you. Think of a tough and manly man that suddenly wants to cook your dinner and clean up your apartment. 4) He agrees to do "boring tasks" with you, like go with you to get your dress altered or wait at the salon while you get your pedicure. 5) He remembers little details about you. 6) He knows when you're upset, and he wants you to talk about it. He listens attentively and knows how to comfort you. 7) He talks about wanting you to meet all of his close friends, his family and those that are important to him. In your experience, how do know when a man is in love with you? Men, how do show your love to your partner? These also sound a lot like the Seven Signs that a man is really boring. I think I'll pass
Casablanca Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 2) There's a certain stare or look that they give you. The "I'm in love with you" look is very different from the "I'm sexually attracted to you" look 3) He wants to pamper you. Think of a tough and manly man that suddenly wants to cook your dinner and clean up your apartment. 4) He agrees to do "boring tasks" with you, like go with you to get your dress altered or wait at the salon while you get your pedicure. 5) He remembers little details about you. 6) He knows when you're upset, and he wants you to talk about it. He listens attentively and knows how to comfort you. 7) He talks about wanting you to meet all of his close friends, his family and those that are important to him. I to an extend to all those listed just when I like someone/getting to know them. The "I'm attracted to WHO you are" look is different than the "I'm sexually attracted to you " look I really like cooking for a woman I'm seeing, I usually do it early on too to show that hey, I like you and want to do nice things for you The other night the girl I'm talking to and I were going to go play pool, but she asked me if I'd be willing to meet up at her friends to watch this show her and her friend love, and I agreed, it isn't a show I'm interested in, though it was well done Remembering things about someone you like or are just starting to see is very important The upset one is a little harder as it is rare to see it early on, woman I'm talking with had a long two days, her little who was just dumped came over late the other night and they were up until 6 am when the woman I'm seeing had to go to work, so when I picked her up she was really tired, we talked a little bit about it and I agreed that it would be best to end the date after dinner since she needs sleep...but I'd be more than happy to and want to comfort someone I merely like Family is usually when it is stating to get serious, but usually someone I'm seeing I make sure they see my friends early on, just to see how she fits in...while if she doesnt get along with them isn't a deal breaker, but it can make me like them even more So I don't really think you can list things, most things you listed apply to just two people who like each other
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