girlunchained Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I posted a few weeks ago about this in the breakup thread when things were still really fresh, but now that it's been three weeks, I'd like some opinions based on how things are now. Basically my LDR boyfriend of 9 months and I decided to take a break/break up and then revisit things in April (yay! Only a month away!) given the next time we could see each other would be May-June, and then I'm moving to England (about an hour train ride from him) in August so things would be a lot easier for us. It was getting very stressful with our work and school schedules (and the time difference--he's in the UK and I'm in the US) to find time for each other and the stress was starting to taint our otherwise wonderful relationship. I was scared at the time that he wasn't being sincere about wanting to work things out in April, but we've talked a couple times a week since we went on a break and have still been flirty/kind to one another aside from one fight. He'll even reference things like, "When you're here, I'm going to do __ for you." Have any of you ever been in a situation like this and things worked out/giving each other space was the right move? Does this sound promising?
KoKo0 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Yes, I am i similar sort of situation... though I've only been apart from him 5 months, we don't talk much .. even though communication is so easy but I guess we decided we weren't going to make things hard on each other by talking all the time... during this 5 month period we've only spoken a number of times, once a month, and we never talked about what we were up to or what we were doing. I will be going back in 2 weeks, and I will be reunited with him I know he is waiting for me, he has made it clear. Though I don't know what he is up to, neither does he about me, but I am staying faithful to him since I do believe he is my other half. If you two just talk once about this whole situation, if he tells you he will reunite with you May-June, once you plan on going back, and he sticks to his word then you will know he is the right one for you. If you go, and things have changed... well he wasn't the one.
Author girlunchained Posted March 3, 2013 Author Posted March 3, 2013 I think everyone has a different level of communication they need or feel comfortable with. Even when we talked every day for hours it didn't ease the loneliness or the LDR difficulties. It's both nice and hard when there aren't any relationship problems to tackle or work through and all you can do is be patient and hope the other person doesn't have a sudden change of heart before the distance can finally be closed. I've never been really good at waiting, so this is tough. It's so exciting you get to see your guy in 2 weeks So soon!
KoKo0 Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 It is tough and I agree with you about the other not having a sudden change of heart before the distance can finally be closed. This isn't the case from my side, but it does worry me a bit as well about him. Hopefully he is a good guy and doesn't just say something he didn't mean. and yes I am so excited! :bunny:
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