KansasChica Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 1. You can't control anyone but yourself. 2. Communication is ESSENTIAL 3. Don't go to bed angry- talk about it and work it out. 4. If someone shows you who they are, believe them. They're not going to suddenly change and if they do, it's only temporary. 5. Be with someone who makes you want to be a better person, not someone that makes you feel worse about yourself. 6. Keep your own life, hobbies, etc. While it's important to share some things, don't get so entwined that you lose yourself. 7. Take it slow... what's the rush? 8. While attraction is important, an emotional connection is vital. Be weary of infatuation- be sure to have shared values. 9. If someone wants to move extremely quickly (telling you they love you early on, etc.) they can fall out of love just as quickly. 10. Someone who talks crap about people will do the same to you. 11. You cannot be in a successful relationship with someone who is insecure and lacks self-esteem. I'm sure there are many more... 2
sillyanswer Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 11. You cannot be in a successful relationship with someone who is insecure and lacks self-esteem. Yes, this!
Casablanca Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Everything Every relationship I have learned something and it would be too long of a post to even begin to list everything I have learned. If you remove any ex from my past so that we didn't date, I'd be a different person today in terms of how I date. Hopefully everyone is pretty much the same
youdunsay Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 The great ones come along maybe once in a life time. And when they do don't muck it up. Because they are great they will forgive most things. And because they are great there are flocks of women just waiting for you to make a major mistake, prepared to swoop in like vultures and take him away. And there is nothing worse than watching your great one now walking on the arm of someone new, and you will never get that second chance. If he can be swoop off that easily by other vultures, he can be easily swoop off by eagles as well. Where is the spirit of love when perseverance is not respected?
TheBladeRunner Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Don't ever be with someone who is incapable of being alone. Amen! This was a hard lesson learned for me.
Weezy1973 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Loving and connecting with someone in a deep, meaningful way, is worth the potential heartbreak. Make the effort to be vulnerable. 1
NYWoman Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 youdunsay My bad was similar in nature to jennyintheblick's problem in the divorce and separation forum. Searching for a way to right the problem I turned to my friends. And it quickly became apparent that their advice was to widen the gap and make matters worse. I later realized that this was their intent all along. So I should also ad, never tell your friends the size of condom your husband uses.
RachR Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 (edited) Great idea for a thread, OP! I like this one. I have learned...and not just from being in relationships, but just maturing as I've gotten older...is that people will be flawed and that it can be taken in stride, and like KansasChica said, you can't control anyone but yourself. Edited March 2, 2013 by RachR
youdunsay Posted March 3, 2013 Posted March 3, 2013 youdunsay My bad was similar in nature to jennyintheblick's problem in the divorce and separation forum. Searching for a way to right the problem I turned to my friends. And it quickly became apparent that their advice was to widen the gap and make matters worse. I later realized that this was their intent all along. So I should also ad, never tell your friends the size of condom your husband uses. Oh I am sorry. Didn't know that your case was a marriage.
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