breakmyfall Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I've been NC for exactly 2 weeks. We havent seen each other for 6 months as I'm currently living overseas, we kind of tried long distance for nearly 5 months and kept going back and forth with it, it was a struggle but I wanted to keep trying, then he gave up on us. NC was my decision, he always wanted us to stay in touch. I had tried it a couple times before and could only do 4 days max, now it has been 14 days so def dont want to waste all the "work" i've done. I havent been crying and am keeping it together for the sake of my new job, i wanna do well at it. I find i'm mostly ok during the day but the mornings are HELL. I wake up really really sad every day and struggle to get out of bed and once i do, i have this ache in my chest (like real physical chest pains) that doesnt go away for a couple of hours. it's really uncomfortable. I have had similar symptoms (actually worse) in the past when my Grandpa passed away so maybe that's my body's way of dealing with loss. In this case, I feel like it's more of a withdrawal symptom, like I'm detoxing from a drug. Is anyone else getting physical symptoms from NC?
creighton0123 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Break, Those pains will be the physical manifestation of extreme anxiety and, as you put it, detoxing from a drug. If you two were intimate, you are actually going through withdrawal, absent dopamine. I experienced this for the first week and a half after my BU. It's gone away (now at 3 weeks). If you shared a bed together, I'd say you should rearranging the bedroom. If you have a comfy couch, sleep on that for a few days. Do something to distinguish your routines before and after the BU. Anxiety sucks and the anxiety attacks you are experiencing can be physically painful - even to the point of feeling like a heart attack. If you drink coffee, perhaps cut back on the amount you drink. Eat a piece of dark chocolate when you wake up. Drink some soothing tea (chamomile), and exercise off some of your stress/anxiety. It'll ease up in another week or so. If it doesn't, talk to someone professional about it who might be able to prescribe mild anxiety medication.
stevie_23 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I had the chest pains. Tightness in the chest and pain whenever I woke up every morning and also at other times too when I let myself dwell on the more angry parts of how I felt about the BU. I had the total lack of appetite and nausea. I lost 20lbs.
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