thefooloftheyear Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 hi I suppose when I first wrote this I was in total shock and confused by my XH confused state of telling me he loved me and always would and the fact that we we're very much affectionate towards each other until the day he left. My thoughts and feeling have changed really since I first posted this... Obviously I fully understand 'if your partner is being honest' that in your case your partner was unhappy, I truly believe people only live once and should live it how they wish and although I'm hurt and my XH actions has effected my children in many ways, but he has a right to be happy in his lifetime, just like in time I will be too. Sadly my views on how some things are done are a little different to his I.e like respecting the feelings of those who around you and little things like marriage vowels things just got a bit flat between us, the first time in 16 yrs, we rarely argued, it's called a busy life and we 'both' took our eye off the ball....nothing major just life, we took each other for granted... Our sex life was regular and great, we have a fab home and fantastic grounded kids, had a good happy social live as a family unit.... He told his GF we was living separate lives?? Who knows what else!? I bet he's failed to tell her he has allowed huge debt to build up on credit cards I had no idea of... Or the way me n my kids are about to have a total downgrade on our lifestyle as we know it because of this... And that the whole time we they were together we was going out on family days out and sleeping together...not really living separate lives hey... Unless you see it with your own eyes dont believe all that you are told by a person who is willing to leave his wife/family.... But then again if you are propared to sleep with a married man then as far as I'm concerned these people are welcome to each other. I fully aware that people grow apart and some people shouldn't be together, that's cool with me now he's really not a person I want in my life, he just now needs to step up and start being a father again, which is another thing he seems to have forgotten...Me I'm looking forward to being in control of my own money and looking forward to meeting new people, finishing off my study and getting a new exciting career helping others... My very own new chapter Enjoy n have a happy life Ive said it before, but you must be some kind of special woman.! Most would be apoplectic at the thought of their H walking out to go live a new life with their affair partner. You have put it into perspective and I can only say that while you would have every right to be angry, frankly it does nothing to help you move on with your life. Keep it up...I wish you well.. TFOY 1
Author Shocked Suzie Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 Ive said it before, but you must be some kind of special woman.! Most would be apoplectic at the thought of their H walking out to go live a new life with their affair partner. You have put it into perspective and I can only say that while you would have every right to be angry, frankly it does nothing to help you move on with your life. Keep it up...I wish you well.. TFOY thank you I'm a firm believer of not f@!king about! What's done is done, I've grieved and still have crap days, but feel that life is too short to dwell on whats now in the past.... I've just gotta try and make my future the best I can Thank you for your kind words 1
Author Shocked Suzie Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Due to house sale and kids i on the unfortunate odd occasion I have to see my Ex 'briefly', I feel nothing when I see him apart from, not really sure how to put it...guilt?? Its not the right word?? But a glance from him makes me feel like Im to blame...what is that?? He seems to really hate me! Ive hardly kicked off considering...only time I have is because of the kids! It's that and his slackness with regards to the kids is the only thing that really affects me?? when he left he blamed me for almost everything, which i took and for some time believed...I know that all that's crap but why do I feel like this? It's really annoying and upsetting... Not sure how to put it, but he makes me feel this way
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