gravi1 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am NC with my ex now 10 days after just so many days nagging at her and her begging for my forgiveness etc.I wake up very sad that she cheated while pregnant, and whiles claiming its my child.Now that she also doesnt contact me I feel like she finaly decided against having me back.When she was texting me daily it gave me steam to ignore her because perhaps it made me feel good in a way, but now I have to fuel my own will to ignore her. The problem is I know it will never work because her cheating has been comming since March last year or atleast its when it occured to me.Its damning because its not only been one guy.I know that the child may also not be mine. But why does it bother me and make me sad that she doesnt text and plead with me like she did after the last incident-and all the others for that matter, why am I so sad at the fact that the child may not be mine, why am I sad that I cant ever be with her again. I know I have a chance to reboot my life and that she doesnt have a place in my life anymore, but why this feeling of loss
Mcnulty Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Because you lost the autonomy, the control of the embers, she has turned it on you by going silent, that and male ego. She'll be on Springer or Kyle in the near future if she keeps going the way she is mate, you dodged a matrix slo-mo bullet.
TaraMaiden Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 And also, it's only been 10 days of serious, complete No Contact. Give it a chance - !! The impossible, we can do. Miracles take a little longer.
Minadee Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 The good thing is, you have got the begging and the crying out of the way. You have succesfully gone past the "desperation" phase as I call it. That is a very positive thing to do and once you have said "enough, no more begging for her" the only way you can go is up. It is unfair of her to tell you you may/may not be the father. I despise women like this, because it is going to mess with your brain until the little one is born. As soon as it is, i'd say get a paternity test, else it will continue to mess you up, and then go from there. It's normal to feel sad, it's better to come on here and vent then keep it locked up. But this girl is no good for you, her cheating proves that.
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