Debbie2508 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I'm 2 months post bu, but only 1 week nc ( it was only tiny contact, maybe 20 words between us on text). Prior to that, there's been about 3 texts and 1 call, all my instigation. I'm feeling worse than ever, panicky, racing heart, shaking. Went to doctor yesterday and he prescribed AD's , but, having looked it up on net and hearing about the possible side effects , I 'm too worried to take the first one! I'm a complete mess, I still go to work, keep the house clean etc, and manage to sleep at night (although I wake early). But there seems no point in anything anymore. Am I feeling worse because I've not stayed nc, or do you think I'm finally getting to the "acceptance " stage, and that's what's upsetting me??
jovan Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Just give it some time. Its been rough ride for me in first few weeks of NC. But am doing better every day, and so you will. Don't let your self call him. And take it day by day
cavalier99 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 (edited) I'm 2 months post bu, but only 1 week nc ( it was only tiny contact, maybe 20 words between us on text). Prior to that, there's been about 3 texts and 1 call, all my instigation. I'm feeling worse than ever, panicky, racing heart, shaking. Went to doctor yesterday and he prescribed AD's , but, having looked it up on net and hearing about the possible side effects , I 'm too worried to take the first one! I'm a complete mess, I still go to work, keep the house clean etc, and manage to sleep at night (although I wake early). But there seems no point in anything anymore. Am I feeling worse because I've not stayed nc, or do you think I'm finally getting to the "acceptance " stage, and that's what's upsetting me?? Sorry your having such a rough time. Listen you'll get thru this. But you can have absolutely NO CONTACT. Just one text from my ex that i didn't respond to messed me up for weeks. Your only 1 week NC with a true understanding it is over. Once you get a month then 2 month etcetera. The pure madness and physical withdrawal symptoms end and you will be over the worst of it. Hang in there. Cav Take the meds. I've taken them before no prob...and the severe adverse effect are rare. Have you read the adverse efforts of aspirin? You'd be horrified. Edited March 2, 2013 by cavalier99
Sososad Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Sorry your having a rough time But those symptoms are quite normal For a broken heart most people experience Some if not them all. What I found really hindered me was lying around feeling sorry for myself And poor me .. Keep busy as possible .. Sure u get the moments he pops into your head but if your busy its less and less .. You will get through it but just ignore him for your own benefit . Maybe look at blocking his number .. You will get through this .. I'm Not a expert but I heard the tablets take 2 weeks to kinda take effect Bear that in mind too...
Author Debbie2508 Posted March 3, 2013 Author Posted March 3, 2013 Thanks for the advice you 3. Cav....have taken 2 tablets,keeping fingers crossed. It just seems a little ironic that taking something because you have "low mood"(the doc's term),could have the side effect of making you feel suicidal! I take your point about asprin tho,lol . Sososad.....yep,am trying to keep distracted and think of other things,and succeeding up to a point,but it always feels like he's "lurking"at the back of my mind,worming his way back into my thoughts.Need moe willpower!! Jovan.....I agree,I need to just take it day by day and resist the contact urge.Am really pleased things are starting to get better for you...You sound so much more positive lately
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