DrStrangelove Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 (edited) Long story short - met girl online - she watched my puppy one night - 1 date - text 24/7 for a month/half. Anyways, I got tired of waiting around - she kept flaking on dates (for real reasons though, she was interested) This is the last series of text - still waiting for her last response - which will come soon - thanks for insight lol Me: Just reiterating.. idk y but I want to.. so u know I only see u as a friend, if that. Could almost put u into an acquaintance column, as friends I define differently. (Ur a friend though). (If I was looking to date u n impress u, I wouldn't have been so open n honest, woulda played games like every other chump guy out there). I know not to put pressure on girls, as its not worthwhile, the sea is plentiful. I don't chase girls. I'm setting myself up for disappointment by just texting u. It's fun to talk to u.. but, I have a feeling if I was brad Pitt u would find time. Obama finds time n he's the pres. Lol I know we have gone back n forth on this like an argument, but this girl asked me out (lol go figure as friends) n I started realizing I deserve a girl who's gnna come through on her word. I'm not a player, I don't even really want to go out w her.. she wrks 65 hour weeks n has time. Im obviously not a priority to u. I'm not gnna play games w someone. I really do like u though.. n feel we have a lot lot lot in common. I'm very good at distancing myself as most people annoy me. So, u wont hear from me unless ur CALLING to hang out. I really do like u n have a feeling there could/maybe/might b something there.. if I end up not hearing from u.. gl w ur masters (I think u should get a career, n have them pay for ur school, u can get a good job w a ba) .. hope ur family issues get straightened out. Hope ur brother comes around. Hope roxy ends up becoming urs. Hmm this almost sounds like a gbye text.. lol its not.. but I really dont know if u even care to try at this point (if u do, the effort seems so minimal). I probably did come on to strong.. n opened up way to much, bur w.e... just another learning experience. Anyways... one love. Her: I'm not gonna defend myself, I get that I wasn't making time but like I said I hardly have time for my own friends and texting is the only way I really catch up right now so how you feel is how you feel and I understand but I'm not gonna up and call you one day to hang out because I won't know if you're with someone already or not and I don't like intruding without knowing what's going on with someone. Good luck, have a good one. Me: Ty for listening to me whine n bitch. U definitely helped take my mind off things. I guess thats the risk ur gnna gave to take.. making a phone call. I probably won't be w anyone as im not looking for a relationship, frankly im dead scared to get into one. Anyways.. sounds like u have ur mind made up. her: I have my mind made because if you're gonna go and talk to someone else, I don't wanna risk heartbreak. I know we barely know each other and I don't make time for you but yes, I have listened time and time again and I felt good to help you. But that's not fair to me. I understand you can't be patient forever, so I'd rather you find happiness with someone who can put you before her crazy school schedule. Take care me: Last word.. risk heartbreak? Lol we're just friends (ur exact words) ... Friends let other people date.. if u wanted more u woulda said something. We're just friends means exactly that; u can see other people... I can wait for u.. sure I might go on (a) date.. but (girls name).. u really have a lot of special qualities I honed in on. anyways, if u end up changing ur mind.. u got my number. Stay happy .. srry I dont do friends w girls. waiting for her last reply.. will post. Anyways I think she will call after the weekend. girls do not think clearly right away. I honestly don't care if she does - lol just posting this to get some strangers insight - can't really share it with people lol they will just say get over it... She was the first girl i spoke to after my breakup. Anyways. Thanks. Edited March 1, 2013 by DrStrangelove name anonymous
Author DrStrangelove Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 quick bump.. would love some insight - will give some love to your thread in return - ty
Brunettie Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It does kinda seem like she is interested, just busy. She knows she wasn't giving you much time because of it, but she's not going to be the one to initiate a date (she said) it looks like she'd rather you do the pursuing. Summer break is in a couple months, maybe you could try then?
Author DrStrangelove Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 yes, she said she was inches from putting in her two weeks at work.. to much drama. I honestly expect a call in a week saying she wants to try again... who knows though. I might try again, way later though - I deleted her number to resist temptation though.
MrCastle Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Truth be told, and not to be harsh, I don't see her calling you. I'm happy to be proved wrong but I don't see it.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Just reiterating.. idk y but I want to.. so u know I only see u as a friend, if that. Could almost put u into an acquaintance column Why are you lying? I hate it when men say that but it's obvious that they want so much more that "friends". 3
ChatroomHero Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It seems like the things she was saying were to let you know she wasn't too interested. What you know: 1. Busier people than her find time to date. You said it, if you were Brad Pitt she would find time. 2. She already said she wanted to be friends. 3. In the same sentence she said you barely knew each other but she didn't want to risk heartbreak, makes her look like the victim of potential "heartbreak" for someone that she has nothing going on with. 4. She would rather you find happiness than wait for her, uh, crazy school schedule to clear up. Pretty telling. She is letting you down gently...she wants you to be happy...with someone else. 5. She said clearly she is not going to call you up. I think she is just trying to let you fade away and not look like the bad guy, like she is doing you a favor and telling you not to wait for her instead of her telling you the truth that it's never gonna happen.
Estate Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I'd say she WAS interested but you blew it. Who sends those kinds of texts to someone they HARDLY know. It's too much... way too much. I mean, you open the first text slamming her and trying to friendzone her and then go on to chase her. If you didn't care you wouldnt even be texting. Next... "I'd the prize, I don't chase, blah blah"... there's an old saying... if you have to tell people something it's probably not true. I think you sealed the deal in turning her off you with this line of texting. Any more texting will put you firmly in stalker crazy category. Just leave her to it. 1
clia Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I cannot believe you text such long conversations. The entire conversation could have been shortened to this: YOU: You're an acquaintance, no you're a friend, no I like you, I don't know what I want, no, I like you...please be with me. HER: Sorry, I'm really busy. See ya. YOU: Please call me. HER: Yeah, I don't think so. See ya. YOU: Please. I'm begging you. Call me. HER: ..... Honestly, move on. She isn't interested in dating you. 5
Estate Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I cannot believe you text such long conversations. The entire conversation could have been shortened to this: YOU: You're an acquaintance, no you're a friend, no I like you, I don't know what I want, no, I like you...please be with me. HER: Sorry, I'm really busy. See ya. YOU: Please call me. HER: Yeah, I don't think so. See ya. YOU: Please. I'm begging you. Call me. HER: ..... Honestly, move on. She isn't interested in dating you. hahaha. BEST.POST.EVER.
cindyloo Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I'm in a grad program right now getting my master's and it really is insane. There truly is NO time. Unless you're willing to maybe just go over to her place to watch TV on friday night while she sits in her PJ's and is exhausted. It's hard to do that when you aren't truly dating yet. She probably would rather have her energy when she hangs out with you and impress you. You honestly ruined your chances though. I wouldn't go back with you if I were her. You sounded pretty immature in your texts. Sorry, not trying to be rude but just honest
Author DrStrangelove Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 haha thanks for all the replies. Nothing to harsh, I appreciate brutal honesty, and some of right, some not. She did invite me over to her place to cook me bfast one day, although something came up at work. I just think I wasn't on her priority list at all. I did come on way to strong - but, mind you, I did just come out of a long term relationship. I think the loneliness got the best of me - I even told her. One more learning experience haha.
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