Locust Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 That is me and I'm beginning to wonder how normal is it for a guy at my age to never have dated and engage in sexual activity. I have been wondering on redbook to look for a escort to gain dating and sexual experience and just to get a brief taste what its like to touch someone and get sexual. My issue is I'm in courses at my school where I'm seeing the same people in all 4 classes over and over again which is not providing me any variety of people to meet. People said online dating is not worth the time and money, so I have no idea where else I can meet women at. I think this is the main reason why I'm 26 years old and always had been single. It's getting frustrating and I'm strongly considering hiring me a escort to go out with so I won't feel so lonely all the time.
siamex Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 When it comes to the world of dating, woman/men, sex, and relationships, it is nearly impossible to define normality. Just look at it as a life experience you will surely experience eventually and when you do, you'll have the opportunity to embrace it with say, 26 years of experience. Obtaining the service of an escort would probably only confuse you as to what is genuine and what is not. She isn't going to give you the emotional portion of what you seek and that may lead you to develop a unrealistic viewpoint of dating prior to you experiencing the real thing. Have you tried the copious amounts of online dating sites? Speed dating? Trying to find a possible date @ places that you find interesting (e.g. if you like music--concerts or libraries if you are into learned types...etc..etc..). It's hard to be in a situation where you feel as if nothing is ever going to come your way. However, it is also true that it could work in the way that you'd be more appreciative of the companionship that will come your way. Hang in there and believe that there is something worthwhile. 3
MrCastle Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I don't understand the escort thing. Well, I get that for the most part, they range from marginally attractive to very attractive, but it's still money, and still pretty illegal. If you are that concerned about having experience, you could scrape the bottom of the barrel online. Not okcupid or other mainstream sites, but craigslist and other seedy sites that really only serve for people to set up casual encounters. Now, the people you meet won't exactly be of the highest quality, but at least you have some pleasure in knowing you didn't have to pay for it. Aside from that, I've found the more you worry about it, the worse it actually gets. You really just have to not care. If you're normal and well adjusted, it will happen for you. People downplay the role luck plays in this whole thing but it is significant. I too have had some problems in college since I have pretty much the same girls in every class and they're taken, but that's out of my control. I can only do what I can on my end and hope that some luck will fall my way every now and then. 1
sillyanswer Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 That is me and I'm beginning to wonder how normal is it for a guy at my age to never have dated I think you know the answer. It's unusual, but it happens. 1
clia Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 It isn't normal at all -- that's the truth. But, that doesn't mean you can't do something about it. My issue is I'm in courses at my school where I'm seeing the same people in all 4 classes over and over again which is not providing me any variety of people to meet. Classes aren't the only way to meet people in school. Join a club or other group in some area you are interested in. Go to parties. Go to bars. Go to other campus events. Join a fraternity. Join a club or group related to your major. Do your friends have girlfriends who can introduce you to someone? Etc.... People said online dating is not worth the time and money, so I have no idea where else I can meet women at. Who is "people"? Online dating works for a lot of people. It doesn't strike me that you are in a position where you can be so choosy. You have absolutely nothing to lose by trying it out, and everything to gain. You might also try joining some Meetup groups and participating in some of those types of activities. Life is too short to be sitting around alone, but you have to take some chances and put yourself out there if you want to meet someone.
somedude81 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I think you know the answer. It's unusual, but it happens. Yup. It's unusual for guys to be completely unsuccessful with women but it's not unheard of. It's actually becoming more common. It's a much bigger issue in Japan.
Author Locust Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 I guess I don't have much to worry about. I tend to go for Chinese girls because I thought they would be easier to handle. But only issue is they like to be with there own kind a lot.
crude Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 The answer is SO simple. Join a Sex Addicts Anonymous class and pick off the women who are slipping. SAA ? Meetings
ltjg45 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It's starting to be more common now. If it's not 26 year old virgins, it will eventually be 26-year old males who only slept with a female twice at the most.
IndianGuy87 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It's because you are not good looking, not rich, not tall or buff. If you had 1 of the characteristics which women require for in men, you wouldn't have been in this position by now.
ltjg45 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It's because you are not good looking, not rich, not tall or buff. If you had 1 of the characteristics which women require for in men, you wouldn't have been in this position by now. Why thank you for telling the OP that, Captain Obvious. Anything else you want to tell the OP that he doesn't already know?
Esoteric Elf Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It's because you are not good looking, not rich, not tall or buff. If you had 1 of the characteristics which women require for in men, you wouldn't have been in this position by now. Ah heck, I'm bored, so I'll reply to this one. I am slightly younger than the OP, but in the same position. Look at my avatar. C'est moi. And I believe that should fit the "buff" category. If not, I am also, according to popular opinion "good looking". Explain that one, pretty boy.
StanMusial Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Well you're in the right place apparently. I had no idea so many guys struggled so badly until I found this forum. Although I suspect there is a lot of exaggeration. 1
somedude81 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Well you're in the right place apparently. I had no idea so many guys struggled so badly until I found this forum. Although I suspect there is a lot of exaggeration. Exaggeration about what?
StanMusial Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Exaggeration about what? Exaggeration about how hard some people have it. Both the guys and the girls. I'm not saying this guy is exaggerating, I have no idea about his situation obviously, but some posters make some wild claims. 1
hppr Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 If you want to hire an escort it's up to you but be careful. From fake pics to robbed by a pimp with a shotgun I have heard all those stories back when I was in the service. Also that won't fix the underlying problem which is your very very very small social circle. You are probably a very private person, like familiarity, but when you want to go out and meet new people it's somewhere between difficult and scary as hell. BTW I lost my virginity with an escort when I was an extremely shy 19 year old and it didn't help. What did help was when I got out of that town and made a life for myself with new friends, new job, a fresh start.
Archgirl Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Ah heck, I'm bored, so I'll reply to this one. I am slightly younger than the OP, but in the same position. Look at my avatar. C'est moi. And I believe that should fit the "buff" category. If not, I am also, according to popular opinion "good looking". Explain that one, pretty boy. I am now also looking at your avatar Op, don't hire a hooker. It's some thing you will have to hide from every woman you ever get involved with. And quit worrying about what is normal, do your own thing and take the occasional risk with chicks, it'll happen 1
Author Locust Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Well good news is I'm not fat, no beer gut or apple belly. I have clear skin and just got me some nice clothes, I have a good haircut. I had a female classmate I hardly know said I like your haircut it looks nice. I have been called handsome and cute a few times. However, I will admit I' am expecting the girl to approach first since it happen before about 5 years ago but it never evolved into anything. I guess she was the rare kind. I also only tend to focus on Chinese women and most of them as I begin to realize like being with their own kind. However, I see a fat guy about 3x my size and still got a girl. I guess its all about knowing how to use that charm which I don't know how. I'm a mixture of Indian and Latin, and had one lady few years back said I had a nice mixture. I think I need more places to meet girls least single ones because it seems everyone of them I meet at school are already taken. I'ma try American girls and other backgrounds to widen my options. The main hard issue is the ice breaker, introducing yourself being that first person to strike the first conversation. 1
somedude81 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Exaggeration about how hard some people have it. Both the guys and the girls. I'm not saying this guy is exaggerating, I have no idea about his situation obviously, but some posters make some wild claims. What's the point of making "wild claims?" To be crowned the king of the losers? Do you have any examples of these claims? Everything I have said about my dating struggles has been 100% true. Saying I've never had a girlfriend isn't anything to lie about.
taiko Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It is not the experience of sliding your penis into another person you lack, it is the non sexual stuff you must master to be seen as worthy so someone will want you to slid your penis into them.
StanMusial Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 What's the point of making "wild claims?" To be crowned the king of the losers? Do you have any examples of these claims? Everything I have said about my dating struggles has been 100% true. Saying I've never had a girlfriend isn't anything to lie about. I'm talking about the guys that come on here and say they're good looking and successful, all their friends are, and none of them can ever get a gf. Or the people who say they have a great big social circle and are outgoing and can never find a date. I would go look for examples but I'm too lazy right now.
StanMusial Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I'm talking about the guys that come on here and say they're good looking and successful, all their friends are, and none of them can ever get a gf. Or the people who say they have a great big social circle and are outgoing and can never find a date. I would go look for examples but I'm too lazy right now. Well that wasn't so hard after all. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/376247-who-men-who-have-options-2.html#post4643397
ltjg45 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I'm talking about the guys that come on here and say they're good looking and successful, all their friends are, and none of them can ever get a gf. Or the people who say they have a great big social circle and are outgoing and can never find a date. I would go look for examples but I'm too lazy right now. Fortunately, none of them applies to me. Because I know I don't have a social circle at all (I only got maybe 2 Facebook friends tops and 1 IRL one) and I don't consider myself "good-looking". Average at best, hideous at the worst.
somedude81 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I'm talking about the guys that come on here and say they're good looking and successful, all their friends are, and none of them can ever get a gf. Or the people who say they have a great big social circle and are outgoing and can never find a date. I would go look for examples but I'm too lazy right now. Ah, those kinds of exaggerations. The so-called male models that can't get dates. You believe the can't get dates part but don't believe that they are good looking. 1
SJC2008 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I'm talking about the guys that come on here and say they're good looking and successful, all their friends are, and none of them can ever get a gf. Or the people who say they have a great big social circle and are outgoing and can never find a date. I would go look for examples but I'm too lazy right now. There's only one poster that I'm aware of that makes this claim. It aint me or SD81 that's for sure. I have a feeling he's a troll who's under a new name for the second time, haven't seen him post within the last week or two.
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