HoneyC Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so completely lost right now. To make this long story short ... I dated this guy for about a year and we always had trust issues to begin with. Besides that everything else was really great. I had found out he lied to me twice, about going out with his friends ... When he had told me he was going to sleep. Anyway, so i got so mad about this situation and i tried to make him understand by pushing him away for about a week. I was just telling him that i needed my space but i knew i still would forgive him and want to be with him. After that week i told him i forgave him and want to try to fix things , he made me wait a week and then i find out that he is in a relationship with someone else. I was so devastated and i forced my feelings away.... Now a month later he comes back saying that he realized what he did was wrong and that he wants me back basicaly begging for me to take him back. I do still have feelings for him and i told him i would consider it . I just want to know if you guys think that i would be able to trust him or that this would actualy work out as he promised he would never do stupid things anymore and he even said hed marry me right away. Im so confused Thanks for reading !
iouaname Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 If you have had trust issues from the beginning and he left you for someone else - what are the "good times" that are keeping you going back to him? Love? Affection? Fun activities? All of those can be done being single or be done with a guy who you won't have trust issues with and who won't leave you for someone else or cheat on you. I'm not an expert, but this sounds like a situation where his other plan fell through and now he's circling back to you. Personally I'd say no.effing.way.
CC12 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Good god, don't even consider marrying him any time soon. That should be off the table, completely. Say no. As far as the rest of your relationship working out? It doesn't really look good. You said you both had trust issues to begin with. Then you both did some pretty hurtful things that sort of validated the distrust you guys already felt for each other. The hurtful things he did are obvious. What you did was you chose to handle a conflict by pushing him away (probably more to punish him rather than honestly needing time to yourself) and that's not right. That's not a healthy or fair way to handle issues. I'm not sure if an already rocky relationship can heal after that kind of thing. And I'm not sure it's even worth it. A good relationship should be fairly easy, you know? There shouldn't be much angst or turmoil. It shouldn't be that hard. It should just work. This doesn't seem to be working for you.
Amelie1980 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 My friend had this happen to her. They are now married with two children and very happy.
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