mucpa91 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I've been out of the dating world for many years due to being married and then a single parent. I've been dating an old flame now for almost a year - we did take a three month break about half way through due to my being scared. My question is this, we have a great time together and get along wonderfully. However every weekend he spends with his family(parents) about two hours away . Most of the time I think it is great that he is so committed to taking care of his elderly parents and appreciate that side of him. But there are times like today when I feel neglected. I have a daughter who is only gone every other weekend and I have asked that we spend some of those weekends together but for the most part he ignores my request. Like his reasoning this weekend was that last night he had to attend a function with his sister and her family and today he slept too late for us to see each other before he traveled to his parents for the weekend. Most weekends I make a point of meeting up with him before he goes there to have lunch and at least connect some. It's been a long time since I've had these feelings about someone - both the good and the bad feelings. Am I being overly dramatic and needy??? Unfortunately all my friends are married and don't have time on the weekends to do stuff that could take my mind off of this situation. Any opinions are appreciated.
Tiny Dancer Girl Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I know how you feel. Seems like he really cares about his family and chooses them over a relationship. I do agree he should try and spend those weekends when your daughter is away with you. If a man does not want to spend any time with you at all then ditch him. It's ok to give somebody space, but that much is too much. I'm about to write a post cause I am going through similar problems.
Robman9911 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I agree he needs to be more compromising. Either needs to invite you occasionally or let them know he cant make it every weekend. Tell him you care about him, but you need and want to spend the weekends with him. The weekends you have your daughter he can go but the weekends you are free you expect him to spend time with you. (its not too much to ask for in my opinion as a man)
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