RomanceLow Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 So I met my ex bf on Craigslist, he was looking for someone to have sex with. I met him and fell for him hard. We waited a month until we had sex. So this guy he says he misses me while i'm at work and school and i look online on craigslist and i find him posting ads soliciting sex. This is after we were in a monogamous relationship. So i leave him and three months later he texts me and tells me he's sorry that he regrets it and that he'll change... S i debate a month whether to take him back or not, because he was really good to me except for the cheating. I decide he deserves a second chance. So i give it to him and not even two months in he posts ads again and i leave him. I feel so stupid and used. The worst part is that he's now on a dating website and a hook up website which makes me upset, cause it shows he never cared for me... How do i cope? im heart broken and sad and i tend to cry all the time over this 8 month relationship. When he contacts me do i ignore him?
coltsfan1 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Of course you ignore him!!! Then you take a look at why in the heck you are hooking up with people soliciting sex on Craigslist!!! But never ever speak to this person again the unfortunate truth is he doesn't respect you relationship enough to forgo new sex with new people. 4
Author RomanceLow Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 I wasn't thinking when I was hooking up with people on Craigslist. I don't do it anymore. But with him i waited a month so it was a relationship. IDK the realization that it's over and i'll never see the person is hard.
TheWeeknd Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 You have to let him go. You know he is no good to you. From the look of things, all he seems to be wanting is lots of casual sex. You deserve someone better and you will find that someone, but only if you ignore your ex right now. 1
miklos Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 This is what I feel was my situation with my ex I was good with him for 2 months but then i got on a gay hook up app and he found out... we fixed it.... then 2 weeks later i get on the gay hook up app. he dumps me I did not intend to hook up with anyone. I loved him. i just was curious who was around me. ps. after first incident, he had oral sex with a professor and used meth. i hope he burns in hell. i have mixed emotions.. i am angry sad disappointed so much pain
AlexDP Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 This is what I feel was my situation with my ex I was good with him for 2 months but then i got on a gay hook up app and he found out... we fixed it.... then 2 weeks later i get on the gay hook up app. he dumps me I did not intend to hook up with anyone. I loved him. i just was curious who was around me. ps. after first incident, he had oral sex with a professor and used meth. i hope he burns in hell. i have mixed emotions.. i am angry sad disappointed so much pain And it sounded like such a great relationship. 1
CarrieT Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 The worst part is that he's now on a dating website and a hook up website which makes me upset, cause it shows he never cared for me... Ummmmm.... his actions do not - in any way! - mean he never cared for you. How do i cope? You learn that someone's obsessive/compulsive sexual desires may not have any relationship to how they feel about someone. You have to separate the two things. After all, you met him on CL so you know what he is like. That you fell for him was his problem in that you thought your love for him would magically change him. It won't. It can't. The sooner you come to terms with that fact the easier it will be for you to heal. 3
Emilia Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 But with him i waited a month so it was a relationship. I don't understand how waiting a month makes anything a 'relationship'. Working out another person's character and watching his actions are the way to work out whether he is relationship material. Not 'waiting for a month'. 1
Author RomanceLow Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 Dear Emilia, I only put that I waited a month so that people knew the relationship was not sexual right away. I liked him and he liked me. We had chemistry our personalities matched. Referencing the month was my way of saying we started off just wanting to have sex, but put it off because we wanted something real that wasn't just sexual.
creighton0123 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 There's no reason for the two of you to remain in contact, especially if it won't benefit you. It'll just make things suck more. Don't find boyfriends on CL. You're always going to meet guys who are primarily interested in hooking up over serious relationships. Dating sites are fine. In person is better, but harder for those of us who are non-heterosexual. 1
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