Keenly Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Let's say your waiting in line at the grocery store, or anywhere really. A random guy in line behind initiates conversation, the topic being irrelevant, bit let's say he ends up making you laugh. Let's say the man is moderately attractive, between a 7 and 8. He is finny as previously mentioned, can make you laugh on the fly, carries good conversation etc. How does this make you feel about the situation as a whole. Good? Eager ? Feel like he is friendly and intriguing? creeped out? Just trying to get some opinions on how to approach a stranger.
Eggplant Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 If I'm single (which I am now) I think about giving him my number but then chicken out.
Lani Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 It all depends on if there's any initial attraction. You would know, by the body language though. If she keeps turning around and putting her back to you, then take that as a no and leave it. Too many guys make this creepy by not noticing this and taking it too far. What are you going to open with? 'Nice bananas'? ha!! I had supermarket flirtation once, but I didn't know where to take it. We were both getting avocados, and they all started to topple down the stand, and I said 'OH NO! AVOlanche!' Then was immediately embarassed, but he cracked up. Like Eggplant (so appropriately named for this thread..) said, it's hard to figure out how to give/get a number in a situation like that.
CptObvious Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Let's say your waiting in line at the grocery store, or anywhere really. A random guy in line behind initiates conversation, the topic being irrelevant, bit let's say he ends up making you laugh. Let's say the man is moderately attractive, between a 7 and 8. He is finny as previously mentioned, can make you laugh on the fly, carries good conversation etc. How does this make you feel about the situation as a whole. Good? Eager ? Feel like he is friendly and intriguing? creeped out? Just trying to get some opinions on how to approach a stranger. well you do look like a serial killer so that will either scare them off or make them fall in love with you. It really all depends on how ripped your arms are.
Author Keenly Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 Of course I'm gonna be able to read her response but before I actually do this i want to male sure that the act itself is labeled as creepy. I'm friendly and funny bit I'm shy. I'm also at the point where I understand I can't be sad about being alone if I don't try. So I'm trying to see if I should give this a shot .
Lani Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Of course I'm gonna be able to read her response but before I actually do this i want to male sure that the act itself is labeled as creepy. I'm friendly and funny bit I'm shy. I'm also at the point where I understand I can't be sad about being alone if I don't try. So I'm trying to see if I should give this a shot . Yup, give it a try! Report back
Ruby Slippers Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Of course I'm gonna be able to read her response but before I actually do this i want to male sure that the act itself is labeled as creepy. I'm friendly and funny bit I'm shy. I'm also at the point where I understand I can't be sad about being alone if I don't try. So I'm trying to see if I should give this a shot . Do it! The random chance approach is one of my favorites. I think it's romantic and sweet
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I wouldn't be creeped out. I'm generally a person who makes small talk with those around me in public if it's appropriate, so it would seem natural to me. I have to tell you though...there have been so many times when a guy has chatted me up and done nothing about it. Regardless of how much I smile (which I always do) and engage/reciprocate conversation-wise, a guy in one of those scenarios has never, ever asked me for my number or asked me out. Maybe they flat-our weren't interested in me and were just being friendly...which is fine, as I'm pretty friendly with everyone, too. But I'm also not the personality type to end with "well, this was fun, here's my number!" So if any those guys actually were interested, they didn't really do anything about it or get anything out of it. I guess my point is that if you develop a nice rapport with a girl, and she is smiling and engaging you, take the next step! (I can hear the "IT'S THE 21ST CENTURY GUYS SHOULDN'T HAVE TO TAKE THE LEAD GAWD YOU SPOILED ENTITLED PRINCESS" replies already - consider your point already noted) The worst thing that could happen is for her to say no - and then you're no worse off than you were before. 1
harnold Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I have to tell you though...there have been so many times when a guy has chatted me up and done nothing about it. Regardless of how much I smile (which I always do) and engage/reciprocate conversation-wise, a guy in one of those scenarios has never, ever asked me for my number or asked me out. I think you're reading too much into it. I don't think it has anything to do with them being intimidated. The type of guys that will start these conversations are generally just outgoing guys. I've done it before, but never with the intention of trying to do anything longer term with that girl. I guess it's just a way to engage the opposite sex, just for the heck of it. The time you spend talking to a girl in these type of situations isnt really long enough to provoke a spark in the guy, in terms of a desire of pursuing something further.
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I think you're reading too much into it. I don't think it has anything to do with them being intimidated. The type of guys that will start these conversations are generally just outgoing guys. I've done it before, but never with the intention of trying to do anything longer term with that girl. I guess it's just a way to engage the opposite sex, just for the heck of it. The time you spend talking to a girl in these type of situations isnt really long enough to provoke a spark in the guy, in terms of a desire of pursuing something further. I never said anything about them being intimidated. In fact I even said... Maybe they flat-our weren't interested in me and were just being friendly...which is fine, as I'm pretty friendly with everyone, too. I was just stating my experiences with these sorts of situations. I assumed the OP was interested in getting dates. Maybe I'm wrong. 1
2.50 a gallon Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am not a woman, so I cannot answer your question. What I can say is that I quite often started conversations with a woman in line and over the years have had great luck. In the past 3 years I had a 30 something with two young boys while shopping at a Goodwill ask me if I would like to go next door for a cup of coffee A 28 year old in a per shop ask me if I would like to come over and see her snakes. A 25 year old hit on me so I could teach her how to drive a 4-speed. And two 25 year olds standing in a long line at the grocery store invite me over to their place to share their beer and have a 3-some. None of the conversations were started with the purpose of trying to make time with them, I am taken. It was just to shoot the bull in a long line. Oh by the way, I am retired, an short, and finally got my weight up to 160, with my white hair and beared paint me blue and I would look like a smurf. The three some started out when I asked her about her unique looking tatto, which led to talking about old R&R music, like Fleetwood Mac, and them saying they wanted to f*ck a guy who lived thru the 70's. 1
Michelle83 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Let's say your waiting in line at the grocery store, or anywhere really. A random guy in line behind initiates conversation, the topic being irrelevant, bit let's say he ends up making you laugh. Let's say the man is moderately attractive, between a 7 and 8. He is finny as previously mentioned, can make you laugh on the fly, carries good conversation etc. How does this make you feel about the situation as a whole. Good? Eager ? Feel like he is friendly and intriguing? creeped out? Just trying to get some opinions on how to approach a stranger. I'd feel good, more excited than anything. I don't know I'd be brave enough to give him my number though. He'd have to ask and then I would give it I think as long as I felt a good click with him and was looking to date.
thecrucible Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'd just think it was friendly banter and I'd only try to take it further if I found the guy attractive. 1
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