Girlfriend wants to be alone- isn't ready for a relationship

[UltimaWeapon]

Hey everyone,

 

I am in a really weird situation. I have been seeing this girl for about 3 months now and before that she was in a on again off again relationship with a guy for about 3 years. When we first started hanging out I could tell she wanted me and I wanted her, but she was still in a relationship with that guy. ( he is overseas and is not coming back). The best way to approach this situation in my mind was to tell her to break up with him once and for all if she wants to be with me. She says a lot of people have wanted her to do that, and where in my position but she never did until I came along. I felt pretty good that she was able to do something that she felt was 2 years over due. She said it was a terrible relationship and she didn't know what she was doing with him.

 

The first 2 months were amazing, she would see me all the time in between classes, she would want to do everything and go everywhere we could. She is not allowed to date me because of difference in religion so we had to keep it a secret from her parents. I was fine with that, I knew I had no choice.

 

I fell hard and I fell fast.. She is the first real relationship since my ex of 4.5 years which ended 2 years ago. I have been single since then so it was all just something I waited for a long time to happen.

 

About 2 weeks ago. She tells me how she wants to have more time to herself, she doesnt wana lie to her parents anymore and she wants to be able to not have to see me everyday like it's an obligation. I was really taken back because I never forced her to come see me if she didn't want too. I felt like she took it way too far and was demanding we see each other less when I dont even see her fridays, saturdays or sundays and the only time I would was in between classes Mon-Thurs. I really didn't see the problem here but I went along with it and said ok.

 

However, the problem now is that she put everything before me she didn't even want make plans and I kept figuring out she was lying about what she was doing to hang out wit these "guy friends" of hers that I knew some. However, I couldn't take it anymore and we ended up getting into an argument and out of no where she just said I need to be alone. I am not ready for a serious relationship anymore, not now. I'm still not over my past one. It is too soon. She tells me she wants to have me in her life and that we can be close but she doesn't want a relationship anymore. She says when she is ready she wants to be with me again. She still wants to talk, hang out and chill but isn't ready for a relationship??

 

However, this leaves me in a really weird position where I have no clue how can someone go from wanting to be with you all the time to this?? Is there someone else involved? Why would this happen like this out of nowhere? She has completely changed in the past 2 weeks and it seems like she just does not care about saving what we have. She even takes ages to reply to texts now, is hanging out wit random guys again. I just don't like the situation at all and don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated

[Toddbt12y1]

Um. How old are you two? What is her religion? Is she muslim? They are strick on outter religion affairs.