Patrice Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 If you're dating and it starts getting stale, and you decide it isn't working for whatever reason, and move on - become happy and well with the decision. Why do they always try again? Is it the thrill of the chase stuff?
truth_seeker Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 If you broke up with the guy, then he would want a shot at redemption. No one likes being dumped. It's an ego thing. 1
Author Patrice Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 It seems to be a pattern with men, maybe women I don't know ... you make a decision, that it isn't working and voila, is it that they miss you, or is it the loss of something or just not wanting to let anyone else into your life ...
Soxfaninfl Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 If you broke up with the guy, then he would want a shot at redemption. No one likes being dumped. It's an ego thing. This is not true for all men. It's not about ego. I would love to be able to see my 9 year old son all the time like when I was with his mother. I would love to work things out with her if I could. I never wanted my son to come from a broken home.
nessaaa Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Because they see that youre okay without them and its like o_0 So they want a second try in ****ing your life up. 1
Soxfaninfl Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 (edited) What's stopping you Sox? Trust me Patrice I tried so hard to save my marriage, but I failed. There was another man involved which made it even harder. We've been apart now for three years. Divorced for one year. She's still with this guy. He's a down grade from me looks wise. I really don't know what the hell she sees in him? Maybe if she single in the future, and I haven't found someone I'll give it another try. I would love to have my family whole again. Edited February 27, 2013 by Soxfaninfl
Author Patrice Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Sox, I don't know your story .. but, you have to move on.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Sox, I don't know your story .. but, you have to move on. I would have moved on a long time ago, but I have son with her. I will always be tied to her, so it makes it difficult to.
runningfar Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 One of my best friends has this incessantly... Boy breaks up with her after year+ dating. She goes about her business. They try everything to get her back. If she does, they dump her again some point later. It's been 6 times, every relationship she has been in, just like that. Well, a couple times, they came back a second time begging. She is happier and more confident single. She gets a LOTof attention. I wonder if that is it. The guys are spurred by the competition but they just don't mesh really. I hope she finds someone who she does mesh with. She's a great girl.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Men try to get back with you when they couldnt get something better happening, thats all.
Treasa Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 This is not true for all men. It's not about ego. I would love to be able to see my 9 year old son all the time like when I was with his mother. I would love to work things out with her if I could. I never wanted my son to come from a broken home. Please keep making that effort, hard as it is. I didn't have a good father, and I stayed away from him due to my own choice, but not having a father did cause me some problems. As to the original post, I agree that if it's not working with someone you're just dating and you aren't happy, then move on. Just don't do the breaking up/getting back together thing over and over again. 1
StanMusial Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 If you're dating and it starts getting stale, and you decide it isn't working for whatever reason, and move on - become happy and well with the decision. Why do they always try again? Is it the thrill of the chase stuff? I don't think it is thrill of the chase. That ends when you catch her the first time. I think some people, men and women, try again for a variety of reasons. I know some people do it because they have a lot of time and effort invested in the relationship and they want to salvage that. Some people may do it because they may leave and realize the grass is not greener so they come back. Some people may come back because they get lonely. Some people come back because the relationship is comfortable and stable and they fear the unknown.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Please keep making that effort, hard as it is. I didn't have a good father, and I stayed away from him due to my own choice, but not having a father did cause me some problems. I have my son 50% of the time, but I miss him when he's with his mother. I missing him half of his life. I love being a dad. I just miss having my family whole. It sucks because I didn't grow up like he's growing up. My parents are still together after 40 years of marriage.
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