Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Also - the good friends I spend the most time with, they are quality people. They are well educated, they do not sleep around, and they do not hang around people who they think act skanky... They would not have become good friend with me if they thought I was a skank who slept around, because they do not associate with those types of people. Surely my friends say a lot about me?
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Also - the guys who crack onto me are: - always drunk - they are scumbags in general (cheaters and nasty people who treat women like crap) - are guys I am too nice to ( I have been told by outsiders) ....I DO NOT walk around sorry, and act skanky! Sorry, but I take geat offence to that! I do not walka round acting like a skank, wearing revealing clothes, and giving off a slutty vibe to most men. There or occasions where I am too nice to men, and where I talk about sex when I shoudn't. Of course those men could get the wrong impression. In such cases, I just.. really never give a damn what they think, because I know I am not easy to sleep with and couldnt care what they think. I only end up caring when they make a move on me. THEN I re consider how nice I am to guys who are sleezy; of course if I am very friendly to them after they make their character known, they will make a move and think they have a chance.... Guys like that always end up finding out I am am not easy anyway lol, when I reject them and explain to them " wtf, I realise I have talked about sex a little, but man, I DO NOT have sex with men I am not in relationships with, get it?" So yeah. Everyone finds out eventually the sort of women I am!
xxoo Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Why do you talk about sex to men like that? Why invite the drama?
snowflakes88 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 No one is saying you are skanky. What people are telling you is that you should be careful about what sexual conversations you have with men because of the impression it could create. You could have the nicest friends ever, wear only long skirts and turtlenecks and have a PhD. If you sit around talking about how you want to have threesomes and are so sexually free, that might create a certain impression - even if you aren't actually having sex at all. Maybe it's not fair, but that's how it is. You seem to care waaaaaaaaaaay more than the average person about what other people think about you. If that's the case, you might want to consider sharing less sexual information with men you aren't in a relationship with. 2
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 No one is saying you are skanky. What people are telling you is that you should be careful about what sexual conversations you have with men because of the impression it could create. You could have the nicest friends ever, wear only long skirts and turtlenecks and have a PhD. If you sit around talking about how you want to have threesomes and are so sexually free, that might create a certain impression - even if you aren't actually having sex at all. Maybe it's not fair, but that's how it is. You seem to care waaaaaaaaaaay more than the average person about what other people think about you. If that's the case, you might want to consider sharing less sexual information with men you aren't in a relationship with. I do not care what others think, really. I am a very happy person. I have cared when people over the internet have commented before about how they cannot believe that many guys find me attractive in real life. It annoyed me because my real life is a certain way, and it perplexes me what people online would know what my true reality is. That is about all that has really angered me; that and animalover, who once said that he would not even date a girl like me, due to the fact I had friends with benifits and casual sex with I was 16 - 17, and then stopped for good. Cos I found it strange that he could care what a 26 year old was once like for one year of her life when she was a teen. LOL. Yeah in general though, I am really happy in life and never stress, a skill my boyfriend taught me. I was alreadt a very greatfull person, but he taught me how to not let little things ever bother me. I think you misread me; I do not go and feel "bad" about what others think. Although I have been very very taken aback and thought other peoples judgments of me to be very STUPID on here. That is about all.
amaysngrace Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 If you don't care what people think then why did you start this thread? 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Yeah the only thing I can think that I need to change is: to not answer sexual questions when men ask me. It is obviously inappropriate. I have stopped talking to guys about threesomes or my sexual attitude anyway, because I talked to my boyfriend about it and he said it is absilutely not cool or normal for me to talk sex with other men. To me sex was a fun, and often times FUNNY subject! I will tell you how it all started: My guy friends would always feel so comfortable around me at a young age, that they felt they could just treat me like one of the "guys". They would tell me " man, I was just on a date with this girl.. we did ________ that sexual thing and man, was it strange!" Guys in my life have felt comfrotable talking to me about their sexual experiences. Therfore, I never really thought talking about sex was taboo or bad! SERIOUSLY - I thought the topic was funny and fun! ............................................... What is so bad about that? Well, the fact guys in my life, who I am not friends with, assume that me talking about sex, makes me a prospect for them:sick: I still do not think they assume I am "easy". Rather, they think they have a shot with me, because if I talk about sex with them, surely I must be open to having sex with them. .................................................. In any case, I do not talk sex with men, besides mt boyfriend, and besides one long time good friend of mine who absolutely KNOWS no sex will evebr occur between us. I will not be talking about sex again with men, because I have learnt my lesson, and it uspets my boyfriend. Another factor that made me realise what I was doing was harmfull: I would HATE my boyfriend talking about sex with other girls:sick: I have stopped the sex talk with guy for a while now, since the last tme some idiot assumed I would have sex with him. I still think the guys were a little presumptious, expecting me to have sex with them just cos I talked to them about it... Without knowing if I did indeed sleep around or not? I mean, I never assume a guy likes me or is attracted to me just because he looks at me sideways, or chats to me about sex?! I would NEVER assume " wowwww he wants me, he is talking about sex with me?: Obviously, men and women are different! It seams that as soon as a girl is open about sex, it must mean she will sleep with them. Whatever. I had not talked to this guy in years anyway, so it is noy my recent behaviour that got him to make the proposition to me...
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 If you don't care what people think then why did you start this thread? I was shocked that a guy would ask me. I wanted to know how bizarre people thought it was. I also expected some people to have been totally offended if a guy asked them this. I just do not take kindly to people assuming I must act like some big skank.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Anyway, I will not be talking about sex with guys anymore, because it only ever gets me into trouble. Not to mention it is not fair to my boyfriend; even though I never intend to cheat or direspect him and never would. You have to feel for my boyfriend here; any guy hates it when other men try to have sex with their girlfriends.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 You seem very obsessed with your looks. No on a daily basis. I just stated to get annoyed on here, when people stated to tell me that I am dellusional about guys finding me attacted. They would call be too ugly to have many dating prospects. So obviously I was a little annoyed that people could make such assumptions when they do not know me in real life. I thought people on here were doing the same - assuming that no one would be attracted enough to me for the guy to have been serious. I am pretty adamant that he happened to be a guy, where I was his physical type, and therefore I do not think he was lying. That is all.
snowflakes88 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 ^^^ I give it 72 hours before you find another thread/another reason to tell us how hot you are, how great your teeth are, how big your boobs and butt are, how you are thin and blond and fit, how great your hair is, blah blah blah. It really does consume your posts, whether you realize it or not. And it's very annoying. 3
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 ^^^ I give it 72 hours before you find another thread/another reason to tell us how hot you are, how great your teeth are, how big your boobs and butt are, how you are thin and blond and fit, how great your hair is, blah blah blah. It really does consume your posts, whether you realize it or not. And it's very annoying. It only started because people said I was obviously dellusional. I do not think I am that good looking, but I am to enough people to get by, in the dating world. Seriously, it is doing my head in talking about the way I look so much, can we plz talk about something else? I am more interested in how it must actually suck so much for some dudes that they have to resort to paying for sex, cos they are horny but cannot find sex from women they are actually attracted to.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 I do not see anything wrong with paying for sex in theory and I do not think badly of men who do, but I do feel bad for women who sibject themselves to it. I believe some women are left unscathed, and simply can switch off when they do it, and need the money. This guy I talked about though - he is different from my boyfriend I guess. My boyfriend could get sex frm attractive women, but when he was younger he found hot girls around him to be annoying, of no substance ( at HIS age mind you, as a late teen, early 20's..) The guy I am talking about sounded like he really couldnt find a girl he was attracted to, to have sex with him. I wonder how the women he settled with felt like? TO have sex with a guy who was not attracted to them? And also - I have had other guys complain to me about how they have friends with benifits, but they are not attracted to them, and they woul rather meet girls like me wh they are attracted to, and are also down with having sex with them. My conclusion is: most girls who are attractive to a enough men, do not have casual sex?!!?!?!?! And if they do, they must only have the encounters with the most attractive men, leaving the rest with no attractive women? I don't know, I wish I could help guys like him lean how to get the girls he is truly attracted to! He truly sounded dejected. Like he had sex, but not with girls he was attarcted to. I would rather not have sex at all, than with a guy I am not attracted to at all, geez, that is what masturbation is for!!
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 I thought you and your bf broke up? Never broke up entirely. He was on a long, 2 month holiday, and we both wanted time to make sure we wanted to strive for a life long relationship. It is all good now. And he hates when guys like me or try to have sex with me (without much liking me haha) He has done well to put up with this, some guys have tried stuff on me with him right there.
hudson701 Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Gotta agree with the numerous posters above re talking about your looks all the time. Over the past few months I've observed every thread you make starts with proclamations of how 'average' you are, then you go out of your way to explain what you like about your body and/or what men find attractive in you- it's all rather self-indulgent isn't it? It's obvious your fishing for compliments through some back door mechanism and its pretty vain to be honest. Stop looking for validation- deep down you know you're doing it and its not fooling anyone. 1
AlexDP Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Never broke up entirely. He was on a long, 2 month holiday, and we both wanted time to make sure we wanted to strive for a life long relationship. It is all good now. And he hates when guys like me or try to have sex with me (without much liking me haha) He has done well to put up with this, some guys have tried stuff on me with him right there. One of the things I like best about you is your imagination.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 One of the things I like best about you is your imagination. Please explain? What would you know about how my boyfriend feels about me. Your not him. For all you know he could be crazy in love with me; or, maybe he could be a serial killer for all you know. The thing is, your a stranger on the net, you simply have no grounds to suggest you know how he feels about me.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 (edited) Gotta agree with the numerous posters above re talking about your looks all the time. Over the past few months I've observed every thread you make starts with proclamations of how 'average' you are, then you go out of your way to explain what you like about your body and/or what men find attractive in you- it's all rather self-indulgent isn't it? It's obvious your fishing for compliments through some back door mechanism and its pretty vain to be honest. Stop looking for validation- deep down you know you're doing it and its not fooling anyone. Deep down I do not have any further thoughts on it. I seriously love life, and do not think about my looks. I am starting to find this discussion extremely boring. I do not watch top model shows; I prefer to learn more interesting things about the world. The ONLY reason I brought up my looks, is because: a few guys on here DID NOT believe that many men would find me attractive. This annoyed me, because I Hate when people online wrongly assume things. It annoys me the same way people who assume my boyfriend does not love me annoys me - the people who assume this are full of sh*t, and they should stick to topics they know the truth about. I Know what I look like - nice body, average face that is super hot to some, and super ugly to others. Just like most women. I Have no issues finding dates so I really do not want to bother talking about my appearance any more please. It is really boring. Edited March 2, 2013 by Leigh 87
TaraMaiden Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Leigh, here's a novelty. The way to prevent discussions like this occurring is to not begin them in the first place. And to also not continue perpetuating them. You don't have to reveal everything about yourself, or keep commenting. Simple. 7
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 You can get a pro who looks like a supermodel and still have money left over for that kind of cash. Totally! The high class ones are pretty much models who are students and need the money I would assume! He must have REALLY been turned off by the fact they sleep around regularly for money OR he is lying to me. Honest truth here; he has had a hard time finding girls he is attracted to around where we live.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Most people don't realize how hard dating is for men in general even the ones they would think have it made. The sterotypes really seam to be true! My boyfriend is very good looking (tall, nice face, talks to girls well) and yet he does not have hot girls throwing themselves at him! My boyfriends best friend is the sterotype of a man who gets all the hot women. He has the typical good looks that the hot girls want; manly jawline, thick manly eyebrows, nice but strong nose, etc.... Seriously! EVERY weekend he has a model hot girl over! His mates must get jealous!
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 I find it funny that women have a need to make sure we know they are attractive to men when they are unavailable making the point moot. Last time I was here a girl who chose to be voluntarily celibate was making the same point. None of your throng of men can have you so it doesn't matter. It is nothing more than hubris and reasserting one's assumed status. Annoyingly, it is mostly when I am in a relationship that the decent guys want me. I always start of as friends with them, they end up getting feelings. Where as when I am single, I probably get half as many men interested. Really helpful isn't it! I have heard other girls say it to (about men who want them more when they are in relationships)
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