Sososad Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Hey guys some know my story some don't Quick run down dated nearly 3 yrs Broke up a month now Had the talk last week and she's happy with her decision Doesn't want me and not sure if she loves me. So I took it like a man saved my dignity and we left ok (Bar my broken heart haha) So today I was out with my kids and there mother Driving and out of all the people to see my ex. Within 2 mins a nasty text was sent Saying basically I know your playing happy families now And I don't care or give a f**k! Basically lots of anger .. What the hell is all this about ?! Anyone any ideas?
NoLeafClover Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Hey guys some know my story some don't Quick run down dated nearly 3 yrs Broke up a month now Had the talk last week and she's happy with her decision Doesn't want me and not sure if she loves me. So I took it like a man saved my dignity and we left ok (Bar my broken heart haha) So today I was out with my kids and there mother Driving and out of all the people to see my ex. Within 2 mins a nasty text was sent Saying basically I know your playing happy families now And I don't care or give a f**k! Basically lots of anger .. What the hell is all this about ?! Anyone any ideas? B***es always talk sh*t after they see you have possibly moved on. My ex did the same thing. Broke up with me, I took it like a man after trying to talk to her and she wouldn't pick up her phone for a whole week during the BU. The second week of BU I said F*** it and started doing my thing and stayed NC (still staying NC after 3+ months now). Late that second week, I get a text saying "I am glad and hope you're happy with the love of your life...It's sh*t like this that doesn't make me regret BU with you" -She drove by my house and saw my friend's car(who is a girl) in my driveway and send that text. I didn't reply but let them hate you as much as they want. Move on, do your thing and straight up don't give a sh*t. They like to break our Hearts, but they don't like us to move on and be with other people..even as friends. Women that do this are insecure, immature and probably doubt their decision about BU with you. If I broke up with someone, and then see them moved on, even after a day or two after the breakup, I'd be happy for them and would not be mad they moved on before me. I would only be upset or mad if I regret my decision about the BU. People like this aren't worth it. You will waste a good amount of time and effort trying to figure out what runs into their head but at the end you will never figure it out. Let them be and stay NC. 2
geegirl Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 You dodged a bullet. She's probably pissy because she doesn't see you miserable and pining for her. The saying, living a good life is the best revenge. You've just shown her that you are moving on. And how selfish of her to contact you this way. If she cared for you, it would have left her heart feeling some relief that you seemed happy and that you were moving on with life. Instead, she spews venom. Don't respond to her. Ignore and keep moving forward. 2
Author Sososad Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Thanks guys for the advice when we had the chat the final talk She seemed to take pleasure in saying she didn't miss me and we should both Move forward... But sending that I believe she does care cause I for sure know if I didn't I wouldn't send a petty/nasty text!
geegirl Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Thanks guys for the advice when we had the chat the final talk She seemed to take pleasure in saying she didn't miss me and we should both Move forward... But sending that I believe she does care cause I for sure know if I didn't I wouldn't send a petty/nasty text! I don't think you should take her text as "caring" in the right sense. When she told you she would not miss you, that was mean. And what she is doing now is also out of spite. When someone cares for you, especially if she did when ending with you, her response to seeing you would be of a kind and well-wishing nature. 2
Author Sososad Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Oh sorry I didn't quite get you.. Thanks You see I really think she broke up with me against her Hearts wishes as I'd hurt her before and she chose to stay away For her self sake. She was grand and fine when she thought I wasn't leaving the house crying Everyday!! It's not right the dumper been so nasty ?!?!
oracle Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Don't play the read into it games.. You will just get stuck there and waste more of your life. See if for what it is.. shes full of it... and a headcase. Life is to short to waste time in a scenario like that. Hey guys some know my story some don't Quick run down dated nearly 3 yrs Broke up a month now Had the talk last week and she's happy with her decision Doesn't want me and not sure if she loves me. So I took it like a man saved my dignity and we left ok (Bar my broken heart haha) So today I was out with my kids and there mother Driving and out of all the people to see my ex. Within 2 mins a nasty text was sent Saying basically I know your playing happy families now And I don't care or give a f**k! Basically lots of anger .. What the hell is all this about ?! Anyone any ideas?
Author Sososad Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Yeah your right u can go insane thinking About what she meant etc Think it just shows the anger & immature levels I seen in the relationship But tried to brush over .. Like she couldn't even take 10 mins be calm and do nothing Had to send a hurtful text straight away! Guess it may just mean she doesn't give a f**k like she said in the text?! But I firmly believe if u didnt care don't text or let it bother u.... I did do the right thing ignoring her yeah ?
RiceaRoni Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 B***es always talk sh*t after they see you have possibly moved on. My ex did the same thing. Broke up with me, I took it like a man after trying to talk to her and she wouldn't pick up her phone for a whole week during the BU. The second week of BU I said F*** it and started doing my thing and stayed NC (still staying NC after 3+ months now). Late that second week, I get a text saying "I am glad and hope you're happy with the love of your life...It's sh*t like this that doesn't make me regret BU with you" -She drove by my house and saw my friend's car(who is a girl) in my driveway and send that text. I didn't reply but let them hate you as much as they want. Move on, do your thing and straight up don't give a sh*t. They like to break our Hearts, but they don't like us to move on and be with other people..even as friends. Women that do this are insecure, immature and probably doubt their decision about BU with you. If I broke up with someone, and then see them moved on, even after a day or two after the breakup, I'd be happy for them and would not be mad they moved on before me. I would only be upset or mad if I regret my decision about the BU. People like this aren't worth it. You will waste a good amount of time and effort trying to figure out what runs into their head but at the end you will never figure it out. Let them be and stay NC. My ex did the same! (Of course he's still a child and only 16) but after he broke up with me and after I stopped giving him attention and begging and didn't say anything about his new relationship he would bash me on twitter calling me a psycho and telling me how much of a creeper I was, etc. it hurt because I have been trying to move on, but I just ignored it.
RiceaRoni Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I have always heard that when someone is angry with you after leaving or dumping you they know they messed up or are regretting the BU. my ex became so angry with me and said the meanest things and I had no clue why because I left him alone like he wanted and kept myself out of his life so it confused for a while and made me feel bad actually and I felt like I was the one who dumped him lol, but yeah just know that's usually the case of their anger is either regret for the BU or they could be trying to get over you by bringing themselves to dislike you. Which shows you deserve better 1
Author Sososad Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Thanks for your reply . It's been difficult I only felt I was getting my life kinda little bit on track Nowhere near right .. But like you I respected the goodbye she gave and although my heartbroke I smiled and said goodbye Why try hurt me now.. I do think the fact she felt to text she doesn't care shows she does?
RiceaRoni Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Thanks for your reply . It's been difficult I only felt I was getting my life kinda little bit on track Nowhere near right .. But like you I respected the goodbye she gave and although my heartbroke I smiled and said goodbye Why try hurt me now.. I do think the fact she felt to text she doesn't care shows she does? I'm going through the same thing. Although many people say I should be way over it now (it's been about 5 months) it's just hard because it was my first relationship and I had never been betrayed or left behind so easily and then replaced in an instant. But like you I am getting my life back together and I am way farther in improvement than I was at the beginning it just takes time although I'm getting on in my life I still have those moments where I think 'what if?' And I have relapses and memories but I know soon ill get over that. And I know you can too haha as hard as it seems And to answer your question, I used to ask myself that the same thing. My ex didn't really text me very much after a while. He isn't really one to confront or face someone head on, but he would post things on twitter sometimes sad sometimes angry and it showed me yeah he still cared even though it wasnt direct...I mean he's finally stopped now, but I could tell he was second guessing himself. In my opinion her texting that she doesn't care shows she does care but she's trying to prove to herself that she's doesnt. That's just my thoughts and I could be totally wrong but that's just the way I see it... 1
Author Sososad Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 If I didn't care I would bother sending a text ! But hey that's my logic I'm sane she's Totally crazy !!! Ha ha ha 1
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