Robertowenthebest Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) Hi guys, I've only used this place once before, so go easy! I apologise if this is a bit long - I like to include detail in case it matters! Recently I (age 19, in case it matters) went on a date with a girl who I previously went on a date with about 1-2 years ago, and haven't really seen properly since. It went really well, she even said what a nice time she had on the date 2 years before, and it ended with her telling me to let her know when I'm around another weekend (I'm at uni during the week). About a week later I texted her asking if she'd be around the following weekend to meet up, but she didn't answer. 4 days later, at the beginning of the weekend in question, I sent her a Facebook message saying my phone was messed up (it was at that point!), and was just checking if she was free at the weekend - no worries if not. She responded that day saying "I'm afraid not this weekend sorry!" blah blah blah, then "maybe next week? xx" I then replied about a day later saying "No worries, find out if you'll be free at all then I'll get hold of you later in the week xx" Now, tomorrow is Thursday and I'd like to meet her this weekend for maybe a meal, or something cheesy like bowling! Does she seem interested at all, and how, if at all, should I contact her. I'm currently thinking I'll just call her, and say "Hey, so are you around this weekend - I was thinking of taking yo bowling/for a meal etc" Cheers guys, your opinions will be very much appreciated - I know I'm useless at this! Edited February 28, 2013 by Robertowenthebest
Eggplant Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 She sounds interested. It's often hard to tell because some women intentionally keep a lid on their emotions so they don't scare men away. The fact that she tried to arrange another get-together instead of simply cancelling is a good sign. You should give her a call. Thursday, however, seems a little late to be setting up a date for that weekend. You pick a day for the next weekend and specifically ask her about it. I don't recommend telling her to tell you when she is free, because this makes it hard and more awkwrd for her to turn you down, if that is what she wants. As far as whether she is worth pursuing, only you know that. Do you really like her?
wahine Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) She responded that day saying "I'm afraid not this weekend sorry!" blah blah blah, then "maybe next week? xx" I then replied about a day later saying "No worries, find out if you'll be free at all then I'll get hold of you later in the week xx" Now, tomorrow is Thursday and I'd like to meet her this weekend for maybe a meal, or something cheesy like bowling! Does she seem interested at all, and how, if at all, should I contact her. I'm currently thinking I'll just call her, and say "Hey, so are you around this weekend - I was thinking of taking yo bowling/for a meal etc" I don't know, to me it sounds like she's lost interest, as she's not really putting in any effort to help you along with the planning... But I may be wrong. I'm a pretty forward person when I'm interested, but I know some female friends who aren't, and they don't initiate anything until much further along in the dating process. I will never understand this. If you like the person, act like it! But I digress... I agree with the other poster that Thursday is a little late. If I were you, I'd wait until Monday, then send her one more message asking about this upcoming weekend. If she says she's busy and makes no further effort to schedule another time during which you are free, I'd cut your losses and move on. As far as whether or not she is worth pursuing... My philosophy is, even if someone's really spectacular, if they don't think the same of you, what good are they to you? Edited February 28, 2013 by wahine grammar nazi'd myself
Author Robertowenthebest Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 Thanks Well I do really like this girl, and I'd like to see her again to at least find out if she is interested or not. This should be enough notice, as I'm only available on Sunday, so I reckon if I ask today (Thursday) it shouldn't be too late. With regards to contacting her - we normally use text or Facebook to contact each other, but I'd like to get a definite answer out of her. Should I text her, or should I call?? I'm always concerned that calling will be awkward, as we've never spoken on the phone before.
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