NateC Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Okay so...I've been seeing this girl I met online through OKC for the past few months. We really got along well and we even went on a couple dates. However ...when the subject of actually becoming serious came up, she didn't really know what she wanted and all of this. I thought..."okay...move on". Fast forward to a couple weeks ago: we still talk basically daily and we've hung out a couple times...completely platonic and all of that. My initial feelings haven't fully left yet and she seems to be moving closer to me again (she backed off after that whole conversation) - asking how my day was, etc. This of course leaves me confused if she's actually interested in me now that we've been able to see each other more. Now for the "two" part and where I'm kind of stuck ...I met this other girl (also online) who I've been friends with on Facebook but we never talked ...then suddenly we started talking and we set up our first meeting. We got along well enough but I wasn't really "feeling" it ...probably because of girl #1. We then hung out again a week later and it was sorta the same thing. Then, a couple days ago it escalated quite quickly (for lack of a better phrase). She started sending flirty texts to me ...and I responded. They quickly became quite sexual ...and well, I went to see her that night and I lost my virginity to her. She told me that after that she was "in love" ...well...we've known each other for less than a month and that happened. I'm not sure how it went that quickly, but between feeling lonely and the games with girl #1 ...it happens I guess. I'm kind of stuck because although I do feel a strong connection with this new girl (and now we've had sex), I'm not as close to her emotionally because I haven't known her nearly as long. She basically wants a relationship and I'm torn between the two. I suppose the answer should be obvious, but...just looking for some advice.
Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 It sounds like your more into the first girl, and are settling with the second girl because you got sex. If you are really crazy about a girl, you will not need to pick between two girls. Maybe your not into either of them, or maybe you are still interested in the first one but cannot get her? what are your instincts on this? Who do you have more or a good feeling about?
Author NateC Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 It sounds like your more into the first girl, and are settling with the second girl because you got sex. If you are really crazy about a girl, you will not need to pick between two girls. Maybe your not into either of them, or maybe you are still interested in the first one but cannot get her? what are your instincts on this? Who do you have more or a good feeling about? I'm still interested in the first girl...but I can't get her it seems. We've become close friends, but I don't really know if there's a chance with her at all. The second girl just sort of happened. Maybe I'm just not really "that" into either one of them. I also have a ton of stuff happening in my personal life so that's contributing to my already-confused mental state heh.
sabre80 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 The games are unlikely to stop with girl #1. You could be giving up a sure thing with a girl who is open about being into you for a girl you may very well be just stringing you along. Girls love to pull a guy in then push em away.
Author NateC Posted March 3, 2013 Author Posted March 3, 2013 The games are unlikely to stop with girl #1. You could be giving up a sure thing with a girl who is open about being into you for a girl you may very well be just stringing you along. Girls love to pull a guy in then push em away. I was going to until the other night ...I was hanging out with a friend of mine (who also happens to be a girl, but we're friends and nothing more). She texts me and asks who I was hanging out with and I told her - she got upset I was hanging out with another girl. This is before we even decided to start dating or anything, which was a huge red flag. She wanted me to stop hanging out with my friends if we were to date. So...not caught anymore. Unfortunate it ended that way, but she was completely out of line...
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