Phoe Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 So.... as some of you know, I've had a really hard time finding men that are interested in dating. But today, that changed! A few days ago a coworker of mine came up to me and told me he knew someone who wanted to meet me. He didn't tell me anything more and left me feeling really confused with that vague statement. I kind of forgot about it until today, when that coworker came back to talk to me, to tell me that his roommate came into my work last week, saw me, and asked about me. He wants to meet me it seems. My coworker suggested I join them on a double date. Then came the twist. He then says "oh, by the way, he's Johnny's son." Johnny is my boss. CRAP. crap crap crap.... Now I'm really feeling iffy. This seems like dangerous territory, dating my boss's son. I don't wanna get myself fired or create a scenario that could potentially create ANY kind of drama with my boss. I don't know what to do. Do I go ahead and take the opportunity to go on a date, or are my instincts right, thinking that this might be a bad idea? :(
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I would go just make sure to act in a respectful and kind manner if you decide to reject him. 1
StanMusial Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Normally I would say no in this situation. However it seems you don't get many dating opportunities so maybe you should be flexible here. I would ask though, what kind of relationship do you have with your boss? Also, does this guy seem like someone worth taking a risk over? Rate him 1 to 10. Maybe you could arrange some kind of low pressure group outing where you could interact with him.
ltjg45 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Hmm....very dangerous territory here. How do you feel concerning him? Is he attractive to you? I also remember you mentioning to me that this is a job that you can't afford to lose so I really do question the entire thing. After all, if this backfires in any way, your situation gets a lot worse. I don't blame you if you don't want to go along with this. In all honestly, I would have done the same thing. If you want to talk more, just give me a PM.
MidwestUSA Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Agree with Gravity. If it's a disposable, transitional job, go for it but still be careful. If you're working up to being made partner in a law firm, no.
FitChick Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 You have an easy excuse -- you don't want to jeopardize your job and you hope he understands your declining the invitation.
Imajerk17 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) Well, it's probably going to be awkward, almost no matter how things turn out. If you and this guy become a serious item then your boss is also your boyfriend's father and you might be accused of getting special treatment. Then again though, you could always just get another job, right? I mean the economy isn't *that* bad... Meanwhile there is this thing called online dating. Maybe you might want to try that instead... Edited February 28, 2013 by Imajerk17
StanMusial Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Normally I would say no in this situation. However it seems you don't get many dating opportunities so maybe you should be flexible here. I would ask though, what kind of relationship do you have with your boss? Also, does this guy seem like someone worth taking a risk over? Rate him 1 to 10. Maybe you could arrange some kind of low pressure group outing where you could interact with him. I wanted to follow up on this. It depends a lot on the type of person your boss is and the type of guy his son is. When I was in college I worked over the summer at a small sporting goods supplier. My boss set me up with her niece and we went out a couple of times. She basically told me, "If you hit it off, great, if not, no big deal". The point is she new we were both young and good people and reasonable for the most part. We went out a couple of times, didn't really hit it off and that was that. It wasn't the end of the world. Now on the other hand, if your boss is a jackass or if his son is, there might be a problem if you reject him or vice versa. Only you can really make that determination.
Author Phoe Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 I'm still so undecided... For those wondering about what kind of guy he is, attractiveness, etc.... I have no idea what he's like, never met him, never talked to him. I have no idea what he looks like even, but that's mostly irrelevant to me. I don't even know his name. All I know is that he's my coworker's roommate and my boss's son. Everything else is unknown. My boss seems to like me, my other coworkers comment about how they have never seen him act so nice until I came around. I don't know whether dating his son would have a negative or positive impact on his opinion of me. VERY hard to gauge... As far as being "disposable", I suppose the job could be considered disposable considering I don't plan on staying here, it's only a way of supporting myself while I work towards other things. But I don't consider ANY job, truly disposable. I am lucky to have any job at all. Goodness this is making my head hurt! haha
Author Phoe Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 Well, this situation sure took a horrifically creepy turn. My coworker came up to me again a few days after suggesting his roommate wanted to meet me, and to my shock, asked me if I'd like to go out with just him, one on one. I was a bit confused, and asked what happened to the idea that I was to be meeting his roommate? He then said that he just wanted to hang out with me one on one just to assess my personality and see if me and the roommate would be a good situation... He says "Don't worry, I'm not trying to get at you.... well actually, maybe I am." Umm....so either the roommate was never interested and he was using that as a disguise to find out I was available, or he decided to just screw over his roommate and go for me instead. Either way this is some MASSIVE kind of mind game and I am not impressed. So, again, I ask what the heck ever happened to the suggestion of dating his roommate and he replies with "he'll just have to wait his turn". Right. Cause I'm some F**kin ride people can just take turns on. Officially pissed and feeling quite a bit degraded.
CudLRoo Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Wow, what a situation to be put in! Pull a sickie, and blame 'women's problems', men have no power at all against THAT. EDIT: PS, only read the 1st post and responded rightaway. What a set of sleazes.
ltjg45 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Well, this situation sure took a horrifically creepy turn. My coworker came up to me again a few days after suggesting his roommate wanted to meet me, and to my shock, asked me if I'd like to go out with just him, one on one. I was a bit confused, and asked what happened to the idea that I was to be meeting his roommate? He then said that he just wanted to hang out with me one on one just to assess my personality and see if me and the roommate would be a good situation... He says "Don't worry, I'm not trying to get at you.... well actually, maybe I am." Umm....so either the roommate was never interested and he was using that as a disguise to find out I was available, or he decided to just screw over his roommate and go for me instead. Either way this is some MASSIVE kind of mind game and I am not impressed. So, again, I ask what the heck ever happened to the suggestion of dating his roommate and he replies with "he'll just have to wait his turn". Right. Cause I'm some F**kin ride people can just take turns on. Officially pissed and feeling quite a bit degraded. *sigh* How disgraceful. Just leave that crap alone. I wouldn't be surprised if that was all part of his game to get your attention. A pretty weak game, if I might add. 1
2sure Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Tell him if his roommate is interested in meeting you, he should introduce himself the next time he comes into the office.
PogoStick Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Sounds like there was never anything with the roommate. Are you interested in this guy? If not then shoot him down and tell him you're not interested in his stupid games.
StanMusial Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Sounds like there was never anything with the roommate. Are you interested in this guy? If not then shoot him down and tell him you're not interested in his stupid games. That's an odd turn of events. The guy sounds like a little b*tch at this point.
ascendotum Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Sounds like there was never anything with the roommate. Are you interested in this guy? If not then shoot him down and tell him you're not interested in his stupid games. Quite possibly. I would have thought he would have flirted with the OP though prior to this in their day to day interactions. Maybe he was just being a bit of a jokester. The way this guy has played it though, it has not gone down well. She could easily just wash her hands of it all by saying.. forget it, she has no interest in getting involved in any sort of love triangle that involves the bosses son.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 What a creep! He is BSing you. Roommate never existed, he is interested but is trying to feel you out with making up stories.
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