Vash808 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) So here's my story I've been with this girl for 5 years and we both had our ups and downs in our relationship but we've overcome many obstacles and we learned a lot from our mistakes. That's why our trust and love for each other was so strong. The last year of our relationship haven't been going how we wanted it to be but no matter what we never gave up and kept our heads strong. I know things haven't been perfect but i really thought we had something special knowing that we've been through so much and built this strong foundation of trust and love for each other. We've been living together for the past 4 and a half years and we also have a baby girl. We've done pretty much everything together and although things weren't where it should've been, we knew we were in love. Things were finally falling into place the whole time she before the break up she tells me she loved me but she needed time and space to think. She' told me that she's been in a relationship for so long that she doesn't know how it feels to be single. She said she still had feelings for me but she didn't know if she wanted to be in this relationship anymore. She said she felt like i was pushing her away and that she was unhappy. I begged and pleaded to make things work for us and our daughter. I told her that she just had to stay strong and things will get better. I poured my heart and soul to this girl. I went on my knees and gave flowers, letters etc. I told her how i really felt about everything. I pretty much did ever possible thing to save the relationship. I explained to her that she could one day regret this knowing that our life as a family and our happiness were almost complete. I know i shouldn't have been so weak like that but i let me emotions get the best of me. After crying and begging i finally gave her the chance to think about everything. She moved out of my house and she stayed with her parents for a week. We remained in contact only through text messages and we only met up to drop off our baby girl. Finally we had a chance to sit down and talk about everything and basically she tells me that she met another guy and that she developed feelings for him. She only knew him for a month and she's been seeing him when we were still together. Apparently the other guy has no clue that she's still in a relationship. I stayed calm and i tried to keep my head up but i was slowly dieing inside. I loved this girl so much that i was still willing to make things work for our family. I asked her where her heart was and she told me that she really didn't know what she wanted and she needed more time to think. I told her it would only be fair if she stopped talking to the other guy and really get some time to herself and think about everything. After a bit of convincing she finally agreed. I gave her another week and during the 2 weeks i found out she was just going out with friends and having a good time. We ended meeting up and we sat down with each other. We had a very long conversation. She basically tells me that she still didn't know what she wanted and that she's still talking to the other guy. I was hurt because she promised me that she would stop talking to him and really get some time to herself and think about us but she didn't. She used that time to see the other guy and drink her nights away. I told her that i didn't want to be in put in a situation where i'm wondering everyday what she's doing and if she's ever going to come back to me so i basically told her its now or never. She didn't say anything for a few minutes and finally said that right now she doesn't want to be with me and that she wants to give it time to see if she'll end up missing me. Basically she wanted to find out if she made the right choice. I kept my head up and stayed strong. I told her that she will always be in my heart and i'll always be there for her. I told her if she ever wants to be a family again that she's always welcomed back. She agreed and told me maybe one day we can make it work. it's been only four days since the break up and now she's been going out and drinking with her friends almost every night while she has her parents or me watch our daughter. It hurts cause I know she's been spending time with the other guy too. We both still call each other and text. We still spend some time with each other and we also go out to eat. We give each other hugs and i still kiss her on her hand. Now i'm stuck in a situation where i'm wondering if she'll ever come back and realize what she's doing to me and our family. I've been put in a situation where i don't know where my faith is and now i'm wondering if we'll ever be a family again. In the end i'm more disappointed than hurt knowing that we've come such a long way and when things are finally falling into place, she gives up. Im really disappointed she wasn't able to make things work for our family. She still tells me that she doesn't know what she wants in life. If she wants to stay single, be with me or see other people. It feels like she's just trying to "have fun" in the mean time. These are hard times for me and at times i feel like i have no motivation anymore. i try to stay strong but its hard seeing the love of your life walk out just like that. Any advice would really help. What should i do? Edited February 28, 2013 by Vash808
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