Amelie1980 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Our first date was a year ago today. It was the most amazing of my life. Now I haven't heard from him for 6 weeks as I can't bring myself to reply to his email and I'm clinically depressed. what a difference a year makes.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Our first date was a year ago today. It was the most amazing of my life. Now I haven't heard from him for 6 weeks as I can't bring myself to reply to his email and I'm clinically depressed. what a difference a year makes. Sometimes people just need a hug...you need one so Big BIG hugs to you* ....you have survived and you will continue to survive and one day find real love. Long lasting love to take the hurt away...
Author Amelie1980 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 I'm desperate to contact him. we broke up over one silly fight....
Yasuandio Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I'm desperate to contact him. we broke up over one silly fight.... Well, he sent you an email, at least respond. See what happens. Let him know you havn't been well the last few weeks, I mean it's true, that would explain your lack of response. Or just say what you feel is appropriate in your mind. It won't hurt anything. The worse thing that can happen is that he will not respond back. Another thing you could do is ask him out for a coffee, and meet to chat. Again, the worse thing that will happen is that he will decline or not respond. If you can handle the rejection or nonresponse (determine this ahead of time - because it is a posibility), then go for it. Yas
Author Amelie1980 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Well, he sent you an email, at least respond. See what happens. Let him know you havn't been well the last few weeks, I mean it's true, that would explain your lack of response. Or just say what you feel is appropriate in your mind. It won't hurt anything. The worse thing that can happen is that he will not respond back. Another thing you could do is ask him out for a coffee, and meet to chat. Again, the worse thing that will happen is that he will decline or not respond. If you can handle the rejection or nonresponse (determine this ahead of time - because it is a posibility), then go for it. Yas It was a huge long email detailing how much I meant to him and how much he wanted it to work. How it will probably be one of the biggest regrets he has looking back from the future. I didn't know what to say and what's the point now.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Just try and stop beinv so dan stubborn Amelie! Do you want to grow old and have regrets? Let go of the pride and fear of the what ifs...if you contact him. Over one silly arguement? He sends a touching email? You both seem sorry! Now get off your rear and respond to him and see. The foolishness must end.
Author Amelie1980 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Just try and stop beinv so dan stubborn Amelie! Do you want to grow old and have regrets? Let go of the pride and fear of the what ifs...if you contact him. Over one silly arguement? He sends a touching email? You both seem sorry! Now get off your rear and respond to him and see. The foolishness must end. What can I say to him when he's told me he doesn't love me anymore. Seriously...what can I say.
Yasuandio Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 It was a huge long email detailing how much I meant to him and how much he wanted it to work. How it will probably be one of the biggest regrets he has looking back from the future. I didn't know what to say and what's the point now. Girl, you are clinically depressed if you care for the guy and you didn't know what to say to an email like you are describing. There may still be a point to responding now. Just let the dude know what the truth is. He probably was really hurt and confused - after pouring his heart out to you - and hearing nothing back. He may have perceived that lack of response as cold. And I would agree. Why not explain to him your illness, not for sympathy, but so he will understand what happened? That is what the point is now. Can you at least do that? That would provide him with some closeure if your relationship is over, and it may help you reconcile this matter in your own mind as well. Yas
Author Amelie1980 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Girl, you are clinically depressed if you care for the guy and you didn't know what to say to an email like you are describing. There may still be a point to responding now. Just let the dude know what the truth is. He probably was really hurt and confused - after pouring his heart out to you - and hearing nothing back. He may have perceived that lack of response as cold. And I would agree. Why not explain to him your illness, not for sympathy, but so he will understand what happened? That is what the point is now. Can you at least do that? That would provide him with some closeure if your relationship is over, and it may help you reconcile this matter in your own mind as well. Yas He was pouring his heart out to me but not saying he wanted me back. He doesn't. He said I'm not the one and he ended it. His last email confused the hell out of me.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Wait...he told you he doesn't love you anymore? Brash maybe? No....there is nothing you can say...Amelie...please, stop wasfing your sorrows on him. Get an anti depressant. Please, you are too beautiful to waste time on him after he said that... He may have said it in anger but...wel...youre hurt badly. I told my ex fhis...but for sifferent reasons and she knew I loved her and was lying...let it go. Be a strong woman and find a man who will love you...
Yasuandio Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Wait...he told you he doesn't love you anymore? Brash maybe? No....there is nothing you can say...Amelie...please, stop wasfing your sorrows on him. Get an anti depressant. Please, you are too beautiful to waste time on him after he said that... He may have said it in anger but...wel...youre hurt badly. I told my ex fhis...but for sifferent reasons and she knew I loved her and was lying...let it go. Be a strong woman and find a man who will love you... Yes, I agree with Todd. If the purpose of the e-mail was to break-up with you, by stating "you are not the one" then you have to buck up, accept it and go NC, like you have been doing. Go to the doctor - and get evaluated - STAT. Don't fool around diagnosing yourself. There are modern medicines that can help you feel better. But you are going to have to care enough about yourself to go to a doctor or clinic and see a professional. Please do this for us, and report back. Keep posting too!
Author Amelie1980 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 He stopped loving me over one silly fight, petty interests and me being a bit iffy over a couple of things. I've tried two different anti depressants. they make me feel worse.
Yasuandio Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 He stopped loving me over one silly fight, petty interests and me being a bit iffy over a couple of things. I've tried two different anti depressants. they make me feel worse. The reasson he stoped loving you does not matter anymore. Like he said, one day he may regret it. Now is the time you must take care of yourself - so you will be available to entertain all the other handsome men that want to enjoy your company! Have a psychiatrist prescribe to you. Describe your symptoms carefully, and the reasons the AD failed/side effects. I'm not a doctor, but in my experience, the older ad meds work much better on me. And I always do my research about weight gain - and make it clear to the psychiatrist that I don't need anything else to be depressed about. He gets me, and respects that. Ask your doctor about the older meds and get his/her opinion. You have to keep trying until you find the one that works. As well, a psychiatrist may evauate you and find syptoms of anxiety, or other stress related conditions that you are not aware of - that interfer with AD's. A regular GM may miss that. That is why it is very important for you to see a specialist if the AD drugs did not work.
Author Amelie1980 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 I live in the UK. We have a national health service. not so easy just to.pick and choose. The only.thing that would.make it better is.him.
Yasuandio Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I live in the UK. We have a national health service. not so easy just to.pick and choose. The only.thing that would.make it better is.him. Well - you don't have him. The fact is, YOU DO NOT NEED HIM TO SURVIVE AND BE HAPPY. You only desire him. He is a "want" not a "need." He does not feel you are the one - and he told you so. The only direction you could possibly with him, is to hang out and hook up once in awhile, start caring more for him, develop deeper feelings for him - BUT accepting all along that he does not feel the same for you. He might agree to that. Can you do that? Would you want to do that? Do you need to do that? Now, let's take this a step farther. While he would be seeing you, he would most likely be seeing other girls too, because, as he said, he is looking for "the one," obviously. Perhaps some unknown time from now, he may very well find "the one," if it's not you (like he already has told you) and it turns out to be another girl, he would have to drop you, because that girl would not be comfortable with your relationship. Now, does that sound like a smart idea? Can you handle that position? Do you ever want to be in that postion? Do you need to be in that postion? You see, this relationship with him is not going to work, no matter what. The only way is if he has a sudden realization that he made a mistake, and he comes back to you, like a free bird. That's it. Count your blessings. He was honest with you. You don't need him. You are great on you own. Yas
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