Do you ever think that you sound too desperate, but it is too late?

[Istandalone]

I have recently noticed my desperation. My ex and I have been slowly trying to reconcile (seems it's more me than him), and I am getting frustrated. We have spent time together and it's been great. When we're together it is better than it was before, but when we're apart I was to wring his neck!

 

After reading and re-reading an email I wrote (and had already sent, unfortunately) I realized how pathetic I sound. While in my own head it sounds sincere and thoughtful, I believe he will read it and think otherwise. I sound like one of those desperate, lonely saps that we all dread. I feel the email will make him take pity and my weepy email, instead of invoking the feelings I wish he still had for me.

 

Why is it so hard for us to pick up the pieces and be strong? Instead our sorry selves are begging for the ex's to come to their senses. I sound weak and clingy! What do you do in this situation? Is there anything that makes it easier to get back your emotional strength???

[Good heart]

I think the best thing to do with an ex is to write an email or a letter expressing your real feelings and then never contact again , in this way you may appear caring but not clingy as long as you do not call or stalk or send additional letters.

in addition I do not believe in exs and I do not like to return to someone who have hurt me, i tried it before and it brang additional desperate feelings, so by sending an email or a letter expressing your true emotions and then forgetting about your dumper you relieve yourself from the responsibility that they might not know how you feel about it and now they know, you just said what you feel and then it is better to fade away and start another cycle.

do not worry, you are not the only one, all the dumpees are in the same situation, but only the courageous ones will express themselves as much as you did, but as I said previously in the end in most cases think of it as a relief rather than hope because even if he comes back , a high risk of a recurrent rejection will occur....