atalossAG Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Hi everyone, Exbf and I broke up over a month ago, I am maintaining no contact for only about over a week - no effect so far. But this coming weekend is our really good mutual friend's birthday dinner/party and I was invited. I know he will be there, and I have healed a lot and cleared my mind, but still hesitant on going. I have been taking a break from the mutual friends group that we share. I do want to get him back.... Any advice?
Mack05 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) Hi everyone, Exbf and I broke up over a month ago, I am maintaining no contact for only about over a week - no effect so far. But this coming weekend is our really good mutual friend's birthday dinner/party and I was invited. I know he will be there, and I have healed a lot and cleared my mind, but still hesitant on going. I have been taking a break from the mutual friends group that we share. I do want to get him back.... Any advice? I personally think it is too soon. I know you want him back, BUT you need to start working towards 'acceptance' that he is not coming back. I'm sure your friend(s) would understand. People put WAY too much focus on saving 'face'. If your heart is broken your heart is broken, there is absolutely no shame in that. But if you are determined to go down the 'acting' route and go, here is what you should probably do. Dress up to the nines. New outfit/dress, get the hair and makeup done. Even if you are dying inside, you put on the facade of a confident happy woman. Try keep conversation with him to a minimum if/when he approaches you. Yes and No answers and then excuse yourself with a smile as quick as you can. Try avoid eye contact the whole night. I guess there are your two options. In my opinion it's best to live your life being 'real' and not 'fake'. I wouldn't go. But that's just me... Edited February 28, 2013 by Mack05 1
fixing Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Yeah, dot go. really bad idea. I know you want him back, but this kind of scenario only makes it much less likely if you get into awkward situations with him. DONT GO. Do something else and seriously, start to treat yourself and see other friends.
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