MrCastle Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Ha, you know I'm kind of thinking I will. I think he is a lot younger than me though. Maybe 10 years. But you are very astute to bring it up. My reason is poor though, but related to LS... I've never dated an Indian guy. I know plenty, but they are all married or way too young. I don't know, is that stupid? Is that wrong? I love the accent, and the Indian people i know are hilarious. I've read of some Indian men here complaining they couldn't get dates, hy should I not be open to that? Or, maybe he was just looking for a cooking gig. Thats entirely possible. I'm open to that too. Do whatever you want. For the record I know India and Pakistan are two different countries but I couldn't pass up the opportunity to post my last post. When will I get another chance to land a joke that clever. Most likely never
Author 2sure Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 Yes, I will at least go to his shop, see what happens. Im not looking for a relationship at all, but I don't think I should not date just because of that. I would never lead someone on. So, I can do what I want. My daughter knows I post here but has no access. I've discussed the whole being more approachable to meeting people thing I'm attempting and how it was this forum that gave me the inspiration . She said basically, "Mom, it's an on line group. Some of these people are just not all there. You do not need to take one for this team ." Yeah, so there's that to think about.
MrCastle Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Yes, I will at least go to his shop, see what happens. Im not looking for a relationship at all, but I don't think I should not date just because of that. I would never lead someone on. So, I can do what I want. My daughter knows I post here but has no access. I've discussed the whole being more approachable to meeting people thing I'm attempting and how it was this forum that gave me the inspiration . She said basically, "Mom, it's an on line group. Some of these people are just not all there. You do not need to take one for this team ." Yeah, so there's that to think about. In my honest opinion, maybe you should just go out and get f***ed. Does the body good sometimes. No strings attached, one time only thing. If not with this guy, with someone else. Just to do it.
Author 2sure Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 I'm not opposed, just not feeling it. I actually don't like strangers that much. I've worked up to conversation without asking for ID and a background check, so I'm good . Besides, I've had more sex than I should have. I'm thinking conversation will be a nice change. 1
outsidethebox Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Yes, I will at least go to his shop, see what happens. Im not looking for a relationship at all, but I don't think I should not date just because of that. I would never lead someone on. So, I can do what I want. My daughter knows I post here but has no access. I've discussed the whole being more approachable to meeting people thing I'm attempting and how it was this forum that gave me the inspiration . She said basically, "Mom, it's an on line group. Some of these people are just not all there. You do not need to take one for this team ." Yeah, so there's that to think about. That is hilarious. That's some daughter you have. And she knows us so well. 1
trevzilla Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I've asked dozens of women out whom I've met in public and it never resulted in a date, so I gave up. I only strike up conversations with guys now and often have very long conversations and make new friends. Not sure why women are so afraid of meeting guys in public but are okay meeting a guy off a dating site. It's not like dating sites screen out psychos. I just don't find women very approachable. The best I ever get is a phone number, but they never respond to texts or answer phone calls. Lots of women I know through work or whatever tell me I'm handsome and I stay fit and have a full head of hair and look a lot younger than my age, so it's not my appearance. My friend suggested I make up business cards and give that to women I'm interested in as then you don't put them on the spot. I think I'll give that a try because asking for numbers is an epic fail so far.
Green Light Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I've asked dozens of women out whom I've met in public and it never resulted in a date, so I gave up. I only strike up conversations with guys now and often have very long conversations and make new friends. Not sure why women are so afraid of meeting guys in public but are okay meeting a guy off a dating site. It's not like dating sites screen out psychos. I just don't find women very approachable. The best I ever get is a phone number, but they never respond to texts or answer phone calls. Lots of women I know through work or whatever tell me I'm handsome and I stay fit and have a full head of hair and look a lot younger than my age, so it's not my appearance. My friend suggested I make up business cards and give that to women I'm interested in as then you don't put them on the spot. I think I'll give that a try because asking for numbers is an epic fail so far. Most women that I see out in public look like they are severly constipated. Women on OLD seem like they are only slightly lucid. Bottom line is that many adult women would like to date, but they don't want to date. 3
trevzilla Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Most women that I see out in public look like they are severly constipated. Women on OLD seem like they are only slightly lucid. Bottom line is that many adult women would like to date, but they don't want to date. I also think technology is making it much more difficult. People are always playing with their phones now and not even looking around or making eye contact. It's a bit frustrating. Perhaps if they stopped checking their online dating account so much, they'd meet a flesh and blood person face to face. 2
Archgirl Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 A long time ago my friends and I would do that sort of thing, go to the mall, hit on a bunch of attractive women, get 3-4 numbers each, then text them and go to parties/houses for the rest of the night. It works, but from experience nothing serious comes of it. It's more for hooking up. The girls had to know we were players. If you're going to cold approach in a serious manner, have a conversation with them, be sincere and don't act like you do it all the time. The LTR/marriages I've seen that started from a cold approach were at the book store/grocery store/gym and weren't planned. It was more serendipity. Seriously!?! Are you real? Where have you been all my life? Reformed player with a romantic bent Meanwhile OP you have got it! I'm going to a be a bit more open to cold approaches a d see what happens, thanks 1
Author 2sure Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Figured out nervous guys reason for being nervous. Married. Karma just keeps on keeping on doesn't it?
Green Light Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Figured out nervous guys reason for being nervous. Married. Karma just keeps on keeping on doesn't it? How did you find out?
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 2sure, I just assume every man hitting on me is married, until proven otherwise. Makes it a lot easier! 1
iKING Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Seriously!?! Are you real? Where have you been all my life? Reformed player with a romantic bent Meanwhile OP you have got it! I'm going to a be a bit more open to cold approaches a d see what happens, thanks Pretty sure I'm real yeah. Just been you know, living life and that whole bit. I suffered the consequences of my actions, like 2sure said, karma keeps on keepin' on. Behind closed doors I'd do a lot for a soppy romance story. Seriously I was reading other people's marriage proposals earlier just to imagine what it might be like. The universe decided I need to spend a good while alone and I can't say I blame it. Ahh, maybe someday. Until then hopefully I can help a person or two with their relationships using the experience I've gained over the years.
Author 2sure Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 How did you find out? The stupidest thing. I couldn't help myself, I googled the hell out of the info he gave me . For no reason, just habit. Came up with his kids FB page, kid is friends with his mother...who has the same last name and a picture of her and nervous guy on her profile . So, they are in the white pages. I call and ask for him. His wife asks who is calling ? I give her my FULL NAME. She asks me to hold on, comes back and says Nervous Guy isn't available right now (no shyte) but what is this regarding? I told her, oh we saw a bit of each other over the weekend and I can't find his cell number. Is this his wife? ...he told me he was divorced. Alrighty then. I told you I was dicey . 4
iKING Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 The stupidest thing. I couldn't help myself, I googled the hell out of the info he gave me . For no reason, just habit. Came up with his kids FB page, kid is friends with his mother...who has the same last name and a picture of her and nervous guy on her profile . So, they are in the white pages. I call and ask for him. His wife asks who is calling ? I give her my FULL NAME. She asks me to hold on, comes back and says Nervous Guy isn't available right now (no shyte) but what is this regarding? I told her, oh we saw a bit of each other over the weekend and I can't find his cell number. Is this his wife? ...he told me he was divorced. Alrighty then. I told you I was dicey . That was pretty darn smooth I must say, bravo!
ltjg45 Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 That was very stupid of him. I'm sure the wife has done some damage after that.
Green Light Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 The stupidest thing. I couldn't help myself, I googled the hell out of the info he gave me . For no reason, just habit. Came up with his kids FB page, kid is friends with his mother...who has the same last name and a picture of her and nervous guy on her profile . So, they are in the white pages. I call and ask for him. His wife asks who is calling ? I give her my FULL NAME. She asks me to hold on, comes back and says Nervous Guy isn't available right now (no shyte) but what is this regarding? I told her, oh we saw a bit of each other over the weekend and I can't find his cell number. Is this his wife? ...he told me he was divorced. Alrighty then. I told you I was dicey . That was some really good detective work! Also some real chutzpa to call his wife! 1
Author 2sure Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Well, I'm a former BS so ...I'm paranoid and mistrustful to begin with. Whatever. Funny thing is....this guy was sooo nervous, I'm betting this was a crime of opportunity and he has never done this before. but seriously, I have no idea and a track record to prove it! I thought I made him nervous!!! I'm such a jerk sometimes!
Green Light Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 So are you going to see him again? Just joking! :-) 1
Green Light Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Did you at least get a free breakfast out of it? And what is a "BS"?
Author 2sure Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Sure, I got breakfast and tapas on Sunday too. A BS stands for betrayed spouse. My exH was a serial cheater. Picked one woman up in a grocery store as a matter of fact!!
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Did you at least get a free breakfast out of it? And what is a "BS"? Betrayed spouse? I think Unlike 2sure, I am not a BS, I am just paranoid and distrustful by nature 2
Green Light Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Sure, I got breakfast and tapas on Sunday too. A BS stands for betrayed spouse. My exH was a serial cheater. Picked one woman up in a grocery store as a matter of fact!! I understand now. well, at least you got the breakfast and had an "experience." (I really suck at putting a positive spin on a crappy situation.)
Green Light Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Betrayed spouse? I think Unlike 2sure, I am not a BS, I am just paranoid and distrustful by nature I don't blame you. People suck. But then I'm a card carrying misanthrope so....
Author 2sure Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 no ring, no tan line, no indentation. I looked! oh my god, if I had hooked up with him ....I would never be able to come back to LS! I would never though, without seeing all credentials. Trust and verification are no conflict in my book.
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