tuxedo cat Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Background: We've been on two dates. I really like this guy. He asked me out in person and told me he had been admiring me for awhile from afar. He's 27 and works a busy job. He seems like a very polite, sincere guy, not the player type. I also know from mutual friends that he doesn't date around much and had a two year relationship that ended about six months ago. On and after our first date he seemed very interested. It was probably the best first date I've ever had. A few times he said, "it's crazy but I really like you." He mentioned things he wanted to do with me in the future. He kissed me and held my hand. We only made out at the end but neither of us wanted to take it further than that. At one point while we were kissing he asked me what I was looking for and I told him a relationship and he said that so was he. After I left he texted me that he couldn't wait to see me again. The next morning he asked me out to a movie in a couple of nights. We texted a bit back and forth and I didn't respond to one of his texts because I assumed it didn't need a response. A few hours later he asked if I had gotten his previous text and reiterated what he had said in it. I told him that I had. So Wednesday night we had our second date. He arrived early like last time and texted me to ask if I wanted popcorn and told me he had already bought our tickets. Before the movie started he asked me if I wanted to get dinner with him that weekend and I gave him an enthusiastic yes. During the movie he held my hand and kissed me. I was concerned that the movie turned out to be very depressing for a date movie so at one point I whispered in his ear, "sorry this is such a downer." He whispered back and smiled at me, "No, I actually like it. Besides, we could be watching any movie together. I just really like spending time with you." The movie ended around midnight and when he got out he said again, "I really like being around you." I told him that I felt the same way. He said, "I'd invite you back to my place but I have to wake up early tomorrow for work." I told him that was fine and so did I. From our last date I know he physically wants to take things slow so that is probably why he said that, which I'm totally fine with. But then he confused me a bit by saying a few minutes later, "but could I go back with you to your place and stay there for awhile?" I said to him that I'd love to have him over but I had to wake up early as well so maybe next time. He didn't seem annoyed at all. Then he stopped me in the street and took my hand and said, "How's this. Let's promise that we'll see each other this weekend and you can stay at my place?" I said that I'd love to. A few minutes after I got in the cab he texted me, "I had a great time tonight! Please let me know when you get home." I did. The next day was Thursday so I was sort of expecting to hear from him since it would be natural for him to make weekend plans with me then. But nothing all day. By the end of the night I was feeling really pessimistic and disappointed. I decided to text him early this morning (Friday): "Hey, XXXX. Was just checking in about this weekend. What did you have in mind? :)" He wrote back, "Hey, sorry I disappeared. Work has really picked up with my impending trip. :-( Would you like to have dinner with me on Saturday night? I can think of a place for us to go today. :-)." For what it's worth I know this trip is legit as he has been talking about it since our first date. I wrote back, "sounds good!" But after I did I turned off my phone and haven't looked at it since because I don't even want to worry about if he's texting me or not. I'm afraid he's lost interest and I am almost tempted to not even see him tomorrow night. Am I being insane? I've had a rash of guys come on strong and then suddenly fade away in the last few months and it's made me really sensitive to any signs of low of interest. This is just such a disappointment to me because he seemed so into me when we were together and he doesn't come off as the insincere/sweet talking type. What do you guys think?
iKING Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Did I miss the part where he became uninterested? He asked you out on a date Saturday relax. You'll know if he loses interest. He's actively making plans with you, he wouldn't bother if he had lost interest. He probably just has a lot on his plate with work. 3
eleanorhurting Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 that all sounds fantastic why would you think he lost interest?? Although I really would NOT have said yes to staying overnight! Tell him you changed your mind and want to take it slowly
mortensorchid Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I would worry if he was showing some kind of avoidance or ignoring behaviors. From what you said, he hasn't done anything of the sort. GO on Saturday.
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