snowflakes88 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Your right. I have a bad nose and feel cr@ppy about it. But in general, I feel pretty happy with the way I look, because I am healthy and have decent guys want to date me (not that I want them, since I am in a relationship). I am sorry I misunderstood you guys, it is just a few people on here have been a little shocked and in disbelief that guys in real life actually can find me hot; you know, they basically call me dellusional, when they are actually strangers over the internet who have no idea of how guys treat me in real life. I guess that annoyed me, and I thought you were also in doubt that many men in real life would actually find me attractive. You know - I would get it, if I had terrible skin and shocking teeth... but I do not see why some people on here have been shocked that some guys find me attractive in real life. That is all pretty much. Because people have different standards of beauty. People find different things attractive. The same girls that you've talked about in this very thread - the ones you claim are SO ugly and SO horrid that NO ONE could ever find them attractive - I bet someone, somewhere, would. You aren't the final authority on their level of attractiveness, the same way someone here isn't the final authority on yours. Some people will find you attractive and think those who find you unattractive are wrong/crazy. Others will find you unattractive and think those who find you attractive are wrong/crazy. Unless your self-esteem and self-worth are tied to others' opinions of you (and it seems to me that yours are) - none of it should make a bit of difference. Going on and on and on about how plenty of guys want to date you and find you so hot only makes you sound insecure and fishing for validation. If you're happy with you, let that be that and let the rest roll off your back.
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I am sorry I misunderstood you guys, it is just a few people on here have been a little shocked and in disbelief that guys in real life actually can find me hot; you know, they basically call me dellusional, when they are actually strangers over the internet who have no idea of how guys treat me in real life. I guess that annoyed me, and I thought you were also in doubt that many men in real life would actually find me attractive. Why do you care? For the record, I read every post in this entire thread, and I didn't see one single person question your looks or "hotness." In fact, I've followed many of your threads on here, and to be honest, I can't recall anyone calling you out for being "ugly" or not being able to get guys. Why are you so intent on asserting your "hotness" if you have so much validation in real life? Furthermore, why do you need so much third-party validation (both online and in real life) if you are content with yourself? As for the topic at hand...I don't even know what to say. I wouldn't even know how to react if I were in your shoes other than to laugh in hopes that the guy was joking and had a horrible and tasteless sense of humour. And then I would never speak to him again. This is really not normal social behaviour. 2
joystickd Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 At this point right now I would rather pay for it.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Kissandmake up - for some reason I thought people did not believe me when I said that some men found me attractive. That is all. I am finding it boring to talk about my looks anymore:sick: And I agree, it is not tastefull behaviour! The quality friends and people I know, do not go around.. asking people that sort of thing. I come across as very kind and un judgmental, and I DID once want to have sex parties and try orgies... I do not want to do this stuff NOW, but when I was a bit younger, in my early 20's and late teens, I did think I wanted to try some more wild sexual things. That is probably why he felt he could ask me, I am guessing; two years ago, when I brifely discussed my view on sex, I did say that I wanted to try a threesome and that type of thing! I think he got the impression that I was sexually " out there" a little. I can see why you would get offended and never talk to him again! I am not phased by him, because well.. It is not like we are good friends and I have to talk to him again if I do not want to. Socially deviant yes, but I am noy phased really. Come to think of it - he may not be a decent or quality guy, the type I would even like enough to sleep with. I say I would want a friends with benifits if I were single.. Well, I need to like and respect a person to sleep with them. I guess I thought " well, if he is decent enough and I was single, why not let him give me money to get sex, if we both enjoyed each others company?" Again - it also ties into the fact that I inbetween relationships, I would enjoy regular sex, but would not do it with varius men, and would instead, seek out a trusted friends with benifits ( until my next relationship) The arrengement may have suited me, and I would have chalked it up to an "interesting situation". Then again, based on the very fact he would ask this of me, he may nto be the type of guy I would have enjoyed spending time with enough to go through with it. Who knows. ........ I don't know. Maybe I should be more judgmental. lol.
PhillyDude Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Even though every female has a vagina, not all of them are sex material. So it is definitely hard
charlietheginger Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Good thing you didnt take money and screw him. This way you wont catch herpes and vaginal warts he has contracted by having sex with all those $250 a hour prostitutes.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 I think that is why he wanted to have sex with me, instead of paying a hooker who was also his physical type; he knew I did not sleep around. Which, in my opinion, would have been much more appealing than hiring a hooker. I am not sure if he already sees hookers? I just told him " hey, don't you have friend with benifits type of situations going on anyway? Your not a bad looking guy and your cool enough to be around..?" He just said " yeah but none of them are that hot and I would rather pay for what I want, than settle for people I am not that attracted to" I really wish people could just.... be themselves, and... not have thins holding them back from the people they are attracted to. Can one REALLY change what their attracted to? I know I DID; instead of only going for bogy buildar types of guys who were super fit and "hot", I met my boyfriend, was NO initially that attracted to him but I was still attracted enough to consider sex with him. I ended up REALLY, seriously attracted to my boyfriend, when I did not even find him attractive at first. I seriously think guys like the guy I wrote about in the OP, could lower their standards if they actually LIKED a girl a lot, and then saw her as much much more attractive than he did initially.... Of course you need a degree of attractivness there to begin with; I as not repulsed by my bf, I was turned on enough to be intimate with him, but I did not find him attractive initially. Now I can see he IS actually a good looking guy! I just had ridiculously high standards!!!!!!!!!!
Feelin Frisky Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 That happens a lot these days Leigh. A lot of dudes with money who won't miss it just boldly try to buy what they want. And tens of thousands of girls are paying for college these days by being bought by rich guys. There are lots of ethical concerns and I tend to wonder how those who lend themselves to that will return to reality when they don't get those big payoffs any more.
aed Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 OP, you make it seem (if he was dead serious) that he asked you this because he thinks you are special compared to a hooker. As a guy I can tell you that will never be the case. If he wants to experience payed sex, he would go to a 'proffesional'. If he is desperate he would go to a hooker. Because you have to have allot a balls to ask a random girl this... and be a social moron, because allot of girls i know, would never ever speak to me again. (I think, never asked this question!) Maybe he thinks its hot paying a normal girl for sex (allot of porn movies with this kind of thing. Guy pick up girl on the street, pays money for showing a boob, more money for touching, more for naked, more for sex), and thought that you might be into it, and had the 'balls'/nerve to ask. He will have the feeling that he has 100% power over you, and that is turning him on. He bought you then for that moment. Other option good be: he is very in love with you, thinks he will never have a change and so he is willing to pay for it. but when its not a joke... I think its the same as in those pornmovies or he is obsessed with you and a social moron.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Well if that is your point of view... I can say no more... I guess what ever I say will be of no use because your values and mine are totally in different poles but I do think you have a serious problem of self esteem and self worth if you think money can actually pay for having sex with you. Wish you good around your life but I think you will need to do a big grow up before you can actually enjoy life without having the up and downs that are shown in your posts. I probably wouldn't do it, since I find it hard to even have sex with men unless I am in a relationship with them. In 3 years I have only had sex with men I am either in a relationship with; or one man who I wanted to try a relationship with, and I knew and liked and respected. In theory I NEED the money, and would try a friend with benifits who paid me; when it came down to doing it, well, it would probably not be as easy.... I am just DESPERATE for money, you could say.. My mum looks after me, but I HATE taking it for granted, I look REALLY hard for work, I never go out or spend the money they give me on anything other than food and petrol when all my friends go out to concerts ( as they have part time jobs through college..) I WANT a stupid menial job SO BAD yet I cannot even find bar work or ANY lowly paid job just to get me through college/ University. .................................. Surely you can see that there are people who need the money, and a paid "friends with benifits" does not make a women a bad person... She could still be very nice, give to charity, be a joy to be around, and be a wonderfull person. She may not get around with a lot of guys either; like ME, she may just be DESPERATE for money, and has tried everything she can to get a menial job, but can't.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Animalover - I am very happy, so don't worry about that... I enjoy life so much. I have my dogs ( I DOGS so much, but other animals so much...) And I have a boyfriend who is in my life daily who is so great to have around... I have friends, a nice house, and my life is really great. I get annoyed when people say things about my looks, and I should not let them get to me - your right about that. My life is pretty great though, so really.. No need to feel sorry for me, since I am so happy. Perhaps if I did let him pay me for sex, even if the sex was enjoyable and we enjoyed our time together, then I would start to hate myself and lose respect for myself.
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I happen to know two university students who actually took to Pole dancing to raise money for their fees. They made a lot of money that way - and got their degrees. Both have jobs in their chosen fields. One has used her degree and is working. Her salary is adequate. The second still pole-dances. And is earning considerably more than she would, doing her day job alone. 1
Esoteric Elf Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Is it THAT hard for a normal looking guy to find a girl he is attracted to, to have sex with? The more you know!
Radu Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I wrote this thread because I seriously want to know how hard it is to find a decent girl to have casual sex with. I am a decent girl; I do not sleep around at all, I am fit, I have an interesting personality and a lot of people think I am really nice. Leigh ... good girl or not, please be honest ... were you flattered that he offered that much ? 1500 aussie dollars for one time seems like much to me, professional prices are lower than that.
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 When I really think about it - no I would not sleep for a guy for money. Animalover- Why do you keep mentioning that our values are so different? Sorry, it sounds condescending.. It sounds like you view your values as so superior to mine. What about your values are different to mine? I don't lie to people. I do not cheat on boyfriends. I am very nice to every one I interact with. I believe in giving to others. So WHAT exactly, about my values, are any different to yours? I do not sleep around, and have only had sex with guys I am in relationships with. I had a wild time in my teenage years, but I have changed now. So how, exactly are your values any different to mine? ........................................................ On another note, I would definately pole dance if I was pretty enough; I have the body, but my nose is sort of bad, so guys would probably not want to see me half naked, dancing. Pole dancing is serious - it is hard, it is an actual style of dancing that is very demanding and difficult to be good at.... My mother was a professional dancer for YEARS, and pole dancing was too hard for her really, as it requires a lot of strength to gracefully climb up a POLE. This one girl who was excellent at it that I saw - she was a former gymnast. Hence why she had the strength to just pull her self up.... They do it in revealing clothes yes, but I wear my bikini to the beach, so I see nothing bad about getting paid to be in your underwear, and doing a very challenging form of dancing that takes hard work to be good at. I take my hat off to the women who are good at pole dancing, actually! They look so good doing it, when they have good timing and are naturally adept at danving and moving!
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 Leigh ... good girl or not, please be honest ... were you flattered that he offered that much ? 1500 aussie dollars for one time seems like much to me, professional prices are lower than that. I was flattered that I found a guy who I am his ideal type; I am not universally attractive to a lot of men, therefore it is always nice to hear when I am indeed someones "type". Men who like thin blonde girls with blue eyes, and large boobs and a big butt. You know, there are many men who are not attracted due to my crooked nose, and there are MANY men who prefer petite girls with smaller breasts... So yes. It is always nice to know I am some guys type, because if I am single again someday, hey, I do not have to stress about winding up alone, since I always do find some men fancy me. Not HEAPS, but always some at least. Better than having no one interested in me? Not that I ever liked relationships of looked for them. Although I have since learnt that I love being in one, and although I will never seek one out, I would like to find one eventually, if I am ever single again. All that is just me being honest; I guess each person who fancies you, reinforces the notion that you will not.... end up alone? I am not very thin now, but when we met, I was very very small, and had a body that I simply know is very hard to attain ( most super slim girls do not naturally have a huge butt and huge boobs like I did when I was that thin) I think it is easy and likely that men with enough money would pay for a girl who met a strict physical criteria. He honestly told me that he had not found a girl who was as small as I was, and who also had bit boobs, and blonde hair.... And who was really nice. I believe him. I am not that special, but I guess he liked my criteria, and it happened to be too hard to find where we live. Perhaps in a large city he would find way more very thin girls who were also curvy and has long blonde hair? I am in a moderately populated area, I believe that had something to do with his desperation; definately in a large city, he would not have a shotage of those types of girls around.. Wheather or not he could score them without paying? It is pretty obvious; not many men score girls with strict criteria. They find loving partners from those they encounter, without seeking out some bombshell or some chick that has to look perfect to them.
amaysngrace Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I think you should be careful interacting with strangers that you meet over the internet Leigh especially if they want to meet you for sex. Didn't your parents ever teach you that?
iKING Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I think you should be careful interacting with strangers that you meet over the internet Leigh especially if they want to meet you for sex. Didn't your parents ever teach you that? She's a big girl, she can decide for herself if she wants to get lured into the van with promises of candy.. Isn't that a picture of Obama smoking a cigarette? 1
JamesM Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Question...out of curiosity, and if you said before, I apologize for asking again... What was your BF's response to this proposal? Would he not be somewhat agreeable to you doing this for money? Didn't he pay hookers for sex early on in your relationship? And weren't you okay with that? Wouldn't this be a great option for getting some income during some difficult times? He paid for sex and you receive money for sex. Couldn't you lay down some ground rules and come out $1500 richer. No offense intended. 1
amaysngrace Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Isn't that a picture of Obama smoking a cigarette? Yeah it is. Cute, right? I always forget how old she is.
SmileFace Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Am I the only one who would have been insulted at this offer? 3
ShannonMI Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Ohh she finds it flattering... But to find something offensive you need to consider a behavior wrong... she has said she would have considered to sleep with him for 1500$ if she didn't have a boyfriend.... I find it gross. Are we that desperate for attention and validation that if someone offers us money for sex because we are "hot", we consider it? That's just sad and screams of low self esteem. I personally think the guy was BSing her, but let her think otherwise. 2
amaysngrace Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Am I the only one who would have been insulted at this offer? I was offered to sleep with a gambler for money when I worked in the casino and I was highly offended to be thought so little of. You're not alone. 1
Sunfire73 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I too was offered by a sugar daddy in OKC online. He claimed he has just been divorced 3 months ago and just want to have sex no relationship. He specifically chose me because he wanted an Asian petite with nice legs...Umm no thanks... I have a nice paying job, and I wanted a relationship.
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