Devastated finding bf sex vids he's sending to gay friend

[Jaskap1]

I don't know what to do about this. Yesterday, I went onto my boyfriend of one year's phone to get a number and found text messages of nude pics of himself, videos of him masturbating, like full on, and the worst our intimate sex videos that he's been sending to his gay friend. There is no dialogue exchange, except when his friends replies that he got it and thanks. I am soooooooooooo devastated and hurt by this and he just recently started asking to make these sex videos so I'm thinking he did this just to share with this friend.

 

First question is, is my bf gay? Secondly, I know I need to confront him about it but right now, I'm just soooo hurt and feel betrayed, but to top it off, I'm having to deal with whether or not he's gay? I don't know what to do at this moment. Who does these things? I know the thing to do is to just dump his ass, but I really really love him to the point that I have and will do anything to keep him in my life. I've found him watching shemale porn in the past and even some gay porn and when I questioned him, he said that he was drunk and stoned at the time and I shouldn't worry about it.

 

I've known about this gay friend since I've known him. This guy really, really likes my bf and I have never met him because he lives in a different state. When I question him about their relationship, he always tells me that the guy's been a really good friend for a long, long time and that hell no, would he ever be with him.

 

I'm so confused. Please help me understand what's going on and what I need to do. I don't want to lose him, but I don't think I can ever forgive him for this. So devastated.

[CarrieT]

I don't want to lose him, but I don't think I can ever forgive him for this.

I'm sorry to tell you this, but you have lost him.

 

At least - why would you want to stay with a man who betrays your trust by sharing intimate videos of YOU?

 

THAT is the first and foremost concern you should have.

 

Whether or not he is gay is now beside the point because you should NOT continue in a relationship with someone who has done this to you.

 

I'm so confused. Please help me understand what's going on and what I need to do.

What you need to understand is that he betrayed your trust. You need to break up with him immediately. Sadly, that video of you is already out there in others' hands (and probably on the internet) so there is nothing you can do about that. Hopefully, it will keep you from making videos like that with anyone else in the future.

 

So devastated.

I completely understand. I was married to a man I found out was gay (when I came home from work early and found him having gay sex). So believe me when I say that his sexuality is the least of your concern.

 

You need to check yourself for STDs and AIDS IMMEDIATELY and don't believe anything he says. You already have the proof you need of what he has done and now it is time for you to move on and try to heal.

[stillafool]

I'll bet you anything those two have had sex. Your bf is bi. Either accept it or move on because he is not going to stop liking it because you don't. Personally I would be out of there by now. I can't stand "down low" men.

[Jaskap1]

Thank you for the replies and advice. I know that it will never be the same with him, so eventually I need to move on. Don't even know if it's worth talking to him about either. I don't know. I really am soooo hurt by this.

[Jethro]

Thank you for the replies and advice. I know that it will never be the same with him, so eventually I need to move on. Don't even know if it's worth talking to him about either. I don't know. I really am soooo hurt by this.

 

Eventually? Are you kidding me?