EAP Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 (edited) It's been two weeks since I got out of my past relationship. It was long-term until I found out he cheated on me. For the first week I sort of vegged for a while and just recently I've been somewhat active on a dating site. A guy messaged me fairly quickly after I set up my profile. I find him attractive, he's really sweet, and he's good with conversation (makes me laugh). He asked me out on a date for tomorrow, I'm a little nervous and hesitant because I'm not sure if it's too soon to start dating again. Anyone have some advice or words of wisdom? Edited March 2, 2013 by EAP
MidwestUSA Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 WAY to soon for anything serious, but nothing wrong with getting out for a little fun. Keep it light. If you find yourself making endless comparisons to your ended relationship, then you may want to back off and take some time for yourself.
iKING Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Agree with the above, It's too soon to get into a new serious relationship. However, if you want to have some fun that's fine. If he's wise he'll assume he's just a rebound and not get emotionally involved so quickly. You may need some time to work through what's happened in your previous relationship before moving on to the next or It's possible you'll find yourself with trust issues and endless comparisons to your ex. Keep your chin up and have some fun, but try not to jump on to the next serious endeavor without working through your last
veggirl Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Uh yeah that would be WAY too soon for me. But you don't seem at all upset about your break up...is that true? I mean you just vegged out for a week, sounds like its not a big deal. So if you feel ready, then go. But I TOTALLY disagree with the other 2 posters, going on a date "for fun" if this guy is looking for a relationship is a) using him and b) pretty fked up.
Author EAP Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Uh yeah that would be WAY too soon for me. But you don't seem at all upset about your break up...is that true? I mean you just vegged out for a week, sounds like its not a big deal. So if you feel ready, then go. But I TOTALLY disagree with the other 2 posters, going on a date "for fun" if this guy is looking for a relationship is a) using him and b) pretty fked up. It's entirely more complicated than the fact that he just cheated on me. He dragged me by for three months and we were pretty much done, he just didn't want to do the job of breaking up with me. So he pushed me until I did it. I was miserable for 3+ months... so i'm tired of being upset. And I go on dates to find the man I'm going to marry, not to "have fun." It won't be serious at first of course, but I'm not going to just mess around for nothing.
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