Sun Devil Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 When I mean aggressive, I do not mean violent. I mean guys who are loud and assertive. Guys who don't take no for an answer. These guys would be called persistant. What are your observations on these guys? Are they successful with women?
ltjg45 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 It really depends on the women. Some would call that creepy. Some would call it sexy. It all comes down to how she reacts to it. I'm willing to be aggressive but if I see signs that she is getting annoyed by it, then there is no reason to continue.
carhill Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 What are your observations on these guys? They seem to alter their behavior when a gun and a badge is staring them in the face. 3
normal person Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) There's a difference between aggression and assertion. Pretty much every girl will tell you that assertion is attractive, but if you want to act like the guys described, you have to be able to tell the difference between playful, "hard-to-get" style resistance and a firm no. If you can't, you can possibly be threatening. Example: I used to work at an amusement park during the summers in college. One of the male managers really liked one of the female managers. One day when she was particularly busy, he kept bothering (or playfully pressuring) her until she finally agreed to go on one of the rides with him even though she was scared. After that she kind of gave in a little further and agreed to go out with him. I think if he had physically picked her up and dragged her onto the ride, it might be a different story, but he assertively (not aggressively) got her to agree to do it on her own volition. Today they're married. In general I think this kind of assertion is a moderate risk/moderate reward type of move. Edited February 28, 2013 by normal person 2
clia Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 When I mean aggressive, I do not mean violent. I mean guys who are loud and assertive. Guys who don't take no for an answer. These guys would be called persistant. What are your observations on these guys? Are they successful with women? If you are asking whether you should persist in repeatedly asking a girl out who has already said no, the answer is no. 1
Author Sun Devil Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 I know that being assertive is attractive to most women, but I want to know if being aggressive helps
meeji Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I don't like men who approach me in an assertive way. Slipping me a phone number is assertive enough but I am an introvert and the guy that is the life of the party isn't usually the guy that I'm looking at, while everyone else had eyes on him. I would be selective about who you try this with because somewomen could be completely turned off. Be confident but don't over do it. 1
Bengal Tiger Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Our President Barack Obama is a smooth confident handsome man who got rejected many times by Michelle before she agreed to a date after his persistent charm won her over. There are so many other factors at play and it really depends on the attitude and personality of the 2 individuals. Women are such unique and diverse individuals it will boggle your mind. I will tell you that much of my success is basically try something and see if she likes it. You'd be surprised what she likes. It's definitely not what she might say she likes when asked. Nothing is "creepy" or "sexy" until she (or you) perceives it that way and attaches meaning to it. There are many cases where I have had friendgirls tell me "Women don't like when guys do [something]". Guess what? I am dating a wonderful woman who loves when I do it and she does it back gleefully. She's so awesome.
carhill Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 IME, if the lady finds the man attractive upon first sight/smell, assertive behaviors will have more traction, in general, than if not. However, even with that initial attraction, he can inadvertently trip the ejection seat handle so IMO such behaviors are best left to men who have perfected the art of reading the objects of their desire over time.
Treasa Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I can't speak for other women, but trying to get aggressive with me is going to end up with you badly beaten.
siamex Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 As mentioned before, it really depends on the woman and how you play it. For instance, my ex was somewhat of an overachiever type and if I were to be too passive, I would've never gotten her in the first part. However, I know that if I came over the top with overt aggressiveness, I would have turned her off to the idea of dating me. I think in most cases a sense of balance of being confident and not tipping the scale of overbearing would probably be successful more often than not.
AD1980 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Depends on how attractive you are..you could do and say things that are considered funny if youre good looking but creepy if youre unattractive
sillyanswer Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 When I mean aggressive, I do not mean violent. I mean guys who are loud and assertive. Guys who don't take no for an answer. These guys would be called persistant. Not really, but I suppose they could be called persistent. I'm sure it works for some combinations of men and women. Are you thinking of trying it?
ptp Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 When I mean aggressive, I do not mean violent. I mean guys who are loud and assertive. Guys who don't take no for an answer. These guys would be called persistant. What are your observations on these guys? Are they successful with women? Really depends on how attractive you are. If you are good looking, being assertive is a turn on. On the other hand if you are ugly, you will be labeled a creep. 1
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