Krieger Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Well I am 29 and feel like i am not successful at all . I'm constantly tortured by a sense of failure. I feel like I've failed in terms of what my potential is. sure I have a job , car, my own place no roommates. I do not make that much money 18.60 an hour is not livable wage. On top of that my boss has the nervous system of a squirrel and looks like Benjamin button when he was six years old. has an obsession for control and a very insecure person. The people I work with are cool so that is nice and even making new Friends . I got offered to be an assistant manager it would be more money but I said NO I will pass thanks anyway. Anyway I decided to go back to college a 2nd time and do something I am more passionate about. Since I am I am a good listener and i have a ton of patience's and very easy going kinda guy. I also have empathy for people and very good at encouraging and teaching people. People seem to like me a lot ,and come to me for advice on what to do about things. That being said I am still going to work full time and have been taking class at a community college and get my PER-NURSING Associate of Applied Science Degree and then transfer over to a four year college to get my Bachelor of Science in Nursing. I do how ever have a backup plan if things do not work out and that is to become a physical therapist assistant is my next option. I am giving up dating , friends , family , tv, Xbox ,drinking, partying, sports, working out , meeting new people, sleep , sex, going out , and every thing I once enjoyed for the next two years to get a real job and work on my self. I have not watch TV for one year all ready and do not miss it at all. I been reading more books and working on homework. Working 40 hours a week and taking 2 classes is work and I only get 0-5 hours a sleep 7 days a week. This year is a make it or break it year for me I want this so bad to finally have a real job and some thing I can wake up happy to go do 3 days a week. Then I can go do things on my days off that I want to do like write i like to write some day I will have a book out , help out in the community ,and try stand up comedy. Also start up an online magazine to bring in some extra cash. I want two houses so I can rent one out to make more money. I real want to get involved in the big brother big sister program . See I have all those things I want to do but cant if I do not have a good job. What woman would wanmt a guy that does nothing but work and sit at home playing Xbox? What can a guy do with no money to take a girl out ? I define myself through my job so it is hard for me not to . I do every job I had with passion and working hard no matter if i love it or hate it. I want a job that I feel like i am making a difference in the world or in some ones life. I know this field is not for every one and it takes a special man/woman to become a nurse. The desire to feel like i am not a loser drives me. I don't know if that's the healthiest thing—to be motivated by a fear of hating yourself, but it helps. What if I do not make it will I die never having been a husband and a dad I want kids and get to be a dad . If I fail I will not get to be a dad since I have no money to support them .IMO no girl will want me so this does help me feel like, "OK, take your **** more seriously. Don't just do not waste time get my home work done. Don't let the days go by without having done any work. I try not to torture myself over this stuff. But I do anyway. I am done feel sorry for my self and it time to kick it into gear now. no more excuses i made my last one yesterday. So will a girl date a guy if he is not successful?
SJC2008 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I had a date with a woman who made $70k+ a year. I met her at work when I helped her (retail) so she KNEW she made more than me.
mammasita Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Why the hell not? Its about the person and not the amount of money they make. I only wish that I had vetted my ignorant, broke, non job having ex before I got in too deep.
ltjg45 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I have a hard time believing that most females would date an generally unsuccessful male but I'm sure there is a few that would. The real question is how much tolerance does those females have to a male's general failure in the working world.
dasein Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 You will have no problems at all finding women who will date you as a man in nursing school, and after wherever you are working. I have a couple of friends who went that way and they were covered up with women before they got married. Sounds like a great career choice to me also. Good luck. 2
Soxfaninfl Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Well I am 29 and feel like i am not successful at all . I'm constantly tortured by a sense of failure. I feel like I've failed in terms of what my potential is. sure I have a job , car, my own place no roommates. I do not make that much money 18.60 an hour is not livable wage. On top of that my boss has the nervous system of a squirrel and looks like Benjamin button when he was six years old. has an obsession for control and a very insecure person. The people I work with are cool so that is nice and even making new Friends . I got offered to be an assistant manager it would be more money but I said NO I will pass thanks anyway. Anyway I decided to go back to college a 2nd time and do something I am more passionate about. Since I am I am a good listener and i have a ton of patience's and very easy going kinda guy. I also have empathy for people and very good at encouraging and teaching people. People seem to like me a lot ,and come to me for advice on what to do about things. That being said I am still going to work full time and have been taking class at a community college and get my PER-NURSING Associate of Applied Science Degree and then transfer over to a four year college to get my Bachelor of Science in Nursing. I do how ever have a backup plan if things do not work out and that is to become a physical therapist assistant is my next option. I am giving up dating , friends , family , tv, Xbox ,drinking, partying, sports, working out , meeting new people, sleep , sex, going out , and every thing I once enjoyed for the next two years to get a real job and work on my self. I have not watch TV for one year all ready and do not miss it at all. I been reading more books and working on homework. Working 40 hours a week and taking 2 classes is work and I only get 0-5 hours a sleep 7 days a week. This year is a make it or break it year for me I want this so bad to finally have a real job and some thing I can wake up happy to go do 3 days a week. Then I can go do things on my days off that I want to do like write i like to write some day I will have a book out , help out in the community ,and try stand up comedy. Also start up an online magazine to bring in some extra cash. I want two houses so I can rent one out to make more money. I real want to get involved in the big brother big sister program . See I have all those things I want to do but cant if I do not have a good job. What woman would wanmt a guy that does nothing but work and sit at home playing Xbox? What can a guy do with no money to take a girl out ? I define myself through my job so it is hard for me not to . I do every job I had with passion and working hard no matter if i love it or hate it. I want a job that I feel like i am making a difference in the world or in some ones life. I know this field is not for every one and it takes a special man/woman to become a nurse. The desire to feel like i am not a loser drives me. I don't know if that's the healthiest thing—to be motivated by a fear of hating yourself, but it helps. What if I do not make it will I die never having been a husband and a dad I want kids and get to be a dad . If I fail I will not get to be a dad since I have no money to support them .IMO no girl will want me so this does help me feel like, "OK, take your **** more seriously. Don't just do not waste time get my home work done. Don't let the days go by without having done any work. I try not to torture myself over this stuff. But I do anyway. I am done feel sorry for my self and it time to kick it into gear now. no more excuses i made my last one yesterday. So will a girl date a guy if he is not successful? Krieger, your not unsuccesful. Your making an effort to better yourself and get an education. You also have your own place. Having kids is expensive. I know I have a 9 year old son and was married for 11 years. Your motivation is a good thing to be a success. Stick with school and don't give up. Believe me I wanted to quit many times, but I got my Bachelors degree.
hppr Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 You can date no problem I know tons and tons of poor guys who have girlfriends and kids. That's not saying it's responsible to have kids that you can't pay for but that is a whole other topic.
StanMusial Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 You will have no problems at all finding women who will date you as a man in nursing school, and after wherever you are working. I have a couple of friends who went that way and they were covered up with women before they got married. Sounds like a great career choice to me also. Good luck. Well dasein and I are on the same page it seems but he beat me to it. Dude in nursing school the ratio of M:F is going to be enormously in your favor. You'll have study groups and clubs and all that where you might be the only guy. Also, two of my sisters went to nursing school and one now has a cush desk job making six figures. So you'll be OK. I'll add this. Kreiger you seem ambitious which is good and that will give you an edge over many, many guys your age. You just need to prioritize and chill out a little bit, don't bite off more than you can chew at once. Hang onto your job, knock school out, take advantage of your opportunities with the young ladies in your nursing school and you'll be just fine. 2
Author Krieger Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Krieger, your not unsuccesful. Your making an effort to better yourself and get an education. You also have your own place. Having kids is expensive. I know I have a 9 year old son and was married for 11 years. Your motivation is a good thing to be a success. Stick with school and don't give up. Believe me I wanted to quit many times, but I got my Bachelors degree. I feel like I am some times and not haveing really done any thing yet. I will not give up I can not do that i got to be a train and keep on going. 1
Author Krieger Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Well dasein and I are on the same page it seems but he beat me to it. Dude in nursing school the ratio of M:F is going to be enormously in your favor. You'll have study groups and clubs and all that where you might be the only guy. Also, two of my sisters went to nursing school and one now has a cush desk job making six figures. So you'll be OK. I'll add this. Kreiger you seem ambitious which is good and that will give you an edge over many, many guys your age. You just need to prioritize and chill out a little bit, don't bite off more than you can chew at once. Hang onto your job, knock school out, take advantage of your opportunities with the young ladies in your nursing school and you'll be just fine. Yea I been just trying to make more reachable goals and not try to do every thing all at once.
Drseussgrrl Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I think you might possibly be going about this all wrong. I think it's great that you want to further your education to do something you love in addition to setting yourself up to be a good provider in the future. Kudos to you! For me, it's not the amount of money a man makes that intrigues me, it's his drive to succeed, his ambition, his intellectual curiosity. I love a go-getter and someone who can get sh*t done. But don't neglect the things in life that make you happy. Life is short. Don't go without sleep - that's just dumb. You'll burn out. Make time for things and people who fill up your love tanks.
Bengal Tiger Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I hear you bro. It's all about attitude and confidence. It's a good thing that you're putting forth effort in improving yourself and that you're hard working. Some woman will see that you have ambition and will be into it. Many of my female colleagues have trophy husbands who are less successful in career but handsome decent guys. Some have stay at home dads. I'm trying to help my friend's boyfriend get a job at my company and its tough because he hasn't had a steady corporate job yet, mostly freelance stuff. She's the breadwinner in their household. It happens more than you may think. Think positive and the right woman will pick up on it.
Author Krieger Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 (edited) I think you might possibly be going about this all wrong. I think it's great that you want to further your education to do something you love in addition to setting yourself up to be a good provider in the future. Kudos to you! For me, it's not the amount of money a man makes that intrigues me, it's his drive to succeed, his ambition, his intellectual curiosity. I love a go-getter and someone who can get sh*t done. But don't neglect the things in life that make you happy. Life is short. Don't go without sleep - that's just dumb. You'll burn out. Make time for things and people who fill up your love tanks. I am not going back to college for the money all though it a facter . I just cant take woring retail anymore I need some thing that is going to challenge me daily. My job now does not do that and even if the gave me 25 an hour I still say no I am good. As far as giving up things that make me happy working towards this goal makes me happy at the monment. Friends well seeing that they got into hardcore drugs I got them losse so I hang out by myself . I do treat my self every 12 weeks if I pass every class. I have to give my self a reward of some sort. Edited March 1, 2013 by Krieger
Quest Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 The fact that you are motivated enough to retrain for a new, worthwhile job and make lots of sacrifices to do so will be attractive to a lot of girls. Most people are turned off by negativity, rather than turned on by success, which is subjective anyway.
sillyanswer Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 So will a girl date a guy if he is not successful? No. This never happens.
Shardish Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It's not about where you've been that matters, it's about where you're going that matters and you my friend are going places. It takes some determination at the age of 29 to throw yourself back into education. You deserve praise, self-praise, not criticism and if a woman cannot be anything other than impressed then she isn't worthy of your time. 1
crude Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 You're so hard on yourself, maybe you should just take a woman with you into a dangerous situation, use your body as a human shield to absorb bullets, flames, and knives, and you'll always be remembered as a hero, a real man, instead of not being a man at all. Either that, or smarten up, stop the stereotypes, realize it's the 21st century, and do your best. Why Househusbands Are the Future - NYTimes.com
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Depends what circles you run in. And even then sometimes, depends on the person. The short answer is yes, they will. But it has to be a special person. In my perspective, a nurse is equivalent to stable and OK for most women. In other words, it doesn't hurt you, but doesn't help you. It's like being an accountant.
Eggplant Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Let me see... •You're an extremely hard worker, and motivated to better your standing in life. •Type A personality (these people never live up to their own standards) •You're humble, not an egomaniac. •You have empathy and patience, and you are good at taking care of people. •You are eager to become a father and have children. •You have a passion for what you're studying. •Good looking Oh hell no. You had better just give up and die because no woman would ever put up with that.
Eggplant Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 (edited) wrong thread Edited March 2, 2013 by Eggplant wrong thread
Author Krieger Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Let me see... •You're an extremely hard worker, and motivated to better your standing in life. •Type A personality (these people never live up to their own standards) •You're humble, not an egomaniac. •You have empathy and patience, and you are good at taking care of people. •You are eager to become a father and have children. •You have a passion for what you're studying. •Good looking Oh hell no. You had better just give up and die because no woman would ever put up with that. thanks for the kind words
bac Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Applied Science Degree and then transfer over to a four year college to get my Bachelor of Science in Nursing. I do how ever have a backup plan if things do not work out and that is to become a physical therapist assistant is my next option. I want a job that I feel like i am making a difference in the world or in some ones life. I know this field is not for every one and it takes a special man/woman to become a nurse. So will a girl date a guy if he is not successful? It depends on a girl. Do you mean a girl who makes $7 per hr? Do you mean a girl who makes $70 per hr? If I was the first girl, I would consider you successful. If I was the second girl who makes $70 per hr, I might use you for ONS or FWBs.
carhill Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 So will a girl date a guy if he is not successful? IME, yes, presuming success is a soft, versus hard, requirement, and she'll enjoy the process and exposure while mindful of the attentions of more successful men. IMO, the preference for success is valid, as is how it is individually quantified. I hope such pursuits are successful.
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