dr-strangelove Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 (edited) I met this nice girl last Tuesday on a large party in a bar on campus. I talked to her for a while and I asked her if she wanted to go to the lounge so we could talk more easily. In the lounge we talked some more, but she would almost never look at me, I was looking at the side of her face. Even though we were sitting pretty close to each other, I found it hard to get more intimate with her because of this and she didn't want to go dancing either. We had a good time anyway and when the bar was closing we went outside and I asked her phone number and she told me to call her right there so she would also have mine, which I did. By then I was a little disappointed that on the one hand I thought she was interested in me, while on the other hand I found it hard to gauge her by having an eye-to-eye conversation or getting a little more intimate. Therefore I decided to politely give her three kisses and wish her goodnight. Between the second and third kiss, however, I noticed that she wouldn't settle for that and after the third kiss our lips clumsily found each other and we shortly made out (which wasn't that great, to be honest). The next evening she adds me on FB and I accept. The morning after that I try to call her two times, but I got her voicemail instead. I figured that she was probably at the university or maybe even in bed. I texted her and asked her if she wanted to share lunch, but she replied she was busy and couldn't. I decided to call her again after dinner, but got her voicemail again. One hour later she called me, but I was in sports practice so I couldn't answer. Two and a half hours later, shortly before I entered the dresser room again, she texts me to ask if I were planning to go the city so I rang up my friend and answered her that I was already planning that. The reason I included that much detail is that it's obvious to everyone that she was also interested in me. After a little trouble, we meet up in the city and my friend quickly finds some of his friends and they and her friends leave us alone, great. So we go to a bar and the story of what happened in the lounge kinda repeats itself. We decide to go to the dance floor and even though she told me she was a good dancer, she barely moved. Somehow we start to talk about her hair and she wanted to get a hair cut. I told her she shouldn't take off too much because I really liked her hair after which she tells me with great emphasis that I'm a very kind person. After a while we go to a table and talk for a while. When the bar closes I escort her to her home and when I tell her goodbye I get the "sudden-kiss-treatment" again. This time it goes a lot smoother and when we're done she kisses me again and she does that two times again, I think. Upon leaving I suggest catching up again next week and she replies "Maybe". While I do think that she's interested in me, I find it hard to gauge her. It's not that I find it hard getting to know her, I already know quite a lot about her, but I don't have a clue about how she feels. Does she like me or isn't she romantically interested in me (which I doubt) and is she waiting for everything to pass over so she can get back to normal again? Bottom line is that I'm quite disappointed by her general lack of facial and emotional expression. When I look at her and try to get eye contact with her, she tells me I shy her. Sometimes she does laugh and when she does I know it is sincere, but it's so infrequent I don't really feel we have a connection. Sorry for the long read, but my question is, does anybody have similar experiences? And how could I open her up so we can feel that connection? Edited March 2, 2013 by dr-strangelove
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