Thunderchild Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Good Morning Everyone Once again, congratulations to you all for surviving to another day. Just remember, all you have to do is get through to tomorrow. All the tomorrows quickly add up. Well, first time that I didn't wake up in darkness. Must have got a good 6 hours unbroken sleep. Long may it last. The Rationalization behind cheating article - The Rationalization Behind Cheating | The Thought Refuse - that I found yesterday really put a lot of things into perspective for me. It also reinforces my belief that there will never be any reconciliation. If she is unable to accept responsibility for her actions, then there is no point even in engaging in communication with her. She has or is trying to convince herelf that she was justified in cheating. Completely unacceptable. No Contact probably forever. Having done it once, and possibly many times before, she will undoubtedly do it again in the future - once a cheater always a cheater. Meanwhile, met a really nice girl whilst on my travels. I doubt very much if she has any romantic interest in me. But, just being able to talk to a woman without any pressure or expectations is very refreshing. Another step forward I think. Plus, had some really good sales figures for my books for February - so, a bit of light at the end of the tunnel. Live long & Prosper
cavalier99 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Glad your sleeping better. She probably spent the 2 months between Christmas and the BU justifying her reasons why it was OK to cheat and prepare herself to end it with you (and most likely line up the other guy). Yup NC forever. 1
Sososad Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Great news fair play! After a good nights sleep the mind is defo clearer!! 1
Author Thunderchild Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Great news fair play! After a good nights sleep the mind is defo clearer!! Yep - that's about the size of it. The world looks brighter, even though it's cloudy out and for some reason I feel about two inches taller (!)
Author Thunderchild Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Glad your sleeping better. She probably spent the 2 months between Christmas and the BU justifying her reasons why it was OK to cheat and prepare herself to end it with you (and most likely line up the other guy). Yup NC forever. Cav - I suspect that he was already lined up before Xmas. She just needed to be sure he would be around before she could bail on me. The baby (if it even exists, I don't know what the h*ll to believe) may well have been conceived at Xmas time.
cavalier99 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Cav - I suspect that he was already lined up before Xmas. She just needed to be sure he would be around before she could bail on me. The baby (if it even exists, I don't know what the h*ll to believe) may well have been conceived at Xmas time. Yup. F*ck it. Her loss. Congrats on the book sales. Yes the days add up, pain lessons, and life moves forward. Eventually we'll wonder why we were even bothered about the whole thing. 1
iouaname Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Congratulations on two full weeks! I know when I hit two weeks I was so thrilled. It felt like such an accomplishment for some reason.
Sososad Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Yep - that's about the size of it. The world looks brighter, even though it's cloudy out and for some reason I feel about two inches taller (!) Heard a saying on here I think About some people been like clouds And that it's only when clouds move Away the sun is allowed to shine !!
Author Thunderchild Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Heard a saying on here I think About some people been like clouds And that it's only when clouds move Away the sun is allowed to shine !! What a brilliant concept!
Author Thunderchild Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Congratulations on two full weeks! I know when I hit two weeks I was so thrilled. It felt like such an accomplishment for some reason. Many thanks - the frst few days were hard, becasue I was hurting and had no perspective/frame of reference, but the guys (and gals) on this place really helped me get my head together - big "Thank You" to all of you!!
Author Thunderchild Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Yup. F*ck it. Her loss. Congrats on the book sales. Yes the days add up, pain lessons, and life moves forward. Eventually we'll wonder why we were even bothered about the whole thing. Wise words, Cav. Wise words.
TrueLoveSeeker Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I am on day 14 as well. My life has gotten so much better and I have been hanging out with friends that I neglected so much during our relationship. I have had so much fun these past few weeks and I believe it can only get better. I have chosen to make this an opportunity to improve myself rather than a time to feel bad about myself. I have had the best grades I have ever had in my life and I am truly starting to become happy with who I am. I never thought that I could be happy again without this person but it turns out that I am such a better man with this experience and wouldnt change anything. Of course there are many things I regret but each one of my regrets have taught me something and I am thankful for each one of those lessons. I still have ups and downs but I know that it will only get better from here on out. For those of you not certain with NC, I strongly recommend it because it is a win win situation no matter what. Ignorance is bliss. 1
Author Thunderchild Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 I am on day 14 as well. My life has gotten so much better and I have been hanging out with friends that I neglected so much during our relationship. I have had so much fun these past few weeks and I believe it can only get better. I have chosen to make this an opportunity to improve myself rather than a time to feel bad about myself. I have had the best grades I have ever had in my life and I am truly starting to become happy with who I am. I never thought that I could be happy again without this person but it turns out that I am such a better man with this experience and wouldnt change anything. Of course there are many things I regret but each one of my regrets have taught me something and I am thankful for each one of those lessons. I still have ups and downs but I know that it will only get better from here on out. For those of you not certain with NC, I strongly recommend it because it is a win win situation no matter what. Ignorance is bliss. TLS - excellent news!
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