WildWildWest Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Was having a convo via txt yesterday with the guy I have been seeing for a while.. during the convo he sent me a txt that said "I hope your day is going better than yesterday, please be safe driving home" Now I knew that txt wasnt meant for me.. so I said "Ummm.. wrong person" he replied with "lol yeah" so I asked if he had someone else and he said that the txt was meant for his mom, that she was up here visiting and she was headed back home. of course I didnt believe it and I blew up and said some things I shouldnt have, now he isnt speaking to me.. Whats the chances the txt really was for him mom or it was really meant for another girl and he's mad cuz he got busted.
MidwestUSA Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Śounds like it was meant for his mom, and you overreacted. Do him a big favor and dump him, jeez! How dare he have a mother! Maybe he has sisters he will show concern for as well. Don't wanna take that chance. 3
todreaminblue Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Was having a convo via txt yesterday with the guy I have been seeing for a while.. during the convo he sent me a txt that said "I hope your day is going better than yesterday, please be safe driving home" Now I knew that txt wasnt meant for me.. so I said "Ummm.. wrong person" he replied with "lol yeah" so I asked if he had someone else and he said that the txt was meant for his mom, that she was up here visiting and she was headed back home. of course I didnt believe it and I blew up and said some things I shouldnt have, now he isnt speaking to me.. Whats the chances the txt really was for him mom or it was really meant for another girl and he's mad cuz he got busted. it was a very caring text with no hints of anything but.......i think you owe him an apology and i hope it works out for you.....deb 1
Quiet Storm Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 His story sounds feasible. Sounds like a mom text. Why don't you trust him?
Author WildWildWest Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Idk why I didnt believe him when he said it was for his mom, not even sure why I dont trust him.. I guess because of my past experiences with other men. I feel bad now tho cuz we work together and when I seen him today he didnt speak or even look at me. I was supposed to go over his house tonight but now I'm affraid to even get in contact with him
curlygirl40 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Like the other poster I have to ask 'Why don't you trust him?' I think there's a story here you're not telling because it seems like an overreaction. Why did your mind immediately go there? Is there a reason?
Author WildWildWest Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 I guess I overreacted because about 6 months ago he did the same thing except he sent me a txt saying "I need the best way to approach a woman for her number" clearly he wasnt supposed to send that to me, that time he said he was asking his cousin that question because someone asked him. So I guess when it happened this time I assumed he was lying this time and the last time.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Was having a convo via txt yesterday with the guy I have been seeing for a while.. during the convo he sent me a txt that said "I hope your day is going better than yesterday, please be safe driving home" Now I knew that txt wasnt meant for me.. so I said "Ummm.. wrong person" he replied with "lol yeah" so I asked if he had someone else and he said that the txt was meant for his mom, that she was up here visiting and she was headed back home. of course I didnt believe it and I blew up and said some things I shouldnt have, now he isnt speaking to me.. Whats the chances the txt really was for him mom or it was really meant for another girl and he's mad cuz he got busted. I think your overreacting. That is a harmless text that could be sent to anyone that is a family member or a (non-girlfriend) friend. Has he ever lied to you before? How long have you been dating?
Author WildWildWest Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 No, he hasnt lied to me, at least as far as I know.. We have been dating on and off for 3 years. I really dont know what made me act like that. I said some pretty mean things to. I guess I just assumed the worst.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Well all you can do is apologize and tell him your sorry. He'll get over it. I imagine he's a big boy lol.
ChatroomHero Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I guess I overreacted because about 6 months ago he did the same thing except he sent me a txt saying "I need the best way to approach a woman for her number" clearly he wasnt supposed to send that to me, that time he said he was asking his cousin that question because someone asked him. So I guess when it happened this time I assumed he was lying this time and the last time. That seems pretty shady, I can't imagine the situation where someone asks me how to get a woman's number and I need to text someone else to ask. Doesn't seem very plausible. 1
Casablanca Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Don't worry about it...I'm like that with a couple of my female friends and I could see how someone would say that to their mom
SJC2008 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 If things are very early on I could understand your mind getting the worse of you but if yall have been dating 3+ months I'd say there's a trust issue here, be it your own trust issues or that he's given you reasons not to trust him. How long have yall been dating? Has he given you reasons not to trust him>
noble Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 OP, I think you're right not to trust him. First off.. not many guys text with their moms. and the context of the text seems more like something you'd send to a girl. then when you called him on it and he said "lol yeah" like ..lol oh **** I got caught. why lol? thats just weird. plus the whole story about how to ask a girl for a number and then saying someone else asked him is a total lie. that makes no no sense at all. he's a total liar. don't trust him. you blew up because you sensed it, and you know in your gut that it wasn't for his mom it was for some girl he's "talking to" that was venting about their day. i dont know many moms that vent to their sons through text message. what a liar. 7
Art_Critic Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 First off.. not many guys text with their moms. I text my Mom all the time, she is in her late 70's too OP, everyone deserves to make a mistake and not get chastised over it. I say you apologize and make amends for your over-reaction, no matter who the text was for it is an over-reaction as you have no way to know who it was meant for. Only that it wasn't meant for you. 2
runningfar Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Was having a convo via txt yesterday with the guy I have been seeing for a while.. during the convo he sent me a txt that said "I hope your day is going better than yesterday, please be safe driving home" Now I knew that txt wasnt meant for me.. so I said "Ummm.. wrong person" he replied with "lol yeah" so I asked if he had someone else and he said that the txt was meant for his mom, that she was up here visiting and she was headed back home. of course I didnt believe it and I blew up and said some things I shouldnt have, now he isnt speaking to me.. Whats the chances the txt really was for him mom or it was really meant for another girl and he's mad cuz he got busted. Overreacted unless there's a lot missing. It sounds like a viable story. Also, there's nothing in that text that would bother me if it were to a friend, male or female, either.
Author WildWildWest Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 As I sit back and reflect on the whole situation I really dont even know why I reacted the way I did.. I guess my temper got the best of me. I guess he has plenty reason to be mad at me and I suppose I should apologize.. I just really dont know what to say, sorry for acting like an idiot?
Soxfaninfl Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 As I sit back and reflect on the whole situation I really dont even know why I reacted the way I did.. I guess my temper got the best of me. I guess he has plenty reason to be mad at me and I suppose I should apologize.. I just really dont know what to say, sorry for acting like an idiot? All you have to say is I'm sorry. I overreacted, and I apologize for saying the hurtful things that I said. Tell him you love him too. You have never given me a reason not to trust you. I just felt insecure at the time. Something along those line will be fine.
Author WildWildWest Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 Thanks for the advice.. Guess I better get my apology together.. it makes things so awkward when we arent talking since we work together.. I hate having to see him and him have to deal with me directly and he doesnt speak or even look at me.. thats how I know when he's really upset
NervisPervis Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 As I sit back and reflect on the whole situation I really dont even know why I reacted the way I did.. I guess my temper got the best of me. I guess he has plenty reason to be mad at me and I suppose I should apologize.. I just really dont know what to say, sorry for acting like an idiot? I don't know. DID you overreact? Or maybe UNDER reacted to this one. That's why he feel he can approach other women still. You let him. I guess I overreacted because about 6 months ago he did the same thing except he sent me a txt saying "I need the best way to approach a woman for her number" clearly he wasnt supposed to send that to me, that time he said he was asking his cousin that question because someone asked him. So I guess when it happened this time I assumed he was lying this time and the last time. "Sorry honey. But I've had problems with men in the past and you seem to have problems with boundaries. Would you mind if we went back and looked at 6 months worth of your text history? That Mom excuse MAY pan out, but I need to see the text you sent to your mom right after you accidentally texted me. AND I want to see where you text your mom regularly. Sorry again, it's just that I hate being lied to**". **(Not only was "I was asking for a "friend" how to hook up with girls" a lie, but it implies he wants to hook up with girls. So yes, you guys have issues. You need to talk. You do NOT need to just roll over). 1
NervisPervis Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Thanks for the advice.. Guess I better get my apology together.. it makes things so awkward when we arent talking since we work together.. I hate having to see him and him have to deal with me directly and he doesnt speak or even look at me.. thats how I know when he's really upset Hmm. You're the bad guy. Funny how cheater scripts are all the same.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) Oh wow I know the feeling. My ex-wife and I work at the same company. I got her a interview back in 2007, and she got hired. We separated in 2010 (her choice) and divorced in 2011. It's tuff for me cause I see her ever so often, and we email each other sometimes for work stuff. I still miss her and care about her. Our relationship now is an acrimonious relationship. We only speak when it's regarding our son via text or email. We don't even day hello to each other when we see each other. I want as little contact as possible. I won't date were I work ever again. I learned my lesson. It's hard if you break up and have to see each other. Plus, everyone knows your business if your going through a break up/divorce. Edited February 28, 2013 by Soxfaninfl
Author WildWildWest Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 Omg yes.. it is soooo difficult and I will NEVER do it again.. We have had our problems these past few years and I hate the fact that when I'm trying to let go and move on I have to see him everyday, next thing you know we are back together. I guess the outta sight outta mind thing really is true. The terrible thing about it is he really hasnt given me any reason to think he is lying, he doesnt have a horrible reputation like some men. He's actually quite different. I guess I just assumed the worse cuz I know how other men in my past have been and I work with all men and I see how they are.. I guess if I was him I would be pretty mad to, especially with the stuff I said. I hate when he's mad, he's so intimidating. Idk if I should wait for him to cool off and then apologize or just go ahead and do it now.
Author WildWildWest Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 Yes this is the MAIN reason I dont believe him this time.. All because of that txt 6 months ago.. I never really got to the end of that one either. first he told me the story he was asking his cousin for someone else but then when I blew up and ended things with him he kinda confessed he did lie, but not in so many words.. he said he messed up but he wasnt giving up that easy, and over a period of time we ended up getting back together. This time the txt could have very well been for his mom but I still have the doubt in my mind. I guess thats why I'm not totally sure if I over reacted or if I was right all along.
MidwestUSA Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Given ONLY the information in your first post, you overreacted. The info you have given us since given tells us that you are suspicious. Whether that is warranted or not is for you to decide. After three years, you should have a good gut feeling about it. If what happened six months ago wasn't (and still isn't) properly resolved, this incident is going to creep into any future misunderstandings you two have. You are either going to have to choose to trust him, let these incidents go and move forward together, or just move on! Because life is going to throw you much bigger curves later.
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