Yellowteacup Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Did anyone add Presumed Innocent to the list of "Cheating Movies"?
nofool4u Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 in both The Descendents & Up In the Air..... Well done and played out for 40 somethings........ Oh the Descendents. I just wanted to scream! Especially at the friend's of his that knew she was screwing around on him, kept quiet, then were appalled that he'd, god forbid, that he's hurt by what she did, and by their keeping it a secret for her. I hate to admit, I felt like she got what she deserved in the movie. But thats because it was a movie. I don't think I'd wish that on a cheater. A painful existence emotionally perhaps. But not getting in an accident and becoming a vegetable.
Author jnel921 Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 in both The Descendents & Up In the Air..... Well done and played out for 40 somethings........ I didn't see the descendants will have to now.... in the movie up in the air I really felt bad for George Clooney's character. He had no idea she was married and I am glad he move past her when he found out....she on the other hand was wrong to be out on the prowl like that.
drifter777 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 in both The Descendents & Up In the Air..... Well done and played out for 40 somethings........ Definitely more "The Descendents" for me. In "Up in the Air" he was the unknowing OM and I didn't feel anything but sadness for him and disgust for the cheating bitch. I had seen great reviews for "The Descendents" but didn't have a clue about the plot. Man, was I ever ambushed. First, he played the d-day part of the BH perfectly. Second, my wife cheated on me while she was in Hawaii so the mere mention of the name triggers me to both anger and disgust. Even with this double whammy I was able to watch the film because it was so good. The midnight scene and dialog between Clooney and his daughters boyfriend is simply as good as film-making gets. Anyway, I avoid movies that are all about infidelity but if it happens to pop up while I'm watching I just deal with it.
luminous dreamer Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Yellowteacup's post brought to my mind two more cheatin' films!! (and also with Harrison Ford....hmmm). "What lies beneath" ..and... "Random Hearts" 2
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 last night I finished watching Anna Karenina.... I have to say it made me upset. The delusion, disregard and disrespect just sent shivers through me. I left the house earlier so I didn't have to look at my H as my emotions are in high gear. I felt this way years ago when I saw the movie unfaithful. I cried during the scene where Richard Gere cracks the snow globe over the OM and kills him. I cried because I truly understood that moment and how easy it is to snap. Do you guys get affected or do you just stay away from these kinds of films? You get affected by these things because you are still sitting next to the person who hurt you. I have no problem watching these things... I don't even really think of it most times. I know there are some benefits to sticking it out with a cheating spouse... but just reading what SmokeRat was typing about hoping these things make his wife feel shame. That isn't worth it. I just could not stick it out thinking like that. Anna Karenina... this has practically no bearing in todays society. If you cheat on your spouse nobody cares... hell your more likely to get a high five than anything. Nobody cares if you ditch your kids and shack up with someone else. If this book was set in today... Anna would have taken her husband for every penny possible and moved into a giant mansion with Vronsky, then lived happily ever after.
Yellowteacup Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Great Gatsby is another one of my favorites. (Sam Waterston and Robert Redford) There is no way would I watch a remake. Nope. Forget it.
eleanorrigby Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I don't trigger much anymore when I see infidelity in movies. For a few years, renting and going to the movies was like walking in a land mine. If we picked the wrong one, the evening could be ruined for a few hours. It feels good to be able to sit back and just watch a movie like we used to.
Toodamnpragmatic Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I didn't see the descendants will have to now.... in the movie up in the air I really felt bad for George Clooney's character. He had no idea she was married and I am glad he move past her when he found out....she on the other hand was wrong to be out on the prowl like that. Not sure she was on the prowl....... just turned on by Clooney..... The whole premise was wonderfully played out in that Clooney finally realized there as more to life then "the number"...... And then it crashed around him. As for the Descendents it was interesting that in her coma, his character had to confront issues in his marriage Had a debate as to something as simple as the car he drove (a practical Honda Accord) said so much about him and the issues that he really never addressed with his wife (and her father vocalized). Very little was said about any problems in their marriage and you as the viewer made your own judgements......
Author jnel921 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 You get affected by these things because you are still sitting next to the person who hurt you. I have no problem watching these things... I don't even really think of it most times. I know there are some benefits to sticking it out with a cheating spouse... but just reading what SmokeRat was typing about hoping these things make his wife feel shame. That isn't worth it. I just could not stick it out thinking like that. Anna Karenina... this has practically no bearing in todays society. If you cheat on your spouse nobody cares... hell your more likely to get a high five than anything. Nobody cares if you ditch your kids and shack up with someone else. If this book was set in today... Anna would have taken her husband for every penny possible and moved into a giant mansion with Vronsky, then lived happily ever after. Yes because I am with my H it makes it harder to swallow. I don't think Smokerat's feeling are wrong. our spouses need to feel remorse and when they see it played out in the big screen it should make them feel some way. Back in those times it was about pride ,honor and resect. it still is.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Yes because I am with my H it makes it harder to swallow. I don't think Smokerat's feeling are wrong. our spouses need to feel remorse and when they see it played out in the big screen it should make them feel some way. Back in those times it was about pride ,honor and resect. it still is. I totally understand how you feel. I really put some thought into trying to make the relationship work, but I realized that there was no way I could ever feel the same about her. I realize a good part of that is just my personality... I lean towards being very vengeful at times. The feeling of unfairness would eat at me forever... I would never feel as if she could give me the same quality of love I gave her. It's really hard to put down the anger and bitterness at that point. Back then all the pressure was put on the woman. Now the pressure is practically non-existent. Marriage is a contract right? Why do we have this stupid no fault divorce rule? Cheating is a clear breach of contract and should influence divorce outcomes.
luminous dreamer Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 "Crazy, Stupid, Love" I'm watching it, again, (right now) on cable. Hope you all have a great Saturday night... even it's just staying home watching movies .. and even if you're alone... it's all good... it really is. "This, too, shall pass"
Author jnel921 Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 So, I just saw the descendants. Such a sad but all too real movie about infidelity. I am not sure how I would feel if I was told about my H A in a situation like that where he cannot speak for himself and I would never know his true feelings. The OM was a complete jerk, so I am sure for Clooney's character it was great that in the movie he could stick it to him in a certain way. I wish we all had a way to get back at the OM/OW. For some of us it's R with our spouse. But in this situation the pockets was a good choice.
nofool4u Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 If I was in the situation Clooney's character was in that movie and I found out my wife who is laying in the hospital cheated, I simply wouldn't be visiting the hospital. Because I am still married to her, I'd just wait for the call from the doctor about her passing because I still would be responsible for her funeral. But as far as wanting to go see her after finding that out? No thanks. I'd take my kids to see her, but would stay in the waiting room.
Author jnel921 Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 I agree nf4y....I wouldn't have gone to those lengths to find out either.... Unfortunately she never knew she was the stupid one...falling for a guy who didn't love her. I liked when the BS came to visit. I would have hit her with the flowers....lol... 1
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