Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 :eek:Some guy I know wanted to pay me over 1000 dollars to spend a night with me! ....Because I am a nice and normal girl ( I do not sleep around and all guys who know me, know this fact) I am his type physically, and he cannot find any girl he is that attracted to to have sex with him on a regular basis! He is good looking, albiet 5'7 ish (which some girls are not into, but enough ARE), he has a steady job and income, there is nothing wrong with him, he is not undesirable in any way.... Well, he got talking to me on facebook last night. We do not normally talk. He he is just some guy I met online when I first moved to my current town. I stopped talking to him because I kept seeing another guy I met online. He basically asked to pay me 1500 dollars to have sex with me:eek: Is it THAT hard for a normal looking guy to find a girl he is attracted to, to have sex with? All I can think of is: I was very petite when we met, and he likes slim girls.. I also have clear skin, straight teeth, and was attractive to him ( I realise I am not hot to every one, but it seams that he could not find a girl who met that bare minumum criteria). I do not think I am hot personally - nor am I petite anymore, but mean when we met I was very petite, had clear skin and good teeth, and while that is not necessarily HOT, the guy could not find ANY other girls who had all of those physically characteristics. ...So... I was taken really aback, thinking that some men, especially men like him who have notihng seamingly bad about them, cannot find chicks who they are that attracted to, to have casual sex with? He was pretty embarrassed and he is not a jerk in general, or a player.... He did not want to sound bad. He said he has friends with benifits situations, but no hot girl is really into it, and that he has always wanted to f8ck me because he thinks I am hot and I am more his type than the girls who want to have sex with him. Of course I showed my boyfriend and will delete him next time I have time, because I would not want my boyfriend talking to a chick who asked to have sex with him. .......................................... Seriously guys, is it THAT hard to find the type of chick you find hot, to have a friends with beifits situation with? Personally, I tend to find a lot of men that are decent looking, who would have enjoyed a FWB with me? Like - they could see I did not sleep around, and would have been a fun girl to have sex with. If I were single, i would have a solid friends with benifits, because i would still want sex occasionally, but not with various men; I would rather a man I liked and trusted as a person, but who I did not have true feelings towards. I feel it is frustrating for many people out there, who cannot have sex with anyone thay are that attracted to... If I were single, I would be pretty annoyed if I did not have a trusted friend to have sex with to get me by until I found a guy I was in a relationship with... You know - it SHOULD take ages to find a person your truly into, and in the meanwhile, is it REALLY that hard to find a person your attracted to, to have casual/friendly sex with?
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Yes. It's hard for a lot of guys to find someone who they are very physically attracted to to have sex with regularly. But for just sex once, no. Tons of attractive prostitutes if you know where to look and live in the right place. Especially if you are into Asian or Latina women. For white women, it might be a little tougher. 1
dasein Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Not so sure the availability of sex is the issue here, but rather be very careful how you interact with this guy. He could be baiting you to tell people you are a prostitute for all you know. Would avoid any sex for money talk with him going forward, and probably avoid him altogether. 3
Els Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I think it would be difficult for most guys, especially inexperienced ones, to get into a casual sex arrangement, yes. But since you are in Aussie, prostitutes are legal and he should be able to get a night with one for a few hundred dollars. I guess he just wants the familiarity? Either way it's kinda creepy of him to say that to a friend whom he KNOWS has a bf, isn't it!?!? 1
mesmerized Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Oh man, you take things way too seriously. He said that to flatter you and basically tell you how hot you seem to him, doesn't mean he would actually go on to pay you that money for sex. If he did, I'm sure he'd made you do things you'd never wanna tell anybody It's hard for a lot of people (men or women) to find a person they are extremely attracted to to have regular GOOD sex with, due to many different reasons. Yes we all know for you it's so easy cause you're just the hottest thing out there but it's not like that for everyone. End of story.
2sure Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Some men prefer to pay for it and those are the excuses they use. It's certainly effortless. 2
CptObvious Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 $1500!? I need to send that man a brochure. 2
peacelight Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 One guy offered $1000 for my phone number to my ex boyfriend, so I guess this kind of stuff happens :eek:Some guy I know wanted to pay me over 1000 dollars to spend a night with me! ....Because I am a nice and normal girl ( I do not sleep around and all guys who know me, know this fact) I am his type physically, and he cannot find any girl he is that attracted to to have sex with him on a regular basis! He is good looking, albiet 5'7 ish (which some girls are not into, but enough ARE), he has a steady job and income, there is nothing wrong with him, he is not undesirable in any way.... Well, he got talking to me on facebook last night. We do not normally talk. He he is just some guy I met online when I first moved to my current town. I stopped talking to him because I kept seeing another guy I met online. He basically asked to pay me 1500 dollars to have sex with me:eek: Is it THAT hard for a normal looking guy to find a girl he is attracted to, to have sex with? All I can think of is: I was very petite when we met, and he likes slim girls.. I also have clear skin, straight teeth, and was attractive to him ( I realise I am not hot to every one, but it seams that he could not find a girl who met that bare minumum criteria). I do not think I am hot personally - nor am I petite anymore, but mean when we met I was very petite, had clear skin and good teeth, and while that is not necessarily HOT, the guy could not find ANY other girls who had all of those physically characteristics. ...So... I was taken really aback, thinking that some men, especially men like him who have notihng seamingly bad about them, cannot find chicks who they are that attracted to, to have casual sex with? He was pretty embarrassed and he is not a jerk in general, or a player.... He did not want to sound bad. He said he has friends with benifits situations, but no hot girl is really into it, and that he has always wanted to f8ck me because he thinks I am hot and I am more his type than the girls who want to have sex with him. Of course I showed my boyfriend and will delete him next time I have time, because I would not want my boyfriend talking to a chick who asked to have sex with him. .......................................... Seriously guys, is it THAT hard to find the type of chick you find hot, to have a friends with beifits situation with? Personally, I tend to find a lot of men that are decent looking, who would have enjoyed a FWB with me? Like - they could see I did not sleep around, and would have been a fun girl to have sex with. If I were single, i would have a solid friends with benifits, because i would still want sex occasionally, but not with various men; I would rather a man I liked and trusted as a person, but who I did not have true feelings towards. I feel it is frustrating for many people out there, who cannot have sex with anyone thay are that attracted to... If I were single, I would be pretty annoyed if I did not have a trusted friend to have sex with to get me by until I found a guy I was in a relationship with... You know - it SHOULD take ages to find a person your truly into, and in the meanwhile, is it REALLY that hard to find a person your attracted to, to have casual/friendly sex with?
SJC2008 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I don't know what your point in this thread is really?? Your FWB siuatons are differn in that they're monogamous which makes no sense because that's the same thing as exclusively dating someone. If you're talking about looks, yes they are very subjective when a person is not "universally" attractive. I personlly am not attracted to you with all due respect but am not surprised there are men who find you attractive. I've been told I look ugly, weird and creepy (in the same sentence lol), cute, handsome, gorgeous, fine, and movie star sexy so I apparently have the same range that you do! 1
ltjg45 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Yeah, it's pretty difficult to find a "normal woman" to have regular sex with. Ugly, crazy women who has baggage? Yeah, there is plenty of them around and always available. But ones who has their life in track, has self-respect, and can keep things on the down-low? Very few. And this is not considering her dating types since women, in general, does have much to risk losing during sex. So, honest, decent men will have problems, especially if they are inexperienced, like me.
crude Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Sounds like an expedited dating scenario. Confident man initiates, pays for the woman (no evil Dutch), has a good job. With dating, he'd be getting sex on the 4th-6th date anyway, and the woman wouldn't consider herself a prostitute, just a "lady" who deserves to be courted (paid for) before she gives it up. Whenever a man has to pay for a woman, the line between an offer for sex, dating with the man paying, marriage, and prostitution is erased.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 I wrote this thread because I seriously want to know how hard it is to find a decent girl to have casual sex with. I am a decent girl; I do not sleep around at all, I am fit, I have an interesting personality and a lot of people think I am really nice. I guess this guy just wanted a regular girl like me, rather than a hooker. ALSO - he did not know that I had a boyfriend. We seldom talk. You know - I have had sex with 3 men since I was 20, and I am 26 now.. I am very selective in who I am intimate with! I would say that this is way more appealing than just hiring a high class hooker, who may look better than me, but knowingly sleeps around with several guys a month!
CptObvious Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Sounds like an expedited dating scenario. Confident man initiates, pays for the woman (no evil Dutch), has a good job. With dating, he'd be getting sex on the 4th-6th date anyway, and the woman wouldn't consider herself a prostitute, just a "lady" who deserves to be courted (paid for) before she gives it up. Whenever a man has to pay for a woman, the line between an offer for sex, dating with the man paying, marriage, and prostitution is erased. time is worth a lot more than money
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 I don't know what your point in this thread is really?? Your FWB siuatons are differn in that they're monogamous which makes no sense because that's the same thing as exclusively dating someone. If you're talking about looks, yes they are very subjective when a person is not "universally" attractive. I personlly am not attracted to you with all due respect but am not surprised there are men who find you attractive. I've been told I look ugly, weird and creepy (in the same sentence lol), cute, handsome, gorgeous, fine, and movie star sexy so I apparently have the same range that you do! I totally know what you mean! This one guy did not change my perception of myself either. Neither did your response. I sort of already know what I am look wise.. I am not universally attractive (like the way you despcribe yourself not to be, either), however; more people tend to find me attractive, then a totally plain, average women would have... The thing is; a lot of women probably find you hot, where as there are also a good number who do not find you attractive... You are probably not completely plain and average looking "universally".. You may not be "universally" attractive, but you are not universally average either.. People would not reguarly tell you your not and gorgeous if you were " universally" plain and unremarkable looking to most people. I too, feel like I am in this predicament myself... I am treated like I am attractive by enough people, to not feel like I am totally " universally" plain and average. I am curvy, with an hour glass figure, and I love looking feminine and having long blonde hair, with light blue eyes.... Some men automatically find this to be beautiful to look at On the other hand, I will not be appealing to the men who prefer petite girls with brown hair and brown eyes! It is hard to say really.... I know I am not hot to every one or MOST men, but more decent/hot/kind men have wanted to be in relationships with me, than a totally average and plain girl would probably have..... Do you know what I mean? I have plain friends who have awesome personalities, and they do not half nearly as many hot men who ask to be in relationships with them. My plain friends do not get approached as much as I do. I put it down to this: I AM average, but I have certain traits about me that stand out in general, such as my body shape being desirable to a large cross section of men.... I think I am a plain girl with a couple of stand out features that stand out.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 More to the point - this guy is totally normal, he is cute and attractive to enough girls, so I would say his predicament is very common! Maybe a lot of men want a normal girl to spend sexy time with, instead of paying an actual hooker? I knew a lot of guys cannot get the type of women they are attracted to though... but this guy IS good looking enough, I would say, to get decent looking women to have sex with him? It might come down to an ongoing debate here; that it is easy for average looking girls to get sex or relationships from decent looking men, yet it HARD for most average men to get quality girls to have sex with or to date....
RachR Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 It's not men, it's just this one man, you talked to, this one time about it. And I doubt he was serious. 1
IndianGuy87 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 He's only 5'7 so that's a huge turn-off for almost all the guys unless he is really good looking. But I doubt he is since he is willing to pay a girl that much just for sex. There's poverty in Africa yet this fool wants to pay $1500 just for sex. Sad. Anyways yeah, unless you're a really good looking guy, tall, rich then it's quite impossible for a guy to not just get sex from a girl who he is attracted to but also a date.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 From what I have seen in my (albeit limited) time on this earth, it is the norm for men to fairly easily get a girlfriend or someone to have casual sex with (be it a FWB or a ONS). The guys I know who have a really hard time finding dates, relationships or sex are few and far between.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) I wrote this thread because I seriously want to know how hard it is to find a decent girl to have casual sex with. I am a decent girl; I do not sleep around at all, I am fit, I have an interesting personality and a lot of people think I am really nice. I guess this guy just wanted a regular girl like me, rather than a hooker. ALSO - he did not know that I had a boyfriend. We seldom talk. You know - I have had sex with 3 men since I was 20, and I am 26 now.. I am very selective in who I am intimate with! I would say that this is way more appealing than just hiring a high class hooker, who may look better than me, but knowingly sleeps around with several guys a month! Yes, it hard for an average guy to have casual sex. I'm not a ladies man, and have never considered a fwb. I've thought about it but I've never considered it. I wouldn't even know how to bring that subject up with a women with out getting slapped. For me to get laid I have to date and be patient. It's been almost a year since I've had sex, but I will never pay for sex. I do miss being close to a woman. Edited February 28, 2013 by Soxfaninfl
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 It's not men, it's just this one man, you talked to, this one time about it. And I doubt he was serious. I never said I thought I was super hot. That is not why I think he asked me. I think he asked me, because to HIM I am hot ( I do not think I am some model who all guys want) and I am a decent girl also; he cannot find any girls like me who want a casual sex arrangement or FWB. He wouldnt have paid that much I doubt, he was just trying to convince me to DO it after I said no way, I have a boyfriend.... There is no need to act shocked that some guys actually find me hot.
joystickd Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I don't think its hard depending on your location. I know for me its tough but it can happen. People are more relationship oriented than a FWB. I think he mainly wants to pay for no complications. It's just to avoid the eventual problems that occur with an FWB. In general men like that pay because its easier and less headache hence the allure of prostitutes for some men. It's less of the stress of rejection, feelings developed in a FWB, the other person's drama, etc that comes along with normal male to female interactions with the goal of sex.
TaurusTerp Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 No "game", no sex. Its pretty simple. Some guys are just bad with women.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 I don't think its hard depending on your location. I know for me its tough but it can happen. People are more relationship oriented than a FWB. I think he mainly wants to pay for no complications. It's just to avoid the eventual problems that occur with an FWB. In general men like that pay because its easier and less headache hence the allure of prostitutes for some men. It's less of the stress of rejection, feelings developed in a FWB, the other person's drama, etc that comes along with normal male to female interactions with the goal of sex. My own boyfriend was like that too, only he had money at one time and paid for hookers; he would have liked to meet a quality girl at the clubs he went to when he was young, but there were not girls he was that into, and he prefered to pay for a girl who did what he wanted with no hassel, instead of going after the lower quality girls who would agree to the one night stands..... He ended up picking hot women he was attracted to. Which he did occasionally pick up, but you know how it is - to get a casual fling, you may have to end up spending the whole night chatting up a girl your not that into, but who is hot enough to have sex with. I can see why he paid for sex. It is no big deal to me, although I realise a lot of men and women look down on it. It is not like my boyfriend is bad looking or bad with women at all.. he seriously could just not be bothered chatting up a girl all night, that was never usual that hot anyway, when he wanted to have a fun night with his friends. Of course, he said he would have LOVED it is a greal girl came along who he WANTED to actually spend his time with at the clubs; a girl he was attracted to, and who he really enjoyed hanging around.. Bottom line is: even guys like my boyfriend, who are not averse to finding the right girl, still enjoy casual sex. Not all attractive girls are also great people to hang around, and not all awesome people are that attractive. It is hard for some men to find a great girl they are into, who is also really attractive (to them). I can see why this guy was desperate, and asked me; I happen to be his type, and I am a nice girl who does not sleep around, and he liked being around me. I do not judge him or see it as wrong, the fact he just wanted a normal girl who he actually liked as a person and was attracted to, and would enjoy spending time with in addition to having sex with.
Taramere Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I never said I thought I was super hot. That is not why I think he asked me. I think he asked me, because to HIM I am hot ( I do not think I am some model who all guys want) and I am a decent girl also; he cannot find any girls like me who want a casual sex arrangement or FWB. He wouldnt have paid that much I doubt, he was just trying to convince me to DO it after I said no way, I have a boyfriend.... There is no need to act shocked that some guys actually find me hot. I don't think she was acting shocked that guys find you hot, but stating how much he'd be willing to pay to have sex with you is probably not the option most men would use to let you know they find you attractive. How did a Facebook conversation with this guy progress to the point where he would make that offer? Did he just blurt it out or were you discussing sex, physical attractiveness etc with him?
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 taramere - good question. I met him online two years ago when I moved to my town. I met him, he really liked me because I was his physical type, and he liked hanging out with me the one or two times we met up. I had met my boyfriend a few days earlier though, and ended up seeing him, and I am still with him now.... I cut contact with this guy, because I knew he wanted to have sex with me and obviously it is wrong to hang out with guys who feel that way about you. I had not talked to him for ages, in fact I thought I had deleted him on facebook, but it turns out I had not bothered.... He started off by saying hi, and then when he found out I was in college and desperate for a job, he was like " hmmm, well I am desperate for a girl like you to have sex with me, no girls available are any good, and I have always wanted to have sex with you, so........." I told him I had a boyfriend and there is no way I would do it, and that I would have to delete him now, but that I did not judge him for it at all. That is when he was like " you have always been my ideal type phsyically, so I am willing to pay _____ to spend a night or two with you, for company and sex" He has savings and a decent enough job; I doubt he would have paid that much though! Although I guess he was that desperate for sex from a women he was attracted to and liked to be around that maybe he would have?!!???!
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