Brunettie Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Sunday, my boyfriend of 9 months & I had a talk. He was just telling me some concerns he had (like I'm not that chatty with his friends, wondering if my idea of fun is the same as his, he likes to have deep convos about everything, etc) Well, we talked, and we're still together..I saw him the next day. But he's being a little weird now. I've had to initiate most communication, and we didn't talk 2 days this week. My best friend was messaging him a little and he was talking to her about it, and he said I'M being weird and acting strange. I don't think I am, but anyways. I'm probably going to see him tomorrow. But like one thing is he hasn't been saying I love you unless I say it first. I've not gotten an Ily since Monday... :/ He says he still loves me though. I am just sad and hurting and I need advice. I have way more stuff to say but I don't want to make this post too long. I guess I just want any advice lol. Maybe since he thinks I'm being weird, he wants me to contact him first. Maybe he's not contacting me because he wants space. I have no idea and that's what killing me.
rocketman122 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I guess the issue is youre both acting weird to each other, in each others eyes and its a misunderstanding. someone needs to step up and get it settled.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 He sounds like he is having doubts about the relationship and is distancing. It's not a good sign that he is telling you your personality flaws. I don't see what's the big deal about not being chatty around his friends and how it affects the relationship.... 1
MidwestUSA Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 He's talking to your best friend about it, but not to you? Big warning sign. Better get this out in the open now. 2
april38 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I'm not sure what he's thinking, but it sounds like you are doing most of the initiating right now, and the first thing you need to do is stop. If you keep pushing him to be normal, it might push him away even further. Give him space even though it feels unnatural, because if he's questioning the relationship, and you start to get all clingy, he's going to question it even more.
veggirl Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I think you should be prepared for a break up. Sorry 1
truth_seeker Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 9 months together and all of the sudden he has concerns? That means he wants out. 1
iKING Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 9 months together and all of the sudden he has concerns? That means he wants out. That's my best guess as well, along with the being distant. Sounds like excuses really.
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