Author Locust Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 I think I can meet girls if I just find some places where its socially active where people are constantly talking to each other. But then I should put a blame on myself for narrowing myself to Asians particularly Chinese. I usually aim for average looking girls who are okay looking but some how meet pretty ladies. Couple years back I met a Russian which I found out was a part-time model which I could believe that. But she was bi and I believe she already had a girlfriend. I just need some practice with the ice breaker so I can meet girls and not wait forever for one to talk to me first.
GravityMan Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Is it normal? No. It is highly unusual. I'd guess that 75% of all guys will have dated or did the hookup/hangout thing by age 18. And 95-97% of all guys will have had dating experience by their mid 20s. And yes, your lack of dating experience is going to be a dealbreaker to many women (assuming you disclose that info), no matter what your reason is. Is it bad? That's up to you. If you walk around with an insecure, self-conscious "woe is me" P.O.S. attitude due to you having never dated, then yes it's bad and you'll likely continue to struggle. But if you're social and give off a positive, relaxed, cool, fun vibe...then women are more likely to give you a chance despite you being inexperienced.
Author Locust Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Is it normal? No. It is highly unusual. I'd guess that 75% of all guys will have dated or did the hookup/hangout thing by age 18. And 95-97% of all guys will have had dating experience by their mid 20s. And yes, your lack of dating experience is going to be a dealbreaker to many women (assuming you disclose that info), no matter what your reason is. Is it bad? That's up to you. If you walk around with an insecure, self-conscious "woe is me" P.O.S. attitude due to you having never dated, then yes it's bad and you'll likely continue to struggle. But if you're social and give off a positive, relaxed, cool, fun vibe...then women are more likely to give you a chance despite you being inexperienced. Not having dating experience is scaring me especially after what you said. It makes me wonder if I will ever make it in the dating world or will I always will be the wondering person. Maybe I should date a few escorts so I can gain experience if prior dating experience is very important to women.
bruinbasher Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Definitely not normal, is it a big deal? Depends. I never really pursued women/girls when I was younger but I have gone on a few dates here and there while in college, like you I have never done anything of sexual nature with women or ever had a girlfriend. As long as you aren't socially awkward, it shouldn't be a problem... but I'll be honest... you sound a little awkward already... you probably want to work on this as its possible you may be giving off a creeper vibe. Case in point below: what its like to touch someone and get sexual Hiring an escort isn't going to make you feel less lonely, if anything I would say it would make you feel more lonely. You say you're in school, is it normal university? If so, there are plenty of student groups out there to meet new people. Your problem is that you're probably shy and not very out going, you probably want to work on that as well.
Archgirl Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Not having dating experience is scaring me especially after what you said. It makes me wonder if I will ever make it in the dating world or will I always will be the wondering person. Maybe I should date a few escorts so I can gain experience if prior dating experience is very important to women. Did you bother to read my previous post at all? The only one on here from a chick in your dating category. Dating a hooker and dating a woman are not the same thing and the idea is personally offensive. Added to which, if your dating history involves hookers, chicks like me will actively avoid you. It just says something about how a guy thinks about women. Bleh!
Author Locust Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Did you bother to read my previous post at all? The only one on here from a chick in your dating category. Dating a hooker and dating a woman are not the same thing and the idea is personally offensive. Added to which, if your dating history involves hookers, chicks like me will actively avoid you. It just says something about how a guy thinks about women. Bleh! I don't want to do that but someone on this thread said women want experience. So if that is case I would need to get experienced somehow even that means i need to pay someone date me. It sound like I have no Chance one way or the other because women want experienced guys my age who dated before. So I might need to go see a escort to get experience somehow.
KathyM Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 This again. Spend your money on a dating coach, maybe even a female one. A dating coach will actually teach you how to interact with women, how to approach women, what you should do to improve yourself to be more attractive to women, etc. And a dating coach is probably less expensive than an escort, and you won't be doing something illegal or degrading/damaging to the person.
Revolver Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 While it isnt normal, I think the percentage of male virgins in their 20's is actually far more conservative then people think
somedude81 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I don't want to do that but someone on this thread said women want experience. So if that is case I would need to get experienced somehow even that means i need to pay someone date me. It sound like I have no Chance one way or the other because women want experienced guys my age who dated before. So I might need to go see a escort to get experience somehow. You're going to have to see a hooker many times to get any experience from it. You can't just have sex one time and expect to be any good at it.
MrCastle Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 it's a strange time we live in where somebody who's a virgin is at the bottom of the heap. If you're a man. There was a thread that went like 10+ pages where men and women alike were ripping a guy for considering not dating a female who was 35 year old virgin. He got blasted pretty hard, from both genders. If the guy is a virgin though, men mock him and women admit they would have hang ups dating one. A lot is made on here about the double standards when it comes to "players" and "sluts" but nothing is said about virginity and how it is perceived between the sexes. 2
Author Locust Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 You're going to have to see a hooker many times to get any experience from it. You can't just have sex one time and expect to be any good at it. I wasn't considering having sex with one just for practice on how does a date goes and what to do on a date.
Author Locust Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Maybe if I hire a good escort she can show me what I should as the guy side. I'm that clueless. It must be certain if women are going to reject a 26 year guy like myself because he does not have dating experience.I can hire a dating coach but I won't fully understand the dating rules unless I actually go on a date and actually try it. It's like leaning how to drive, can't learn how to drive unless you get behind the wheel. If women weren't so mean to just reject a guy because he never dated before then I probably wouldn't have to do all this.
IndianGuy87 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Why thank you for telling the OP that, Captain Obvious. Anything else you want to tell the OP that he doesn't already know? Calm your tits. I was talking to the OP. He may have false hope aka "confidence".
IndianGuy87 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Ah heck, I'm bored, so I'll reply to this one. I am slightly younger than the OP, but in the same position. Look at my avatar. C'est moi. And I believe that should fit the "buff" category. If not, I am also, according to popular opinion "good looking". Explain that one, pretty boy. I'm no pretty boy. You maybe in that position because you might not be tall and also not that rich or anything. Plus you probably think you're good looking but most likely you're not. Buffness is important but less important for women than looks, height, and of course money. Because usually girls look at buffness among guys who are already good looking, tall, or rich first. Then they look at "leftovers" due to the lack of male population they desire.
IndianGuy87 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 This again. Spend your money on a dating coach, maybe even a female one. A dating coach will actually teach you how to interact with women, how to approach women, what you should do to improve yourself to be more attractive to women, etc. And a dating coach is probably less expensive than an escort, and you won't be doing something illegal or degrading/damaging to the person. Dating coach? How do you coach a man to become good looking, tall, or rich?
Esoteric Elf Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I'm no pretty boy. You maybe in that position because you might not be tall and also not that rich or anything. Plus you probably think you're good looking but most likely you're not. Buffness is important but less important for women than looks, height, and of course money. Because usually girls look at buffness among guys who are already good looking, tall, or rich first. Then they look at "leftovers" due to the lack of male population they desire. I would like to say I am not good looking due to my self-debasement, but, argue with about 50 other opinions that have consistently said I am above average to modelesque with my face. A casting director once commented, out of a pool of ten other guys of which he said nothing of their physical appearance, on my eyes to another casting personel. I have been told I look like Johnny Depp by at least two women, etc., etc. whatever. Also, don't change what you said. In your OP, you claimed I needed only one of those to get women, and now you say I need more than one characterisitic, lover boy.
KathyM Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Dating coach? How do you coach a man to become good looking, tall, or rich? Dating coach, to teach him how to approach women, how to talk to women, how to interact with women, how to improve himself on what he can. Believe it or not, there are men out there that are dating who are only average looking, average height (and even below average), and average or below income. An escort is not going to teach him dating skills. She will take his money, pretend to like him, and he will be in the same position he was in before shelling out those hundreds of dollars to her.
RachR Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Is it normal? No, and I'm sure you already knew the answer to this. Is it something to be ashamed of? No. Just get out there and start dating if you want to do it.
IndianGuy87 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 Dating coach, to teach him how to approach women, how to talk to women, how to interact with women, how to improve himself on what he can. Believe it or not, there are men out there that are dating who are only average looking, average height (and even below average), and average or below income. An escort is not going to teach him dating skills. She will take his money, pretend to like him, and he will be in the same position he was in before shelling out those hundreds of dollars to her. There are men who might have at least one or 2 of those negativity but are still dating but no way are there men who have all of those negativity but can get a woman to date him even if his life depended on it. No way! If you're neither good looking, tall, or rich then it doesn't matter who your dating coach is because your game wouldn't mean anything without those qualities. Looks, money, and height are very important to women.
IndianGuy87 Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 I would like to say I am not good looking due to my self-debasement, but, argue with about 50 other opinions that have consistently said I am above average to modelesque with my face. A casting director once commented, out of a pool of ten other guys of which he said nothing of their physical appearance, on my eyes to another casting personel. I have been told I look like Johnny Depp by at least two women, etc., etc. whatever. Also, don't change what you said. In your OP, you claimed I needed only one of those to get women, and now you say I need more than one characterisitic, lover boy. A lot of girls that are friends are willing to be nice and say to their male friends they are good looking to make them feel good about themselves. And you should read my previous posts where I've completely stressed the most importance on looks, height, and money which girls find attractive. I just added buffness on this thread just to feel like giving the OP some hope at least. Anyways buffness doesn't mean anything if you aren't good looking, rich, or tall. Those women who told you that you looked like Johnny Depp just wanted to be nice. If you really looked like him, you wouldn't be a guy with girl problems.
Esoteric Elf Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 A lot of girls that are friends are willing to be nice and say to their male friends they are good looking to make them feel good about themselves. And you should read my previous posts where I've completely stressed the most importance on looks, height, and money which girls find attractive. I just added buffness on this thread just to feel like giving the OP some hope at least. Anyways buffness doesn't mean anything if you aren't good looking, rich, or tall. Those women who told you that you looked like Johnny Depp just wanted to be nice. If you really looked like him, you wouldn't be a guy with girl problems. Hey dude, whatever floats your boat. Those other 50 or so opinions might mean something, then again, they might not (note: none of the girls or opinions were friends). Just be reminded that you are not aware of all situations that all men can get into and just because you may be aware of a few hundred or even a few thousand doesn't mean that you know of the few billion situations of men, and try also not to alter the meaning or intent of your original posts.
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