cheche Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 Hi, I started dating a guy about two months ago (no relationship, just dating). We had a couple of nice dates together. HE even initiated our first kiss on our first date. There was a time where he and I would talk almost everyday. Well about a month ago we were spending time together and he told me that he really liked me a lot that I was the first girl he has really liked in a long time. But, right now he can't be involved with me. He say that he is going through a lot of changes and that he is "unreliable" and "unpredictable". What does that mean? He also says he wants me to go out there and meet other people. If he likes me so much, why is he saying this? Why did he even bother dating me? Right now we talk every once in a while. I haven't brought what was said, in while. I tried seeing other people, but the guys I've met have not been my type. Do you all think he's being honest with me?
uriel Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 Well, he's honestly telling you that he doesn't want a relationship right now. Which means when he dates women he usually does it just for the sex. He likes you enough to tell you he doesn't want to use you. He's trying to be a nice guy. Time to move on. He's not ready for a relationship at this point in his life. If you pursue this, you'll just end up hurt. -- uriel
Barby Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 Originally posted by uriel Well, he's honestly telling you that he doesn't want a relationship right now. Which means when he dates women he usually does it just for the sex. He likes you enough to tell you he doesn't want to use you. He's trying to be a nice guy. Time to move on. He's not ready for a relationship at this point in his life. If you pursue this, you'll just end up hurt. -- uriel That sounds about right, it seems like he is trying to do the "decent" thing by being honest and you should respect what he's told you and not try and change his mind about being with you. I am not saying that you are in fact trying to do this but if it would be something you're considering doing....don't! I agree that if you continue to pursue this more likely than not you will end up hurt and coming back asking "why did he do this to me". Move on and find someone who's at a point in their lives where they want the same things in a relationship that you wants as well.
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