antineutrino Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I had a first date with a girl (coffee) earlier this week. I thought it went solid. I texted her later and told her I had a great time; she responded likewise. A couple days later I called, but she didn't pick up so I left a msg (SMS) saying that I'd love to take her to dinner next Friday. She responded a few hours later with: "Hey [my name], Sorry just saw this! I actually have a busy weekend so I won't be able to do dinner. Hope you have a good weekend!" What does this mean? Did she misread my message and think I was talking about this weekend? On the one hand she apologizes, uses exclamation points, and responds instead of ignores. On the other hand, she doesn't offer an alternative date. One friend said it's not a great sign, but probably worth trying one more time. Agree with that assessment?
curlygirl40 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Unfortunately she doesn't seem interested. The fact that she didn't suggest an alternate night is a big sign I think. If I'm interested in a guy and he asks me out and I can't go out on that day I ALWAYS will say 'how about X or Y or Z?'. If I'm interested I want him to know it. So I agree with your friends. Bad sign. I think her 'mixed signals' is her just trying to be nice and not completely ignore you.
Author antineutrino Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 That's what I was afraid of. Do you think it's acceptable to give it one more try in a couple days? I know the chances aren't great, but I really like her.
Fallen Petals Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I would send her another message and give her a few choices - say you understand she's busy and you think you can manage to free up on ONE of the following evenings, but please let you know which one, and if none of them work her for then you have your answer...unless none of them work and she offers something else instead - in which case she could be JUST that busy.
iKING Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 That's what I was afraid of. Do you think it's acceptable to give it one more try in a couple days? I know the chances aren't great, but I really like her. It may be best to move on at this point and go onto the next. If she wants to see you let her contact you. I have to agree with curly, it sounds as though she isn't interested but doesn't want to be rude about it, which is nice of her really. Keep your chin up! There'll be another.
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